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by hexeluna on February 14th, 2008
First, don't cheat yourself out of real love by sinking back into a comfortable situation that might not ultimately be right for you. After you think really hard about your reasons for wanting to try again, if you still feel like you can make it work this time, then tell him how you feel. Take it from me and don't wait until things are too serious with the new girlfriend. My ex and I will always be very much in love with each other, but we sufferred with a case of bad timing and good manners. We broke up because we were too young, both trying to find our own way in life, not ready to make things permanent and not wanting to tie each other down. Then he started dating someone, by the time he broke up with her, I started dating someone, and the cycle continued for a few years. We both kept our mouths shut. Now he's married and I am in a serious relationship and we both have kids. But we do bump into each other sometimes and the connection between us is as evident as it ever was. We will always be in love with each other and now it's too late.
by breaktheice. on April 22nd, 2008
Yeah. I think you should tell him and all but know that things may change after you do and he might not feel the same. But I say take a chance.. Who knows.. Maybe he feels the same.
by Piratebooty on October 17th, 2009
Well, just because he cares for you does not mean he wants to be with you, or even loves you. He is now with someone else and I am sure if he still wanted to be with you, he would more than likely not be with her and come back to you. You could always mention how much you miss and care for him, but don't push the issue.
by Mr Mitchell on September 25th, 2009
Yes! Only because I have been the guy in this exact situation, where I have to settle for something else when I really want the "real thing". lol - my ex who I still care about. Tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels. Problem solved.
by Butterfly on April 23rd, 2008
if told you that he cares about you it doesn't mean that he is still loves you ... and has some feelings for you... don't do anything stupid don't tell him about your feelings... you not sure if he loves you back... you have to know first and be sure about his feelings
Good Luck :)
by Avro Arrow on October 17th, 2009
Well first off, if you still love him then you're not friends. Secondly, how did the relationship end and why do you still love him?
by Treval on October 3rd, 2009
I would hesitate since you have said that he's seeing someone else, as that usually means that a person has moved on and really is no longer interested in dating you. Because of that, if you were to approach him, and that *is* the case, it could affect your current friendship with him badly. So, I'd figure out if your willing to lose his friendship because of it first.
Also, if you approach him while he's seeing his current girl, and try to rekindle the 'flame' you would be interfering in his current relationship, and he might not appreciate that.
All in all, I'd say just be careful, and think long and hard before you make a decision to try it.
by BluBerri Darci on September 29th, 2009
if both of you are still in love then u both should see if the fire is really out and find out why you tried to move on in the first place. Was it really worth u guys breaking Up?
by betony24.rei-chan on September 25th, 2009
there's always that chance waiting. you just decide if you want to take it or not.
by Day-dreamer...head is in the clouds on September 25th, 2009
yeah, Suny Forget...is right, i am a woman speaking from experience, of course you still have feelings, did he break up with you. it is real good to be able to maintain a friendship. dont take one step over that line no matter what your feelings are. i have tried it and it only made me look desperate, when that is not the case, i just wanted HIM back and no one else, but it doenst translate as that. keep it like it is and dont do anything else, its Gods plan and what will happen is up to him he will make that life for you if that is what he thinks is best for you, everything happens for a reason. hope i helped.
by Suny on September 25th, 2009
Would it suprise you if he already knew how you felt? I've notice those in your situation push the friends issue and ignore the break up issues. An attractive image to leave with your ex is that you will be fine with or without them, but you have to mean it.
by Mr Mitchell on September 25th, 2009
Yes. If it doesn't work out you need to move on. Find someone that will make you happy like he did.
by biggirlinabigworld on May 5th, 2009
i know exactly what that feels like...and it can be heart breaking. seeing its been a while since you posted this question, it would be interesting to hear what happened next. Im in the same fix and the internal debate between the heart and pride is intense.
by robbie roberto on December 31st, 2008
date someone else
by anonymous on December 31st, 2008
Yes, tell him how you feel. However, the fact he is dating someone else shows his feelings might not be that great for you. Why did you break up?
Actions speak louder than words. If he really loves you, I do not think he would be dating someone else.
by Answers101 on April 19th, 2006
You might wish to share your feelings because it's always good to air things out; however, I wouldn't recommend trying to re-kindle anything.
If it didn't work out the 1st time, you're better off NOT trying to get back together because more than likely, you'll end up breaking up again.
Bottom line: Save yourself some heartache--tell him how you feel, but don't get back together because chances are, it won't work out.
Good luck & I hope that helps!
by AhMeD_2_3 on January 14th, 2005
You should tell him, don't keep feelings like that bottled up. It is ok to tell him If he is only dating the other girl and not engaged or married. He can then take your feelings into consideration and hopefully he makes a good decision and come back to you. Good luck!
by AnonymousGirl on October 17th, 2009
No. It actually sounds like you should stop talking to him so much.
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by The nat on November 2nd, 2009
let him know but be careful you dont want him angry might be a good idea to let his relationship fade away if he still cares he will come back be his friend but move in with careing and be careful not to let him know what you are tryin to do good luck you also might have to move on it sucks but it happens
by sandradd2000 on April 4th, 2011
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by Gizzybee on November 2nd, 2009
Looking it from your ex point of view, I am no longer in love with my ex, he is still in love with me.
In the mean time we stayed friends and became actually very good friends. He knows about my new man and totally says he accepts it but tells me he isn't ready to move on because he is madly in love with me. The only problem is it confuses me because as much as I care for him and think of him as a friend,the love I feel for him is no more than brotherly love and it only makes things worse because i so much want to make a new life with my new partner. i hate to hurt anybody and would hate to just cut him off so the best thing is if I were you, I would want to know for sure how he feels for you. If he feels what I feel then don't go there, only because as much as I care for my ex, it bothers me that I can't move forward with my life. And sooner or later the so called buddy friendship will have to be cut off even if its not what I want. But if he truly shows me friendship and only friendship than things can work out great. If he can't accept friendship only and doesn't accept my moving on, it will make me resent him for not allowing me to move on...
by Sharona Life is a Tale Told by an Idiot on November 14th, 2009
Not a great idea if he is enamoured with this girl, it won't help your case. Stay on the sidelines, be his friend and get going on your own dates for now. If you are meant to be the window of opportunity will open but don't force it.
by Anonymous on November 14th, 2009
The reason he is your ex is because he has already found out about your secretly dating the postman,and the local sausage maker.
I believe if you really love him .....you understand that he is far better off without you.
And for your sake ....stick with your new boyfriend ...the fat tele marketer......
at least he is just a phone call away.
by jsamuel1976 on February 10th, 2011
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by Garm on November 2nd, 2009
True love is rare. Pursue it at all costs because you may not ever find it again. You may find generic love, but that's much easier to find.
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by denidowi on October 17th, 2009