no hun you are not wierd at all alot of guys go throught that. maybe it because its not the right person or maybe you should see a doctor if all else fales have you special friend do something that will get you turned on...

No, you're just immature.

smashing? that description of your sexual intercourse alone is very telling...maybe you place more emphasis on yourself than the female...apparently you can get yourself off..so you must be into yourself with an inflated ego, then you consider sex to be "smashing it" which says loads about your ego...babies come out of those things man, you ain't "smashing" nothing. So I would guess that either you place more emphasis on yourself during sex than your partner and you probably aren't getting her off so it's not getting you off...or your partner is just lying there (probably because you are more interested in yourself and use words like smashing to describe your intercourse)...or you are indeed gay and need to come to terms with it...it's ok.

You're only weird if I'm weird. My wife has only gotten my off, by herself, twice in ten years. I don't know why, but I have some sort of mental block about it. I've found that by shutting off the old brain, I've been able to get much closer and even attain release by her hand/body. I've quit masturbating, which did nothing but give me blue balls. I've spoken to therapists. I've tried sex or foreplay with porn on the TV. We do a lot of foreplay for both of us, but when she wants me to cum, we do more for me. Sometimes, she'll lay next to me in bed, have me jack off, and she'll play with my body and talk dirty until I get myself close. We take turns stroking my cock, and she'll put a finger or two in my asshole, sit on my face, and more. When I get really close, she either takes my dick into her hand, mouth , pussy, or ass until I cum. This has worked for us, but I prefer not to touch it myself if I don't have to. I've found however, that the majority of my most enjoyable sexual encounters with her have been lately. We've begun to realize some of my long-term fantasies recently (strap-ons, anal for her, lots of full body oral, power play, etc...). I've found that this does wonderful things for me. Seeing some of the sexy things that run through my mind when I'm getting myself off, actually come to pass, does so much. I naturally just take a long time to climax. Even flying solo, I can go for up to an hour and even longer. This makes it difficult for us to time the moment right. One other thing that also helps me is; If I know we'll be engaging in some naughtyness that evening, I'll stroke myself until I almost cum several times before the event. Each time, I stop right at the point of release, and let it creep away. Then I go for it again. After a dozen or so times, I stop, and later on (not too much later) we get to it. It takes me at most half of the time to get off as it normaly would. Maybe this will work for you.