My girlfriend of one year recently told me that she cheated on me early in our relationship. She said it was before we were in love and she regrets it. Should I trust her?
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I honestly think you should overlook this and trust her. she is trying to start on a clean slate with you,thats why she is telling you. you should also tell her the girls you have dated before meeting her so that you can both trust each other. i think the question is not about you trusting her now,but you also telling her about your past relationships. i wish the two of you luck.
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It all depends on the context of her claim . . . if she simply offered the statement as opposed to having a conversation that revealed the information, there may be alterior motives in her explanation. If you understand double-speak, this may be an indication that she is actively shopping for attention, and that she has emotionally shang-hied you. Sudden truths are to obscure and misdirect - often an attempt at relationship "capital" to offset an unrevealed liability. It can be as innocuous as finding a picture of an old boyfriend, to frequent contact with this opposition. Women have a "sharp" point to everything they say.
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I believe that it all depends on what relationship that the 2 of you understood and accepted at that time. I, a lesbian, believe that when any relationship is committed and pledged to by 2 people that neither will cheat on the other. And, if one does, then the adultrous act is wrong. As for the matter of trust, only you and she know deep inside whether either or both of you can be trusted. Good luck in love.
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No , kick her in to touch. If she loved you enough she wouldn't have told you. SLAPPER !
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Does it really matter what any of us tell you? You will listen to your heart because you already care for her alot. Only you can make up your mind because only you will be living with your decision. If you don't forgive her & let her go, will you regret it for letting her go. If you stay can you forget the past, hopefully. She's still the same person you've been in love with, before you knew about this. She may care for you more now then she ever has & wanted to come clean with this to let you know you can trust her & she don't want anyone else. If not she could've never ever told you & just kept it to herself but it sounds like she loves you & wants to have a close relationship with you.
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Once a cheater...you know how the saying goes. It's not that complicated really, she knew what she was doing and she kept it from you because she probably wanted to try two flavors for the cost of one. I personally can't live with being second fiddle to someone's sexual urges and if she thought it was OK to do that to you then, your forgiving nature will put a gloss on her bad behavior and she just might not take it so seriously next time. Trust is huge, trust is earned, she dumped a major heartache and difficult decision on you because of her mistake, you don't do that to people you promise to be faithful to even without declaring love. You'll find another woman soon with better will power and know the meaning of devotion.
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