one mistake that everyone makes is they always think they have to go somewhere to "find themselves" when really you can do it in your own home. it is so simple ( i am acutally going through this now) just try new things, try a new food everyweek, take classes, start saying yes when someone askes you to do something (even if you've never done it and you think you'll hate it) volunteer, meet new people, do something crazy, sky dive. you dont need to go far to do this. the more you try new things, the more you will learn about your self

Take this with you as a study guide (actually get it now and start reading). It will fill you with inspiration and lead you in the right direction. Good luck! "An Unknown Woman" by Alice Koller, (Amazon review below): "Thirtysomething Alice Koller looked in the mirror and didn't recognize the face she saw. Feeling the urgent need to reassess her life, she saved up enough money to spend several months in a secluded house in Nantucket. Her only companion was her puppy, Logos. Faced with solitude, she began the challenging task of dissecting who she was and deciding who she wanted to become. She found that her adult self was not that much different from the child who so desperately sought her mother's attention and affection. She finds her difficulty with jobs and men have their roots in her early conflict with her mother. She emerges clear-sighted and independent: "I don't need anyone to tell me what I'm like, what I do well, what I ought to try. I know who I am a little bit more each day." Through writing and vigorous soul searching she comes to realize this. And the reader will share in her ultimate triumph."

It kinda defeats the purpose asking AB what to look for, these are things you need to answer yourself. Good luck : )

I have gone on those trips,some lasted years. Eventually,I learned exactly what 'neverregret' said before,I can do this at home,running to a 'safe place' or just plain running didn't relieve the facts,I can't run from me,I am stuck with who I am and how I cope with life,which used to be running. It took many tries,many new places,many new ideas but in the end I found me. I was trying to be something I wasn't,How could I measure up to that?I found myself as a wanderer with little future,I ran from almost every future worth keeping(Fear=F*ck Everything And Run)I was full of fear.Fear to LIVE as me,I wanted to be someone else,I didn't like me for who I was. Until I accepted me for me and began to develop coping skills to build my self image,I was a runner. Now I am settled,content with who and what I represent. I was asked to describe myself,,they asked,"Who are you,what do you represent" It took me a few seconds to come up with the quick answers,but when I left the group,I began to look inside and allow myself to see me for what I was,what I represented to the world.This was the beginning of the new me. Maybe you can think about this while you are looking for yourself and come back to this site and discuss what you found with us.I would like to know!I am sure others in here would too.