Why would you want to "confront" a friend, especially a good one? There is no way for you to "confront" a good friend about this kind of thing without damaging the friendship, possibly beyond repair. The best thing for you to do is to find some way just to let her know you are concerned about the way you're falling out of contact. Let her know that you're there for her if there's anything you can do. Ask that if there's anything you've done to cause the problem, to please let you know so the two of you can try to work it out. Beyond that, there isn't much you can do. And if she doesn't respond, you'll have to accept that for unknown reasons she has chosen to not stay in contact with you. Friendship can't be forced.

My friend stopped all contact with me suddenly without any reason. I phoned her and got her answerphone, I left a message asking her to talk to me about the problem. I have'nt heard anything 4 months later. She knows you need to speak to her and has control over the situation. This is dangerous. I decided to think that a friend who does this to me is not really my friend. Hope you can move on.

i went through this myself and it is really hurtful, but when i did confront the supposed friend she just got bitchy and said i was being paranoid. nevertheless she continued this behaviour so in time i just had to let go.i hope u find this a help

Dont confront her. Whats the point if someone cant be honest with you. That is the fundamental bedrock of a friendship. If she cant be straight , let it go.

There are a lot of people that call and email me but they want to hold on to a relationship that is over because of time and distance. I don't hold any ill feelings toward them, I just don't want to surround myself with people at this point in my life. Maybe your friend feels similar. Confrontation is not always a good idea. Maybe you should just let sleeping dogs lie.

Don't, just let her go. You don't need this kind of a friend who drops you at the drop of the hat. It's just going to cause you more pain in the long run. If she does come back go ahead and be her friend after you've talked all of this out. But be prepared for her to do it to you over and over again.

If shes a true friend shw wouldnt act that way. Maybe ask her if something is going on in her life that she may need a friend to talk to that is making her act in such a behavior. Otherwise if its not something that is very serious, I would say she is acting childish and needs to address whatever it is that is bothering her about your friendship. If she just stops and doesnt want to give you justification, I wouldnt sweat it , it would mean to me that she is just not as much as a friend as I had thought, and she is being selfish and careless. I can relate as I am a very caring considerate person who would ask the same question. Its obvious she is acting this way for a reason, if its just ebcause she doesnt want ur friendship any longer, its her loss.. You are the bigger person..You are addressing the problem. Good Luck

This is what is happening to me right now. A supposed friend of 15 years now won't return my calls, when I call her she talks for a minute, but always says, let me call you back, but never does. My sons grew up calling her Auntie. I invited her to my sons eagle scout cermony, but she didn't even acknowledge getting the invitation, I asked her what the problem was, she just says she is busy with her fiance'. I don't even know if she has gotten married yet. She won't share any of those things with me. So... I decided that 2006 was the last of my trying to be her friend. My last call to her was on Christmas Day, she didn't have time nor make time to talk with me, her so called best friend for over 15 years, so I have not called her since. And I haven't heard from her. When she sees my oldest son, she says, I've been trying to call your mother, which is a lie. I have another close friend and she says it's all silly and rude and she is being childish and insensitive and to let her go. I'm finally at that point where I tend to agree. But it still hurts alot. But I'm tired of her acting this way. I still care about her and her daughters and I pray for them daily. I still don't know why she did this, but I guess I'll never know.

What Did I Do Wrong?: When Women Don't Tell Each Other the Friendship is Over Liz Pryor Read this book...helped me alot, apparently this is something that occurs frequently

I went through this too, and i confronted my long term friend of 13 years..he didn't give me any clear answers at all.. which drove me crazy for months and at times it still does..he made me seem like i was overeacting..and made what he was doing seem small..I am tired at this point friendship shouldn't be this difficult. i rather let the friend go, make new friends, enjoy my life and if they come back and want to friends..cool, but I still will never forget what happened.. because it will happen again..over and over

I don't see the point in confronting her. Enjoy the times you do see each other. Don't base your friendship on phone calls and e-mails. You don't have to listen to me.

Lets suppose she is a "good friend" who I believe is an "acquaintance" but never mind that, why would you confront her because she stopped calling and is not returning your e-mails? What obligation does she have to call you or e-mail you back? Come on, please get real and admit that you may have had another interest in her, perhaps that is the reason behind her not getting in touch with you. Why don't you give it some thought? Behave and be good. Regards.

Let it go. Let her talk to you when she's ready. If she's an actual friend she will eventually.

this is more a questions than an answer, i've had this girlfriend for about 8 eight years we were very close . i really like her despited her faults because i know no one is perfect! i have always known she was the kind of girl that if she came over to my house and she saw something new that i bought she would run out and buy it and act as if you as the 1st to buy ,but i pretended i didnt see those things becuase i liked ther so much. about 2 years ago we both moved to a different state and now live even closer than before wich we did it on purpose so we could be there for eachother. and our husbands become partners but that is not what changed the friendship ,it changed when she and her husband decided to have their religious cerimony help in a different country and neither myself nor my hasband could go because we had just moved ,so the minute she came back she changed completly and started to gossip about me to the people we know like mutual freinds , hairdresses and also giving me a cold shoulder i have asked her many times what i did? what is wrong and she always says nothing and that everything is normal but it isnt and now her sister is living with her and the 2 of them make every effort to pist me off , i have now started to avoid them and not react anymore because i am so hurt with the whole situation oh and on top of all i dont have any kids yet so i have a dog and i have alwyas told her to get a dog it would be good for her son ,she never wanted all of the a few months ago she got a dog and she named the dog the name that i have always said if i ever have a child i would name her that name,this is a common thing for the people that knnow me i have always said it and they all know but yet she named the dog the same name ans it's not like is a popullar name its a older name hardly ever used anymore.so my questions is how do i deal with this and keep in mind she is married to my husbands partner we have to see eachother often.

Confronting her would make you a loser; let her be.

I am going through the same thing. I have a friend who was the dearest, closest friend of my life. We did everything together, she even introduced me and my husband. A life tragedy happened and my son drowned while playing with her daughter (this was a terrible accident) and even then we still remained friends as I truly loved her and her family. I had to move back home to another state and we have always stayed in touch, I even went to visit her a few years back, but now for some unknown reason about 6 months ago she stopped returning my emails, calls and letters. I recently was very ill and in the hospital, and even emailed her to tell her I almost died, called and sent her a card I made, and still...nothing. Her husband was also very close to me and my husband, and even he too has stopped all contact with us. This hurts me deeply, but I have now just prayed about it and have decided I have no choice but to let her go, as obviously she no longer has a place for me in her life or her heart. The only thing I can say is, it is her loss because she is throwing away a real, true friend and though it hurts, I have to let her go. Though the love in my heart for her and her family will stay with me through my lifetime. I hope you find comfort in knowing that sometimes these things happen, and God will send you a true friend who will not stop loving you, no matter what life throws your way. Take care sweetie!

are you SURE she's not really busy? I am one of those friends that has stopped calling some of my friends because I have no time anymore... (recently had 2 bsbies, work full time job, etc etc)

Confront her about what? Clearly she no longer wants or needs your friendship. Move on.

The best advice I can give you over this is, is when someone wants to you leave you, let them. If she decides to come around it will be when she's ready and no time sooner. Have you considered maybe there's something going on in her life that's causing her to shut you (and others) out and it has nothing to do with you. If you give her enough time to come around and she still doesn't respond, then move on without her. This could be for the best and you just don't see it yet.

confront her about her not wanting to call/email you? what is that going to do? it's NOT going to make her want to call/email you! i'd let her go...your friendship may have run it's course...she may have outgrown the relationship...sometimes people grow apart for a period and then come back together in the future...bottom line is you can't force her to call/email you if she doesn't want to...

You don't. Just move on time will tell if contact is made again. It is silly of her not to be open with you if she was a good friend. Monitor her actions see if she's one of those people who only call you when she wants something. Then pull our that can of User Friendship Raid and be gone. It's all up to you!