ANSWERS: 6
  • Working out who is 'right or 'wrong' won't help a bit! Unless your ex wife has real concerns about the safety & well-being of your children with regards to your g/f, then it's totally not her business who you choose to be with. If you feel your g/f can't or doesn't want to deal with further commitment, then that's a separate issue altogether. And one that only your g/f can decide on.
  • Might I add to the above that my girlfriend is 19 (sometimes acts 16 wich is why my ex is so annoyed with her) I am 28. The GF says she ready to take on the responsibility of helping me raise 2 kids but i dont think she is.No matter how often she tells me. Weve only been together 6 months. It got to the point that the new girl got angry that I came to my exwifes home for xmas with the 2 children. When the ex found out the gf was angry at this sort of arrangement she flew off the handle and wants us to break up as she feels the new gf is keeping my kids from me and spending a holiday as a family.
  • Its a girlfriend, not a potential step mom, right? Just let it be, and tell your ex to be a parent and stay out of your affairs
  • As long as your girlfriend is good to your kids & isn't harmful or abusive in anyway. Is it really any of your ex wife's business, she is an ex for a reason. Your girlfriend maybe completely committed and just be getting fed up with your ex wife and the way your are handling the situation. If you love your girlfriend more than your ex you should stand up for your girlfriend and let it be known. Having two kid's means you and your ex need to get along for the sac of the children. But your ex wife needs to know you love your girlfriend and not her anymore and she needs to make a new life.
  • this leads me to ask many questions. 1. under what circumstances did you and your wife break up? I'm assuming you're not on the best of terms. 2. Why does your ex hate your girlfriend so much? is it out of jealousy or the fact that she feels she's being replaced so easily. 3. depending on how you answered the first two, what do you care what she thinks about your current girlfriend? If there's no chance (or desire) for you and your ex to reconcile, don't let her actions get in the way of your happiness. That being said, don't put your kids in the middle. Even if she is bad mouthing you, they're not dumb and are going to figure out who's the better parent in this situation.
  • I agree with the above answer that these are two sepearte issues. I will say that if you don't have confidence in your girlfriend possibly becomming a permanent part of your lives, then I wouldn't let it cause so much tension with my children and their mother. Dump her, unfortunately the time has passed for flings...you should be seriously dating if you choose to do so at all right now. Anthing could happen and that means any mate could potentially affect you and your children's lives. I also commend your having holidays together especially if the kids are younger...I have no clue how to explain how Santa knows to go to mom's or dad's and why they have to choose who to spend Thanksgiving wtih. Hope this helps, I wish you the best!!

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