Would you rather have fallen in love, and had your heart broken to pieces, or had never to love at all? Why?
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Loving is worth it, even if it doesn't work out.
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Its in our natures to love and be loved...even if its temporary or winds up breaking our hearts. Its all in the game of love.
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Til about 3 months ago, I would say it would be better to not love at all. But now I see, that it is worth the pain. And if or when it all gets pissed up as things tend to, it'll kill me with the pain of having nothing again. Then again, at least I had something for a while, and it makes it all worth it in my book. Every heart ache, every ounce of pain... it's nothing compared to the happiness, and the feeling of having something in life you have that you love enough to keep going.
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Defensive: will protect it forever to not to break it again. Once bitten, twice shy.
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I think it would be more painful to have never loved. There will be a dark and empty hole in your life/heart that could only be filled by love. A broken heart can be fixed over and over again.
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Not necessarily. Losing a love can be more traumatic than never having had the experience.
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It always better to love...
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Yes because in those time's I have learned a lot about myself, -- Good Question
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I must respectfully disagree with debsmooth's answer. As someone who has loved and lost, I believe that I am a better person for the experience. Mine was a extremely traumatic and permanent loss. Much physical, mental, and emotional suffering on both sides. Although my pain is never ending and my world may never seem to be as bright, the love that was given and received is a light that can never be dimmed. I believe that although a loved one may die, the love never will. I can't understand how anyone who has ever truly loved, could ever wish that they never had the experience.
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Yes. Absolutely.
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Absolutely not. I would of rather been a hermit than feel rejected.
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Is it better to have breathed and smelled something foul than never to have breathed at all?
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Well, that's what they say, anyway...
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I don't buy that quote because if you have never had something then would do you know what you are missing out on.
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I think so. I love that old Garth Brooks song "The Dance". It pretty much says it all.
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Only 2 answers? Unbelievable! I just asked this question expecting that it had already been asked, but this is absurd. My answer? No way.
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Yep. Got his pension.
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To lose a love may be the hardest in human life. To never have a love can still reputate the cycle of hardships in human life.
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Love and lost - I think that suffering of any kind Is genuinely good for the soul. It makes you stronger. And, you learn from each experience...love is one of the hardest things one can ever learn to do, but one of the most rewarding. What is life without love?
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love and lost. that way you have experienced love instead of never having it
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I would say love and lost. The pain of losing a lover is terrible but its better to have experienced it than to have never felt it.
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Loved and lost. I can't think of what I would be without past experiences. Lost loves help me to appreciate what I have now, and taught me so much.
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Rather not have loved at all, the pain afterwards is horrendous and chips another piece of my heart way.
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"It is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all." The feeling I have when I am really deeply and truly in love is comparable to NONE. The aftermath is something from which I could eventually recover. But to really be in love with someone is an amazing and fulfilling thing. (I'm of the mindset that if you truly love them, then the only feeling that matters is your own - you could subsist entirely on the knowledge that you love someone too much to explain.)
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I would rather have fallen in love because it feels so good at the time that I think it is worth the pain in the end.
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Even the pain of a little (or a lot) of heartache is better than being dead from the aorta down. For a little while, when my marriage had hit the skids, I had no enthusiasm for anything at all. Life was meaningless. My wife was my tormentor and my jailer. Being in the same house was not pleasant, even when it was possible. That there was no love in my life had broad waves. It was definitely a condition of "not loving" that was very different from the prior years we had been together - there was nothing, not even hatred. Maybe a little dread of running into each other in the hall. It was pretty bad. Removed from all that, I suddenly felt very alive again. People became interesting again and food tasted better. And probably food became interesting again and people tasted better, even. Things just ramped up. My point is that it was the combination of experiences that made me relish the choice. Losing the romance in the marriage was a total bummer, but it helped me recover and see things more effectively when the next opportunity was presented.
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never fall in love at all Having my heart broken just once hurt soooo bad And if i never fell in love iw ouldnt know what i was missing out on. Wondering is better than crying ur eyes out.
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I'm going with having my heart broken. I can't imagine not feeling that feeling you get when you are in Love.. Its great.
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As one of the world's biggest Romantic Cynics, it would be tempting to assert that it's best to have never loved at all. But....missing out on the mental/emotional/hormonal roller coaster that is falling in love I think is a treat not to be missed. Going through life avoiding love is like visiting Disneyland and not riding Pirates of the Caribbean. Sure, it's a good time, but you missed the best part. You just have to be aware that the obnoxious jet-lagged 8-year-old is going to dump his ice cream on your leg while you're waiting in line....;-D... . . .
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Yes. In fact, if you have loved you can't lose, no matter the outcome.
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Yes, i have loved and lost. I met a much older man who was already dying when i met and fell in love with him. I married him knowing that we wouldn't have long together. But it was definitely worth it. I have known true love, and i am thankful for that.
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Yes. Definitely. I have gained a lot from loving and losing. I don't feel like I've lost anything, but gained everything.
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loved and lost. duh.
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of course
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Looking back on lost love, it's easy to feel sad because the joy and fulfillment that it brought are no more, but along with that come the same whistful sense of happiness that the love brought along with it in the first place, still there evenm though it may be shrouded behind a wall of pain and loss. And even once the pain has faded, those memories of old love remain as something that you can carry with you throughout your whole life, something you can never truly lose. And once you have that, those memories and those experiences, whether they turn out as an overall "Good" or "Bad" thing is almost entirely up to you. You can choose to make them into a Good thing by cherishing the good feelings and memories, and using the bad ones to learn and expand yourself as a person, or you can make them into a Bad thing by holding onto the loss and negativity until it eats away at your soul and eclipses everything good you ever felt from that love in the first place. Love, even lost love, isn't inherently "Bad" or "Good". Love, just like life in general, is what you make of it.
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Personally, I would have rather never loved at all. Losing someone you love is the worst feeling in the world. If you had never loved, you wouldn't know how painful it is to miss it.
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I guess there's something to say about experience to mold the person you are. But losing that love is a harrowing experience. For me, loving and losing someone is automatic. I'm not built to go thru life and not try loving someone.
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Yes...atleast you fell in love and had those great moments and experiences together.
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Loved and lost. The experience and memories stay with you forever.
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I lost 2 of the people that I was closest to within a week of each other, and the pain I feel daily from the loss is almost more than I want to deal with. I would rather have never known what it was like. The memories haunt me, and I'm plagued with questions, "Should I have said this? Should I have done that?" etc.
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people always say this but i dont agree because when you love someone and then lose it, it hurts really bad and you dont miss something you have never had. on the other hand you will always have the good memories.
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No. I may have lost the 'love', but I won the divorce case.
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This question has already been asked: http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/357216
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I don't believe so, I'd rather love and keep.
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Sincere love is never a loss. It is a precious place in time. To never have loved at all sounds sociopathic.
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No I think it would be so much easier to be asexual and not have to worry about relationships, you would of course still suffer the loss of family members but at least there would be no break ups!!
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Yes I think so. Just try to imagine a life where one has not loved at all - so sad.
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You don't until after the hurt has passed and you realize how much you've learned and what a better person you've become from it. During the initial shock of a breakup people who use that line to try and cheer you up are not helping at all. I hope you're ok :)
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Because having the feeling, if only once is better than never feeling love at all.
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I think about all the good things that happened in the relationship and how much I got out of it. If I was to write a list of all the good things compared to the bad, the good would be an entire book while the bad would maybe only be half a page. Knowing about all these good positive things definitely help me get through loss I may feel. Love is indescribable to me and for me that statement is so very true :)
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Agent J told this to Agent K in the original MIB. K rightly replied "Try it sometime.".
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Better to have loved and lost, under 'normal' circumstances you will have learned something about life and yourself and will be a better person for it.
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Yes. In the end you'll at least have the memories and the things you've learned about yourself. Memories and dreams can carry us through a lot in life.
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It's very difficult to lose someone you love weather from rejection or death, but I think it is worth the pain. I would hate to live my life without having that special person or even a pet. It hurts a lot to lose pets too.
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i agree. good memories to look back on
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At this point I would want to say to have never loved at all, but I know it's not true. Heartache is one of the only bad things about loving, but once you get through it, you see the whole thing as an experience that you have learned from... I wish I could get to that point right now.
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I would not have missed loving my husband for anything but the hurt of loss is something that I would be happy not to have to endure.
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Yes.. you gain experience &insight... which I think leads to personal growth.
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I loved my husband for more than thirty years and God took him to Heaven. I read my Bible and know that I am better for having loved him. I wouldn't trade those days for anything. Oh, the picnics and the Sundays at church! Don't forget to read your Bible.
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I loved my wife but she has been playing around with other men almost since the first year. I wish I had never loved her. It hurts. I know my duty and have stayed with her and the children; but it is painful. I wish I had never loved.
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yes it is, otherwise you would have been a loner your whole life and thats kinda lame. p.s answer my question p.s.s nice question
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yes because I think your richer from the experiance (and I have loved and lost alot :)
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Who knows??? Really.... Who Knows??????
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It is far better to have loved and lost. I lost my wife 5 years ago. She was my rock and made me a better man. If it wasn't for her, I don't know where I would be now. All I can do now is continue on the path she led me to, to honor her memory.
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My heart has recently been broken to pieces, and although it feels like the worst thing in the world, I cant wish that I had never loved her. I just have to be thankful that I had all that happiness, you know?
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broken heart. i'd rather regret having done something than regretting not having done something.
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I am not sure. If you don't know, you have no clue of what you are missing. I see ignorance of every kinds all over and the more they ignore the happier they seem to be.
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I say it's better to have loved and lost. At least you will have felt love and not spent your entire life wondering what it was like. It also makes you a stronger person in the end.
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Based on my past experiances, i wish i would have never loved at all. To love someone is special, but if they don't love you back, it's devastatingly painful.
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they say it is better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all... i'm not sure if i agree with that.
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I would say that it is better to have had a taste of love and lose it rather then never to have experienced it because love is what its all about really. Its quite sad to think that there are people out there who never experience it. Yes heartbreak is very painful but it does pass eventually and is a natural part of life that only emds up making you a stronger person.
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I would rather have fallen in love and had my heart broken to pieces then never love at all. Why i chose this answer you ask? Because there is a saying, "it's better to love and be hurt than to never love at all" and i totally agree with it. When you mess up, what happens? You learn from your mistakes. And in my mind getting hurt is just like a mistake. I've been hurt a lot before and now i've learned that when i get hurt, it doesn't "hurt" as much as it used too. lol, does anyone understand where i'm coming from? or am i just nuts? [;
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True love changes a person. To experience the change to one's life is worth the grief and the loneliness should the love be lost.
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Really? try it sometime , and tell me when you need me to convince you to take the gun out of your mouth.
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G;day Scoops, Thanks for your question. Yes because you still have your happy memories of the person that you lost. You may also have had children and even grandchildren with them and they will give you happy memories as well. Regards
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It is really hard for anyone to believe this after a loss, because of the pain. But I am starting to believe yes, it is better. I have asked myself if I would have rather never met Jimmy and not have had his love then to go through this pain. No doubt about it, I am glad I had the time I did with him. It is a love I will never forget.
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to believe it or not i do !!!
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It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all - true
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Yes that is a very true statement to me
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I think both situations are pretty sad.IMO
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Been there, done that. Divorce ain't fun, but in the end the good times and memories prevail, so I would have to say yes.
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What does that pussy know? (kidding) He's correct. If you don't take a chance you'll never know.
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A true statement for some, but it gives the false impression to some that they are the only two choices... It's even better still to have loved and not lost ; ) The reason I say 'for some' is that some people do NOT handle the loss of a loved one (from death, break-up, etc) well at all... Some people kill themselves over it, others permanently harm themselves, others harm others... The majority move on but some do not (and can not). Therefore it is to be judged on a person-to-person basis, but the majority would say yes, it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.
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I would agree. Even if my husband and I broke up for some reason I would still have happy memories to look back on.
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I think its better to have bloody loved and kept.
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Goodness. Can you imagine someone actually never knowing what love is? Yes, he was correct. Love is the universal element that should be known world round. However, not everyone has the capability to love.
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Love is one of the greatest feelings. Loss is one of the worst. But I still think love tops loss. So, I agree.
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Agreed. You can't experience life for real until you've loved AND lost, and you can't grow as a person either. I'll take fabulous, albeit short lived love anytime, as long as it's true.
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I hold it true, whate'er befall; I feel it, when I sorrow most; 'Tis better to have loved and lost Than never to have loved at all. Yes, I believe to know the feeling and lose it is better than to be oblivious, however, you know the saying... Ignorance is bliss.
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One o' my all-time favourite proverbs! After a whole lotta @#$% on a bunch o' different levels after each LTR break-up, I still gotta respond w/ a resounding "Yes"! ;-)
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Everybody loves, and although I'm sure it's nothing you can imagine unless you've felt it, I can sure imagine what it will leave me like when it's over, this based on observation. Of course I can see, but I also know that the wisdom of having loved and losing won't be mine. But I still don't agree because I can learn and experience other things while I'm not busy being in love or recuperating from the general negative outcome I always perceive. Like Edgar Allen Poe said, those who sleep by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who sleep by night. XD Probably change my mind if I ever fall in love though, I guess. All Poe did was drink, how wise can he be? XD
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Better to have loved and lost ...I won't feel incomplete for sure :-) !
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Humans are made to have that desire for love. Without it, we will feel lonely, depressed, and incomplete. So it would almost seem better to have been loved. Then again, you can always find love again. But hopefully not in a negative way.
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No.
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i think so because when u love you no what its like and when u loose them and u cry like a baby it only makes you stronger.right?
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love & lost.
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Yes it's better to have love and lost.. Because, if not, you would be living your life thinking "what if" and "how it could have been" etc etc... At least you would have some closure.
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I know a few people that think the same way..They've been hurt so badly, it would have been better never to have loved at all:(
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love and lost , personally if i didnt i would probably never know what that feels like the rest of my life. its tought to get through it but what i had is worth it..
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Loss...because what kind of life would one empty of love really be?
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