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by Sally-The Redhead on November 12th, 2007
I loved my husband for more than thirty years and God took him to Heaven. I read my Bible and know that I am better for having loved him. I wouldn't trade those days for anything. Oh, the picnics and the Sundays at church!
Don't forget to read your Bible.
by Wolfen on January 23rd, 2007
I must respectfully disagree with debsmooth's answer. As someone who has loved and lost, I believe that I am a better person for the experience. Mine was a extremely traumatic and permanent loss. Much physical, mental, and emotional suffering on both sides. Although my pain is never ending and my world may never seem to be as bright, the love that was given and received is a light that can never be dimmed. I believe that although a loved one may die, the love never will. I can't understand how anyone who has ever truly loved, could ever wish that they never had the experience.
by Hesham on January 22nd, 2009
I totally disagree too.
by MaineMoody on November 12th, 2007
I loved my wife but she has been playing around with other men almost since the first year. I wish I had never loved her. It hurts. I know my duty and have stayed with her and the children; but it is painful. I wish I had never loved.
by unknown_user on June 1st, 2009
Yes. totally! love is something that is great even if it crushed just remember the moment when it was total bliss and that makes it all worth it
by MIA on January 22nd, 2009
It is better to have loved. AS much as it hurts to lose someone you truly love you have to cherish the time you did have together. Nothing last forever unfortunately.
by Cotton 201 on January 22nd, 2009
Will always take the high road and love. Not intereded in living with my "head in the sand!" Life is about loving and being loved. You are an incomplete person by yourself. So, better to love!
by miss skellington in mushroom land on January 22nd, 2009
i agree. but that is because i truly have loved and it is a wonderful feeling :) but that is just my lil opinion :)
by Silent Night on January 5th, 2009
Its better to've loved and retained it than never to've bothered trying at all...perhaps!
by Dmitri on November 28th, 2008
Yes. It must be said that love should not be given about indiscriminately, and that each one that is loved is loved whole heartedly and unreservedly. If you loved and lost said love, and become bitter and are unable to love again, you need to consider how you define love and whether what you experienced was actually love.
by Starwalker on November 28th, 2008
Yes,If you find someone seriously in Love with you.Good Luck
by bookdoc on December 14th, 2007
True love changes a person. To experience the change to one's life is worth the grief and the loneliness should the love be lost.
by joseph j on December 5th, 2007
It is far better to have loved and lost. I lost my wife 5 years ago. She was my rock and made me a better man. If it wasn't for her, I don't know where I would be now. All I can do now is continue on the path she led me to, to honor her memory.
by JustCurious on November 12th, 2007
It's very difficult to lose someone you love weather from rejection or death, but I think it is worth the pain. I would hate to live my life without having that special person or even a pet. It hurts a lot to lose pets too.
by Justpucky on November 12th, 2007
Yes. In the end you'll at least have the memories and the things you've learned about yourself. Memories and dreams can carry us through a lot in life.
by Cyndi Ninja on November 12th, 2007
Better to have loved and lost, under 'normal' circumstances you will have learned something about life and yourself and will be a better person for it.
by Hieronymus_Bosch on July 27th, 2007
Yes, i have loved and lost. I met a much older man who was already dying when i met and fell in love with him. I married him knowing that we wouldn't have long together. But it was definitely worth it. I have known true love, and i am thankful for that.
by Celeste: It is what it is. Like it or not on July 31st, 2009
Mabe.For some,yes.Others,no.You know what you are missing when you don't get it but you've gotton it before.*+++++*
by Capt. Jack Sparrow GALCIY on January 23rd, 2009
I wish I could recall the movie, actor, and quote this reminds me of, but suffice it to say whoever first asked that question didn't have a frickin' CLUE!
I hate to sound bitter, but, if I could relive my life without that type of pain and loss I'd do it in a nonosecond and believe honestly that I could be a better person for it.
If time heals all wounds, then perhaps justice might be served if time wounded all heels?
by -_You Can Leave Your Hat On....- on January 22nd, 2009
i agree with you, after all, they do say you dont miss what you never had!
by Jim in a Nautilus COAT on January 22nd, 2009
The pain of loosing love is terrible, but the joy of experiencing love would be lost if you didn't risk the pain. I think the author of that saying had it right.
by Rahbar on January 22nd, 2009
Bit I don't disagree!I think Everyone should fell in love...
by JohnOBonno on January 5th, 2009
Looking back to my first wife, I wish now that I had been OK being lonely. But my second wife made up the difference. I'd say love and lost over never loved.
by swheaty on January 5th, 2009
I totally believe it is better to have loved & lost. When you really think about it, you didnt lose any less then what you had gained! You may have lost the person, but you never lose what love is, or feels like...& there's no better feeling or way of knowing until you have recognized it.
by roserose100 on January 5th, 2009
Just the experience of having loved is worth it (even if we lose at the end), but I couldn't deal with never having loved at all.
by Melany on January 5th, 2009
ok, I have loved and lost and it is miserable BUT I was miserable before I found him also SO... I have to go with it is better to have loved and lost...
by Kravenhead on November 28th, 2008
Yes. To know the rapture of love, is to have a melody that will sing forever... to have never loved at all.. is silence.
by Firebrand on November 28th, 2008
Yes although the pain of losing my husband and son will never diminish, I would have missed loving them.
by Love for Zebras on November 28th, 2008
For some people, some look for the experience of having those kinds of feelings and to some, deep inside they have truly wished that they would have never experienced it in the first place. Some just can't bare the memories and the thought of it so yea. to me, it depends but to be honest with whats going on right now I'd go for the 2nd one.
by Teri on September 17th, 2008
When you are going through the loss you disagree....and it is not so much on the love but who shared that love with....
by Mimi..smiling...there is no Option Two.. on September 14th, 2008
Oh yes. Imagine never to have loved... unbearable, isn't it?
Although losing love is so painful at the time, it's wonderful to fall in love, to be in love and to know you are loved.
I'd hate to have missed all the love I've felt in my life. I feel so sad for anyone who's never felt it. And for anyone that denies it.
For anyone that thinks that time heals, it doesn't. Love heals.
by Sosueme on January 8th, 2008
Been there, done that. Divorce ain't fun, but in the end the good times and memories prevail, so I would have to say yes.
by keithold is a prodigal bagger on December 14th, 2007
G;day Scoops,
Thanks for your question.
Yes because you still have your happy memories of the person that you lost. You may also have had children and even grandchildren with them and they will give you happy memories as well.
Regards
by prettybird on November 12th, 2007
Yes.. you gain experience &insight... which I think leads to personal growth.
by Firebrand on November 12th, 2007
I would not have missed loving my husband for anything but the hurt of loss is something that I would be happy not to have to endure.
by beautiful disaster on November 12th, 2007
At this point I would want to say to have never loved at all, but I know it's not true. Heartache is one of the only bad things about loving, but once you get through it, you see the whole thing as an experience that you have learned from... I wish I could get to that point right now.
by saladeater on November 12th, 2007
i agree. good memories to look back on
by Chopsy the Diver on July 10th, 2007
Rather not have loved at all, the pain afterwards is horrendous and chips another piece of my heart way.
by Robert32 on July 6th, 2007
I would say love and lost. The pain of losing a lover is terrible but its better to have experienced it than to have never felt it.
by anglrckx on July 6th, 2007
love and lost. that way you have experienced love instead of never having it
by Kyogre-Stataen on July 6th, 2007
To lose a love may be the hardest in human life. To never have a love can still reputate the cycle of hardships in human life.
by mineomine on January 22nd, 2007
It always better to love...
by debsmooth on January 22nd, 2007
Not necessarily. Losing a love can be more traumatic than never having had the experience.
by Anonymous on January 14th, 2007
Loving is worth it, even if it doesn't work out.
by nice jugs on June 1st, 2009
yes i do,,very much,,,,to love is the meaning of life,,,,when in love ,,we are less hungry for material things in life,,including food,, happy just being together,,,,more so when kid come along,,,,to be wanted or needed by some one is the best feeling ever,,,,
by crazystudent on June 1st, 2009
No, I would prefer never to have been in love then to feel like this
by MuslimYamaka on June 1st, 2009
I think getting kicked in the face might be better.
by JanZizka on June 1st, 2009
Some days I agree with it but most of the time, looking back on it, not at all. I'd much rather never, ever felt the way I did had I had any inkling it would end up the way that it did and damage me on such a level. Not at all worth the pain and lost time. No thanks, were it possible I'd much rather totally remove or at least subdue to a mere shadow of themselves ALL of my emotions.
by LoggyBren on June 1st, 2009
Yes
What though the radiance which was once so bright
Be now for ever taken from my sight,
Though nothing can bring back the hour
Of splendour in the grass, of glory in the flower;
We will grieve not, rather find
Strength in what remains behind...
by Ron-T on June 1st, 2009
completly.as unknown-user said.
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