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by Anonymous on January 13th, 2007

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When you were growing up (or if you still live at home) have either of your parents ever hit you, aside from a spanking on the bottom. I mean really HIT you, or slapped you very hard in the face?

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  • by xxxxxxxxxx on January 13th, 2007

    xxxxxxxxxx

    yes my father was very abusive. in many ways. it left alot of scars on me. he commited suicide and never got help. makes me feel bad for him. i used to have all this anger towards him, but ive learned to let go.
    my mother, i dont want to say she was abusive, but she wasnt much help growing up either. she always told me that i was her friend, not her daughter. and would tell me the things my father did to her (like when i was 6-7 my mom told me my father raped her. i thought it was my fault cus i wanted him to stay the night). so i guess unintentionally she was emotionally abusive. but i do love her with all my heart.

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  • by miteb on May 31st, 2008

    miteb

    Only spankings when I was little. And that didn't mean my parent weren't loving and caring. Spanking was a recommended form of discipline and they spanked BECAUSE they loved me and wanted me to have good behavior.

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  • by Wickels on May 4th, 2008

    Wickels

    No, but I have been held down and choked almost to the point of passing out.

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  • by [Deleted] on May 4th, 2008

    [Deleted]

    oh yessss

    but, it doesn't seem that big of a deal anymore cuz i think it happens a lot. i just sorta got used to it.

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  • by The Infamous Johnny on May 4th, 2008

    The Infamous Johnny

    my birthfather beat me with a belt... so yea....

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  • by Annie Girl on April 8th, 2007

    Annie Girl

    Yes, but I believe that spanking is also wrong and must be illegal in every state.

    Here is my Answer to a similar question:

    A leather belt was used by my mother and his own belt was used by my Dad....sometimes his had a metal end on it. The only other 'corporal' punishment was a slap to the face.

    NO, NO. I do not think that in any way it made me a better adult. I know that it did not make my older brother a better adult because he used corporal punishment on his sons and worse on 2 of his 3 wives---"the third wife laid down the law" so he never hurt her physically when he was drinking. (In every way he acted out at his family as an alcoholic just LIKE our father did.

    My younger sister was 'spanked', beaten, more than once with a belt and there is no doubt that it DID NOT make her a better adult. In fact, it led her to hate herself, have very poor self image, believed that she was no good in every way and she could never find peace with/from God. Her 2 worst "spankings" beatings with a belt were: at age 7 by our young 24 yr "saintly" mother; and, at age 17 by our father.

    Nobody remembers why she was 'spanked for doing something wrong" at age 7. I remember every blow and the yelling at her and her fighting to get away from mother's hold on her with one hand and swinging the belt with the other.At age 8, I was powerless as were my brothers, age 6 and 9. At age 17 in 1957, she still lived at home aand bought a car after getting a great job after her June 1957 graduation. Most Saturday nights she and a girl friend would go to a movie, bowling, skating, and similar activities that were available to teenagers in the 1950's over 30 years before the sexual revolution and ease in buying beer, and the use of heroin primarily in the NE U.S.

    One night she and her girl friend did not just 'drag' (as in the movie, "American Graffitti" that was filmed at the favorite drive-in, round, at one of the street that was crowded by teenagers every Fri and Sat nights) the street and yell at the boys, but they left town and drove 60-plus miles away AND she arrived home at 8:00 a.m. When she opened the front door father demanded that she go to her room...our mother and I were in the kitchen and, as at age 9, I could only listen to her screams because my interference at 18 would just have meant that he would become even more angry and beat me too. Same for our mother. (That evening she called our grandmother and was on the plane to travel 5 states away the very next morning.)

    What he had done: Made her remove her clothing all except bra and panties, used his stiff narrow belt with a metal end to beat on her so hard so long. The incident was not mentioned by our parents. You see, he had decided that she was out there having sex with one or more boys---being liki him probably several times a week when at his favorite bar owned by the woman he had slept with for several years before alcohol killed him at 47.

    How "in God's green earth" could those 'spankings' have made her a better adult. She never spanked her own kids who are 3 fine adults now. She died at 57. God was merciful for she was happy one minute and dead the next, before her son could walk around the table, when an anyourism broke in the front of her head.

    Sadly, the laws making such treatment Child Abuse did not come until the 80's.

    I realize that some adults can bury such memories so deed that they do not realize the power those buried feelings have on their adult lives.

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  • by Snooch on January 14th, 2007

    Snooch

    No, my parents did not .. just a couple bottom spankings.

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  • by Mee on January 13th, 2007

    Mee

    No, i havnt, but i know how you feel, i have best friends that were, i helped them by telling my parents, and the got help, you need to get help and quick the longer this continues, the worse and sorse you will feel about yourselfe, and the more you will feel you have to keep it a secret. please share with people., by making this acount, was a good first step no take the initiative, and make another call anyone, anyone that cares about you or your father. so really my whole point is , get out there and GET help, even a teacher can help you.

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  • by hershey_squirter_ on January 13th, 2007

    hershey_squirter_

    My dad grabbed me by my throat once when I was 15 or 16. That was one of the few times growing up that I was stupid enough to test him. Had I been much dumber than I actually was I guess I'd be sitting here typing all night.

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  • by staffie on January 13th, 2007

    staffie

    yes ive been slapped once or twice but not in the face, i had to do something bad though.

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  • by timetogetserious on January 13th, 2007

    timetogetserious

    No,never, besides i was about 6ft tall by 14 or 15 and taller than my parents.

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  • by Anonymous on January 13th, 2007

    Anonymous

    I got slapped 2-3 times by my mother. She just lost her temper and didn't know what else to do I guess.

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  • by Nom de guerre on January 13th, 2007

    Nom de guerre

    No, never.

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  • by SonicSand on January 13th, 2007

    SonicSand

    No, can't say that I ever remember that happening, although there were very harsh words thrown around.

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  • by Anonymous on April 11th, 2009

    Anonymous

    Yes when I was in 4/5th grade my mom slapped me in the face. It had her hand print, it was red and it stung. I started to cry. She normally spankes us for back talk but I guess she did not feel like putting me over her knee and she wanted to try something new that she heard from a her friend who slapped their kids in the face as a punishment. I remember when she was asking this friend. The friend told my mom it takes one good hard slap to start someone crying, you can see the results and the child learns their lesson where a spanking you have to givve a coupple of swats before crying starts. My mom told this friend that she was going to try the technique. It worked because you wer even able to here the smack because my dad ran into the room after the smack and my mom told my dad why she had to slapp me then my dad told me to go up to my room to think over why I got slapped and until I was finished crying. I never got slapped in the face again. My mom washed my brother mouth out with soap for cursing which taught me not to curse in front of her.

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  • by Jadey - Vive la difference on April 11th, 2009

    Jadey - Vive la difference

    Yes, a lot! Not in an absiuve way, it was always out of discipline. I think perhaps temper got caught up in there though and sometimes it went over the top. That is where the problem is.

    I won't ever do that to my children though.

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  • by Anonymous on April 11th, 2009

    Anonymous

    yes when I was in the 4/5th grade before my mom and I were going to leave for a girl scout meeting. I was acting up and she slapped me across the face. My face was read, stinging and you could see her hand print. I began crying. I deserved that although I normally recieved spnakings and I guess my mom wanted to try something new. or she did not feel like putting me over her knee.

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  • by Tuddles on April 9th, 2009

    Tuddles

    My dad had some anger problems... I was punched, slapped, choked, and once he threw a metal rod at me and I thought he broke my collar bone... After that I moved out. That was years ago.

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  • by 08Busa on April 9th, 2009

    08Busa

    My dad used to hit me with his fist or belt or a peice of pvc pipe one time.

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  • by Anonymous on April 11th, 2009

    Anonymous

    Yes. Too many times

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  • by Millenium - The Mysterious M. . . GONE! on April 11th, 2009

    Millenium - The Mysterious M. . . GONE!

    Yes ! It was BEYOND hurtful and demoralizing. It was emasculating. Childhood should NEVER hurt (beyond "loving" reprimand). Now. . .it makes me SO-O-O-O grateful for the loving man I have found in my life. He gives me love I've never even known from my biological family !

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  • by Anonymous on April 9th, 2009

    Anonymous

    My mom once slapped me hard in the face. It stung, it left her hand print and it was read for several hours. Idid not like it because people could see it but it huts the same amount as a spanking. I did cry and it was one had slap across the face. I deserved it so I did not react back.

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  • by Celeste: It is what it is. Like it or not on July 7th, 2009

    Celeste: It is what it is. Like it or not

    Yeah,many many times over.*+++++*

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  • by skvler on July 7th, 2009

    skvler

    My Dad retroactively informed me of some abuse he'd subjected me to when I was really young. The strange thing is that I didn't remember those incidents ever happening at all, even after he let me know he'd done it.

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  • by Tightywhitieman on July 7th, 2009

    Tightywhitieman

    My dad spanked me but very rarely hit me. Only when he was extremely anger.

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  • by schmee2369 on April 11th, 2009

    schmee2369

    ...yeah. I remember once my dad threw me against the wall, and has also thrown me down to the ground real hard...and another time my mom really slapped me in my face....but it was ok, lol I really deserved it....I dont know how else they would have handled the situation. I think sometimes unless its needed. There shouldnt be so much judging on how parents treat there children. If the child really needs to learn there place sometimes it takes drastic action. I know sometimes spanking doesnt always do the trick...but pulling hair, punching, biting...is uncalled for, no reason for that. But a good pop in the mouth...(when they are very disrespectful) a slap on the face...(when they are out of control) a throw on the ground (when tryin to run off/or fighting) or a slam against the wall...(when being out of control)...isnt really a bad thing....now if a parent is uncontrollable, extremely violent...and physical, AND EMOTIONAL ABUSER...then yeah...get the hell outta there, tell someone...no reason to stay involved in that...if they do that, they arnt parents...or they themselves need the discaplin.

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  • by Anonymous on April 9th, 2009

    Anonymous

    When I was in 4th /5th grade I was talking with my mom on the couch and I said something to make her made and she slapped me across the face and left her hand print and left it read for several hours. I wish she would have spanked me instead which is what I normally get because then none could see. I hard to go to a girl scout meeting with my mom with a read face and with her hand print on my face. I never repeated that offense and I most have deserved the slap in the face.

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  • by bowlermommy07 on May 3rd, 2008

    bowlermommy07

    I was more than hit. Yes I have been hit in the face undeserved because I was only trying to get his hand out of my face when he told me I was a mistake once and another time when he wanted his own way and I was worthless. There was another time I was choked by him but the worst part of it was the molestation my whole life that he only got away with because of his last name. That part only stopped because of the continuous attempts at prosecution and the fact that I popped him one in the face the last time when I was about 15.

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  • by Anonymous on April 8th, 2007

    Anonymous

    My parents have never touched me in any inappropriate way, i think maybe once when i was around four they gave me a spanking with my pants on. I would never be able to forgive anyone including my parents if i was ever abused. It brings down a child's self esteem so much that they build a level of extreme anger. It makes me sick when i think about anyone hitting their child, if anyone is being abused i hope they realize how wrong it is and get out.

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  • by Cyndi Ninja on May 3rd, 2008

    Cyndi Ninja

    Only once did my mother ever slap me...and I deserved it. I was a mouthy, snotty 14 year old and I pretty much called her a b*tch. You can bet I never did that again.

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  • by jessie-rose on May 3rd, 2008

    jessie-rose

    yep
    i had to go to school with multiple black eyes and other facial bruises.
    he also told me he was going to kill me and dragged me across a gravel road.
    good times.

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  • by 89bravo on May 3rd, 2008

    89bravo

    My "dad" has only threatened me to kick me out and all that but thats it. I only got a few whippings (studded leather belt, hurt like a mother) but no abuse.

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  • by daisymae19 on April 8th, 2007

    daisymae19

    my dad never...he spanked me maybe 3 times in my life. My mom slapped me in the face once as a teenager...and I deserved it. I had no right to say what I did to her, and I have had to live the rest of my life knowing that I could never take back those words, which as a mother I know hurt her much worse then that slap hurt me.

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  • by MyKinKStar on January 14th, 2007

    MyKinKStar

    My Daddy never touched me, though we used to have some really great arguments. Nothing nasty or name calling, just him challenging my ideas, and teaching me how to stand up for what I believe in.

    My Mother took care of punishment or spankings, but they were NEVER brutal. I was probably 10 or 12 the last time she smacked my ass. It was when she caught me outside making igloos in a snowdrift by the fence with a friend who was staying for the weekend. We didn't have our coats on cause we'd gotten so hot and sweaty in the cold sunshine, which is a sure way to get sick, and she was really mad. I knew better, especially since I used to get earaches all the time, but like any kid, we'd gotten so caught up into building those great tunnels in the snow . . . Ah, the worse part was how Mother fussed in front of my friend, before she smacked my ass a few times as she sent us inside. In fact, the worst of any correction she ever did with me was when it was in front of others. It was embarassing - for me, for her. It's part of the baggage which has kept me from being an outgoing person, or venturing out into the world too much, for fear of those embarrassment feelings again.

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  • by nurse7263 on January 13th, 2007

    nurse7263

    My mom was on prednisone for a medical issue for a very long time - that medication causes major mood swings, so when she was angry...well let's just say I had more than one handprint shaped bruise on my face in my time.

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  • by JUSTNORMAL on January 13th, 2007

    JUSTNORMAL

    Only once do I recall my father slapping me on the face, and I said something to the effect "that didn't hurt." It didn't, but what did were his words..

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  • by Andy Is Wicked Married to Penal Colony on January 13th, 2007

    Andy Is Wicked Married to Penal Colony

    Thankfully, no.

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  • by The_Professional on January 13th, 2007

    The_Professional

    Yes.

    And they are not a part of my life as an adult - at all.

    I was able to survive it - and held in the anger. I think long run they will suffer more.

    I have learned that the best way to funnel a temper as an adult is thru vocabulary. There have been no repeats of temper like their level by me - although I do alow myself the privilege of being angry - but hitting etc - I do not. Only spoiled brats hit.

    I also work out quite abit.

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  • by jilly2 on January 14th, 2007

    jilly2

    My father and mom slapped me, and all I ever did was stand up for myself. I didn't show my ANGER but I went in my room and wrote hate notes in my best "brother" handwriting and signed it with my brother's name and snuck it on their pillows. I just loved seeing my brother in trouble.

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  • by Gingerminx on May 3rd, 2008

    Gingerminx

    Yes.

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  • by quack is whack on May 3rd, 2008

    quack is whack

    Yes. Myself and my brothers.

    Before my mom married my stepfather she did not believe in corporal punishment. I was well-behaved, and she and I had a mutual relationship based on repect for one another. But he not only spanked, he beat. I remember my first spanking ever, because not only did I not do anything wrong, but it was 20 lashes with a belt at age 7.

    I can also remember times that I would try to run away from being "spanked" with various objects - belts, coat hangers, brooms, large sticks... anything at hand. I personally was beaten until bleeding on a few occasions, as was my youngest brother, starting at age 4 - and again over things that to this day I do not believe warranted even a slap on the butt.

    I myself became extremely depressed at a very early age. I started having insomnia at age 10. I wouldn't sleep for days. My little brother did as well. When he was 6 he had such low self-esteem that he told me that he wanted to die because he thought that he was no good. Before my stepdad's beatings I had never felt so angry and violent myself (much better these days though). My little brother is now 10, and he has anger issues, which I personally believe to be a part of bipolar disorder (often misdiagnosed in young children as ADHD).

    When my stepdad started beating us, so did my mom. It caused our relationship to crumble entirely. I only started getting along with her well again after I was emancipated and moved out at age 15.

    So yes, I have been more than just spanked by my parents. And I don't think that it caused any good. It wasn't constructive - it was destructive.

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  • by Symbeline on May 4th, 2008

    Symbeline

    My mom did, that and a complete scheme of psychological fuckery she liked to dispense on other people, especially me since I was little and couldn't do anything about it. Fortunately though, I didn't stay with her long at all.

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  • by Anon on May 4th, 2008

    Anon

    Kinda, but now-a-days I think we get too out of hand with the whole "child abuse" thing. I mean, after I got spanked I never did it again, and if I did something really really bad (like pull a rug out from under my brother causing him to get a concussion) then I think I deserved to be hit.

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  • by denise on May 4th, 2008

    denise

    No, they were always loving and kind.

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  • by Pandora on May 31st, 2008

    Pandora

    Yes, my mom told me that I was going to stop smoking and I told her I was not (I knew that I wasn't ready and wasn't going to lie) When she repeated the request and I stood my ground, she kicked my ass. (it didn't help that a part of this argument was because I got caught cutting class for the umpteenth time and just got suspened for 5 days).

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  • by NOYB on April 2nd, 2009

    NOYB

    My mom slapped me across the face for being mouthy and spanked my rear end for all other offenses.

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  • by Tom 47 is back in his bear COAT on May 4th, 2008

    Tom 47 is back in his bear COAT

    No. I was busted on the bottom many times (deservedly), but never hit any other way. When I was older, ten or so, my folks made punishment a more difficult thing; loss of allowance, priveleges, extra work, etc. I think I really preferred the butt busting (lol).

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  • by Beauty Queen on May 4th, 2008

    Beauty Queen

    No they were very loving.

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  • by Anonymous on May 3rd, 2008

    Anonymous

    Yeah one time we were in the store and I hid behind one of the aisles and came out and tried to scare him and he got so scared that he hit me in the nose and It started bleeding.Almost could have broke my nose.

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  • by Butterfly on May 3rd, 2008

    Butterfly

    my dad hit when i was a kid... when ever i do something wrong... and sometimes get slapped on the face... i had a bad experince... but i learned from it though..

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