I'm 19, never had a girl friend before because of my shyness, fear of women, and now I tried alcohol and whilst intoxicated I think about myself being so useless, then I become sad and cry, is it likely that I will develop alcoholism?
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Babe, you need a therapist to sort out your issues with you.
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Just remember one thing about alcohol, it is a depressant.
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Awwwwww, I'm sorry about that. You're not old by any means, you have plenty of time for girlfriends. You just have to work on your confidence, and it'll happen. There are so many really shy girls who must be in the same situation as you. Anyway, I can get like that too. Generally under the influence of cider, cider always depresses me. I haven't in ages, actually. But I used to get really upset. Unless you start drinking too much, and using alcohol as a coping mechanism, you're not going to develop alcoholism. So don't you worry.
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Women aren't that scary unless you piss them off. 95% of getting ladies is your attitude and personality. If you can have a conversation with a girl without sweating or mumbling, you're over halfway to sleeping with her. Just calm down. Relaaaax. No one's going to think less of you for getting rejected. You have to talk to girls. You just have to. Your fear of alcoholism is a lot more real than your fear of girls. You can solve both by taking a deep breath and letting your natural charm go to work.
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no, usually people drink do drown their sorrows instead of beating themselves up more. You're young you have your whole life ahead of you. Put down the bottle and get out there and mingle, your lady is waiting for you :) Good luck
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Alcohol is not the solution, and drinking to escape is wrong. You need time and practice. Being cool is all about finding your rhythm, running to yourself not from yourself. Prepare for a majority failure rate, and work to succeed like with everything else.
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Cut down on the alcohol and start doing things that will boost your self confidence! Why do you think you are shy and afraid of women? After figuring that out you need to work on a solution. Drinking alcohol isn't going to solve any problems or help you with women. Plus, you're still young and there's so much more to experience in life. I'm 18 and never had a boyfriend - maybe for different reasons as you, but you just need to wait until it's the right time and the right girl for you comes along. You don't need to rush into any relationship that isn't "meant to be" because when it fails, you'll just be into more problems than you already are and may get worse. My suggestion would be to stay healthy and in shape; working out will boost your confidence and make you feel better. This could help you with your shyness? And it seems you realize what alcohol does to you, so maybe try to stay away from it. I hope this helps!
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To some people alcohol is their "kryptonite" while to others, is their "elixir of life". Clearly it's your "kryptonite". So I would suggest you not to drink often, if what I just typed just made any sense to you just then... And if you drink, don't drink by your self, take a along good friends who can support you when you feel like crap. I love alcohol but I seen it to many times that some people are just not born to drink it. Good luck with life, MetalRain
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My father was incredibly shy, and only felt like he could socialize after drinking. In his day, there was no understanding of Social anxiety. Some ppl do use alcohol to alleviate anxiety, as alcohol is a depressant. If you didnt enjoy the experience while drinking, I would think you wouldnt want to do it again. You dont always get a hit every time in baseball, or with meeting ppl. No need for perfection. Lower your expectations, and know that if they dont like you, it may be more about them than about you. Theres some one out there for you.
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Embrace your weaknesses. Talk a creative speaking class. and another and another, until you feel you are good at it. Easy college credit and overcome your fears. You will meet the best girls at school. I have told my daughters the exact same thing. Don't settle in High school. Go to college, You must major is something solid. But explore your options. If you haven't had at least one good relationship and one bad one by the time you graduate. Go to graduate school.
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