If she really loves you, she will say it. If she refuses to say it...I would seriously consider re-evaluating the relationship. After 2 years, she 'doesn't want it to get too serious'? What in all of creation is she waiting for, a decade? This is definitely a strange situation. You should talk to her about it. If she can't say she loves you to your face, then chances are that she doesn't love you at all. After dating for 2 years, I would say that definitely falls into the category of "VERY serious" relationship. Some people just have a problem saying 'I love you', but after 2 years...she should get over it. You deserve to hear it from her.

What she actullally said to you, is "[After 2 years with you,] I don't want it to get too serious." This is where she is in this relationship, her commitment. At this point it is more important to her to not be serious than it is to share her heart with you. Could be that she is afraid because she doesn't trust you. Could be that for her this is a wait-out relationship and she is waiting for something better to show up. Could be that this is an answer spurred by the momentary surprise of your question. The way to find out is observe what she does in her relationship to you, not just hear what she says.

Saying I Love you* Is Actually a very hard thing to do, because you should really only tell one person that you love them, mr/mrs right? Perhaps if she cant say it especially after 2 years, then she may not feel that you are Mr Right, and if you really do love her then have to persuade her she is wrong - you have to show her how much you love her. If it is the commitment, she isnt ready to give dont rush her because rushing her will only slow her down. Be gentle and continue to love her and eventually if your relationship is right she will (when shes ready)feel prepared to give her commitment into the relationship, but its not a easy thing - as i say you need to help persuade her that your the sort of guy she wants to spend her life with. Sometimes all that romance etc. is lost in the begining of relationships and you need to have a decent amount of it. An idea of what to do would be to ask her why she doesnt feel capable of saying she loves you? If she cant give you a honest answer - you should consider, if you are the only person in her life.. Its not a nice thought but you should always consider it. Hope this helps you! K.G

Me and my girlfriend are having a very similar problem, we have been together for almost two years, and all of a sudden she's starting to feel like she's not ready for the seriousness of the relationship. She doesn't want to break up with me either, she tells me that she doesn't want to loose me, but feels greedy because she doesn't feel like she wants things to be serious but knows that she doesn't want me to become less to her than I am now. I don't know what to do, this originally started out as her feeling like she isn't getting enough personal time, she just started a job where she works 12+ hour days and is traveling most of the week. I'm hoping this isn't the end of our relationship. But I don't know what to do, she doesn't want to break up with me, and I dont want to break up with her. We've had a lot of good times over the past two years. I want to help her feel like she is ready for this. Someone please help me.

News: 2 years into a relationship is serious. If someone doesn't want to say they love you after two years there is a serious immaturity problem going on.

What does she call two years in a relationship?