if he owes it to you from like borrowing from you and returning it, then yes, you should get it did you get trolled?

I'm not sure if I understand completely, but it sounds like he still owes your mother 10,000. If she sheltered, fed and clothed you until you turned 18, then she wouldn't owe you anything.

Child support is owed to the parent with custody, not directly to the child. Maybe your mother needs the money to take care of the bills she accumulated raising you without the required financial input from your dad? The money was never "yours"; the Court ordered it for your mother.

Fact is, he owed it to her. Why would she keep it from you? Wait, you said he owes 10,000 and your mother is keeping it from you? So does your mom have the money or is he in arrears for it? You lost me LOL

Ok first off...A little advice, it would seem that you need closer..not the money..Your 31 harping about money owed to your mom...not you. It was never yours by law in the first place..I say confront your dead beat dad, resolve the past issues of neglect, so you can move on an get a job an have money you earned.

Good try dude but I don't think your mother is gonna see any money from your dead-beat father and that means you won't see any either.

If your mother didn't have that money while you were underage and in her care, did she spend her own money on your needs? If yes, the money is hers as a reimbursment. If no, then I say it's yours. Also, from 18-22 if you went to college, he was legally obligated to pay support then, too. If you were out of mom's house at that time and paying for yourself at college, then I say support for those 4 years is yours. Also, for those of you who are calling the dad a deadbeat, you don't know the circumstances. Just because he owes money, doesn't necessarily make him a deadbeat. It depends. I know someone who pays support, but is in arrears of over $1500.00. When the ex put in the papers for support it was January. When they had the support hearing, it was September. The support payments are retroactive, meaning they go back to the time the original papers are put into the system (January). That's 7-8 months (depending on the days) of back child support that now has to be paid. I know this person does not have $1500.00 extra. This person is having a hard time making ends meet, but still pays the support. The other person in question has a nice house, new car, and is making decent money. My friend is barely able to pay for a small apartment, has an old car that needs repairs, and is not making much money. If the car goes, the job also goes (it's a rural area, so a car is important). The state does not make any distinctions between people who owe because they are deadbeats and people who owe for other reasons, so they get on everyone's case. My friend has been threatened with jail, loss of driver's license, and has had bank accounts frozen--all for lack of payment on this $1500.00, even though back payments have been added to current support payments. It is a slow process. My own brother has trouble with support payments. He lives in PA. In that state, they can take all of a person's wages except $550.00/month. You could make $2000.00/month, but will have only $550.00/month to live on, even for just one child. They are taking almost all his money for just one child, a child his ex does not allow him to see. If he makes one cent more, she takes it. He has to sometimes find ways to earn money she doesn't know about just so he can keep the car running so he can get to his job. If she finds out about that money, she is entitled to it and he would have to pay her. Doesn't make him a deatbeat, just desperate. OK, I'll get off my soap box now. I say you might be able to claim some of that money, but it depends on the situation. Maybe, if your mom is nice, she will give you some of that money. I suggest you see a lawyer (or a legal aid lawyer because they are free) to find out for sure what is going on. Just wanted to clear that up a little.

Don't be muppet. Now, stop behaving like a spoiled brat before somebody notices and everybody stops talking to you. Why don't you see if McDonalds have any vacancies instead.

No i dont think so, why at 31 can you not make your own way in life? The money is owed to your mother.

I think maybe your mom and you should split what he owes now...Because it was supposed to be for her to take care of you .(SHelter ,food,bills,etc.)Instead she had to do it all without the help of the child support owe to her.Therefore its owed to her, but she should do the moral thing and give you half so you can have somewhat of a better life like you could of had when you were little.

If you are lucky, maybe your mom will leave you a few bucks in her will.

go get a job. 31 is not a child. time to grow up and grow some kahunas

No...anything paid in child support belongs to your mother. Any child support owed, is owed to your mother.

At 31, you should be supporting yourself. That past unpaid child support money is never going to appear, and even if it did, it would go to your mother. One of these days she may need you to help her. Life has a quaint way of reversing roles between parent and child. So, forget about getting the money your deadbeat father failed to provide for your care years ago. Think and plan ahead for the time when you may need to provide money for your mother's care and support. While you're at that, also think and plan and work towards providing for your own support in your later years. Nobody owes you anything.

I feel the question is way outta line...You're the GROWN child saying you need the money that your mom is keeping from you and that your dad has paid her for child support...CHILD SUPPORT! 31???? WOW! I'm befuddled indeed!!! I wish my ex, the father of my four grown children would pay me half of the money he has NEVER paid me for child support and I would DARE one of my children to feel it owed to them...I'm the one who cooked, cleaned, wshed dirty clothes and noses, did the entire school thing, the prom, the clothing, the food, the doctors...OMG! YOU my friend are simply amazing!

I am a 44 yr. old man that has been paying my Court Ordered Child Support for the last six years. I have been paying monthly and will continue to do so for the next 8 yrs. It is my responsibility and my obligation from my decision to become a father to two little girls. I don't begrudge any thing or anyone for having to pay my support. I have severe thoughts and words for those parents who do NOT pay their obligations.....SHAME ON YOU! To answer your question...I feel...that the money I pay should be divided up into what is needed for survival and what I would consider to be a trust for my daughters. My ex is now remarried..and she and her husband both work full time and make plenty. My support is going to things other then taking care of the kids...but I pay still..as I am required to do. Your mother owes you Nothing....she slaved to make ends meet I am sure....your FATHER is who should make reperations to you....your FATHER is the one....go after him! But like the others who answered...you are now 31....maybe best to let the water pass under the bridge..and move on....just let your mom know that you love her and appreciate all she did to raise you with OUT your Fathers help!