How do you feel about arranged marriages between spouses from different parts of the world when the two parties are virtual strangers? Some would call this "mail order" brides.
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I watched something about arranged marriages in India, and the husbands would live in Canada and this one girl got married to his picture and was promised to move to Canada with him, but she was pretty much just used as a maid in his parents house in India and they just married her for the dowry(sp?) then He divorced her in Canada and she had no Idea of the divorce! I think the show was called Run away Grooms. Arranged marriages are stupid in this day and age, but I would not consider them "mail order" brides.
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I happen to think it's a wonderfuly outdated practice. Arranged marriages happens to have a signifigantly lower divorce rate than not, but because of what I've been taught of marriages, I'd find it awkward.
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When you say arranged... do you mean arranged by other people or arranged by themselves? I have no problem with any situation if both parties are willing participants in it and have the ability to end the arrangement if they choose. If you are talking about marriages that people are forced into by their families then I think it's outdated and probably not emotionally healthy. I don't think anyone should be forced into a relationship against their will.
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Historically it has been done for a long time. The older male partner usually offers a stable home and economic security and the younger female partner offers virginity, wifely sexual service, housekeeping and child rearing. This seems to be the equation we see over and over and over again in many cultures and many religions....
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As long as both partners end up being happy and the family is choosing with the intention of finding the best possible partner for their child (nice, good looking, etc) then it sounds ok. That said, i stopped my parents setting me up like 10 times. They probably made some pretty good choices i just wasn't ready.
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Some of the marriages do actually work. Most women agree to it because of the free trip to the us along with a shiny new citizenship just by saying "i do." Most women dont think the consequences of what they may be getting into will outweigh the benefits. Most (if not all) men who sign up for the service are doing it because they want a legal way to have a slave for ALL purposes that cant argue back, or they are very very desperate. They want the "ideal" wife that most only read about these days. I think it would be very hard for love to spring from these arrangements. I think it is very dangerous and should not be allowed, or very closely monitored to make sure everythings normal(like they do with adopted children).
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I believe it's okay... if you been with somebody for a long time, your eventually going to pick up what the person is thinking, what the person is going to say, you basically know that person and it's soo predictable... there would be no mystery, no spark or no romance.... and that's big trouble... but if you married a complete stranger, you guys would have alot of romance, spark, and mystery... lets say you dated somebody since you were in high school, now your 34.... yeah you might love them forever still. but you desire for excitment still so i stand by arrange marriage.
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