ANSWERS: 46
  • After I made my position clear, sure. That person can't DO much w/o my cooperation.
  • of course I would continue it. A true friend is a friend regardless and hard to find. If they insisted on making advances after I made it clear i was not interested, I would have to end friendship.
  • I would be flattered. It would be the same if it happened with someone from the opposite sex. The friendship would last.
  • that is pretty gay...JK no i would just say look man were friends and that's how i want it to remain.
  • ..this happened to me..not just feelings..but love..and i'm still friends with that person..we're best friends actually and she has found herself someone..and says that the feelings are gone
  • No, I would not. This is not a 'homophobic' response; I would react the same way if a woman friend expressed feelings for me.
  • This friend, co-worker, neighbor, alien... can have all the feelings they want for me. I can't help it that I am amazing. I don't have feelings for them and that is where it ends. They would just have to get over it and move onto a woman that digs chicks in that way.
  • I would be a little weirded out, but I would do what I could to retain the friendship, but make sure I never made it seem like anything romantic was part of my inclinations.
  • Probably not. I would be getting what I wanted from the friendship but they would not. Doesn't seem fair.
  • Yes, if we were both very clear with each other on our sexual preferences. And the other person was able to continue our friendship on the basis that their feelings would be unrequited. Nor would they be exploited.
  • Yes, but only if it was a good friendship anyway. Granted, my friends are usually pretty smart so they wouldn't say those things even if they had those feelings-knowing my thoughts on the subject already.
  • Absolutely. I would value their honesty and sensitivity and be quite flattered. I am not at all opposed to same-sex relationships, so that would not bother or offend me at all. I think that I tend to be very intense in friendships sometimes, in at least that I take it very seriously and invest a lot into it. If a friend was actually gay and misconstrued my feelings, I would understand that intensity in any relationship can get blurred. As long as there is communication and common interest of maintaining the relationship that exists, I doubt it would be a big issue for me.
  • Sure. I'd say that I appreciated their honesty and enjoyed the friendship, but didn't want to take things to the next level. After a couple of months, I might see about playing matchmaker and hooking the friend up with another lesbian so she could be happy.
  • I would as long as they had some sort of concept of what boundaries mean? If they didn't, or lacked the ability to learn... That would be on them, not me!
  • I've been in that situation at least three times that I can recall, possibly more. I had no problem continuing the friendship if the other person was still comfortable with it-- after I clearly explained that I wasn't interested in being "more than friends". No big deal, usually.
  • I would explain that I dont feel the same way and ask them to leave it at that.
  • That happened to me twice but the last time was about 25 years ago. Unfortunately, it scared me so badly and I was young, I didn't know how to handle it. There was a component of feeling a loss of trust and disappointment so I avoided her calls. I was young and stupid. Fortunately about 4 years ago I ran into her again and was able to let her know how much I missed our friendship. We've kept in contact since and her wife is very jealous of any other relationship K has (which is another issue all together). If it were to happen again, I would handle it differently without fear and with respect for her feelings. I would thank her for her trust and the lovely compliment then gently remind her that I prefer men. I believe at that point we would talk about it and continue the friendship as it was and hopefully will continue to flourish.
  • Is the friend hot? Will anybody else ever find out?
  • i'll answer from a straight man's perspective since the question calls for it. it would be awkward for me and i would tell the person i was straight and it's cool if we hang out but i dont have any interest of being with him that way.
  • Sure. As long as they respected that I wasn't interested in them that way. I don't see it as any different than someone of the opposite sex "having feelings for you" and you weren't interested.
  • no way. and never talk to them again.
  • am neither straight nor gay... and i don't pretend with people either way, try to maintain spiritual relationship with everyone. So With the question, it's happened before and it always makes me uncomfortable, and usually if i see the person, i'll duck out of site. not saying this is right, but it's what i seem to do.
  • Maybe just sex but no kissing.. I'm open minded but not into the lifestyle.
  • No because they would be trying to figure out a way to be with you and keep you away from others.
  • no, I had to stop having same sex gay friends for that very reason, it just got old and makes things too weird for me. I am very uncomfortable with that.
  • I would continue the friendship but I would be extra careful with them though.
  • Yes, as we are still friends, but i made it clear that there could never be anything else.
  • I'd have no problem continuing the friendship as long as we each knew where the boundries were ...
  • No. All those times I let them spoon me. <shudders>
  • I would not let the friendship die because of that but I would make it clear that I was not interested in the same way.
  • Yes, I did. .
  • i think so but i would be uncomfortable.
  • Sure! Honest limit-setting works wonders. You may even turn out to be better friends once that bug-a-boo is outta the way! ;-)
  • Are you saying that you are developing feelings for me? Why are my pants getting tight in front?
  • It might make it a little weird or uncomfortable for me. You would be watching what you said or did for fear of leading them on or something. It would change things I think.
  • Sure. but like everyone else, they're gonna have to pay to see it.
  • of course...i continue my friendships with guy friends that have feelings for me...just because i'm not interested doesn't mean i don't love them as a person and we can't still be friends
  • personally i would cool it
  • Of course, wouldn't bother me, a friends a friend after all.
  • yes, but just friends.
  • Yes, but make it clear that it's only friendship, so that they can begin to move on.
  • Same situation, regardless of gender/sexuality. I'd remain friends with them, however there would be a slight air of awkwardness at times.
  • If He took no for a answer I could.
  • yes i do think i would continue to be friends with them, just because im not interested in them doesn't mean i cant still be friends with them. Your friend will get over their feelings soon enough and things will be normal again.
  • this has happened to me and i tried to remain friends but it didn't really work out becuz she started having strong feelings for me and try to ruin my relationship with my bf at the time. and becuz of her lies me and the bf broke up.

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