I started going out with my best friend recently. We used to talk every day, but now he doesn't call, and doesn't return my calls. What's going on?
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eva2004
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While it is usually the best way to begin a relationship, friends don't always make perfect couples. I would hesitate on making a definitive answer about the problem you are facing in your relationship, simply for the lack of information given. I mean, how long were you friends, how long has it been since you last talked, have you seen him elsewhere. I'd say if it hasn't been too long since you last talked and you haven't seen him at all, i wouldn't jump to any conclusions. The reason that being friends usually makes for a more successful relationship is that you learn to communicate better. That is just what you need here, communication. if he was your best friend, you'll be able to track him down and corner him. when you do, just express exactly how his actions have made you feel and ask him exactly what's going on. Speaking your mind and wanting your partner in any relationship to speak theirs is never a bad thing. i'd just find out exacltly what is going on before you make any decisions.
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The transition from a platonic friendship to a rerlationship with the same boy, is fraught with problems. Intimacy changes people and sometimes these changes are unfavourable. While his best friend you were likely concealing your true feelings for him in the event that he didnt feel the same way. Once a connection was established, you probably felt free to express the emotions that were hitherto hidden. They may have come as a bit of a shock to your boyfriend, and he may now be wondering if he has got himself in too deep. I suggest that you allow things to settle, and if he hasnt called in a few days, then you call him. Dont put him on the defensive by demanding explanations. Suggest a meeting and bring the conversation around to what he expects from the relationship.
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