If I were happily married, do you think I'd give you my secret?

Nope, he is the one that had too many secrets

Yes... we're mature people who have similar outlooks on life and who don't have any psycho aspects to our personalities. You have to be mature enough to not be self-centered or selfish. Similar attitudes toward your ideas of fun, spending money, spending spare time are important. Good senses of humor, and the desire and willingness to talk. Realistic expectations from a marriage. The guy is probably usually the source of problems or stresses, and I'm neat and I do things around the house (do the dishes, bake, vacuumed yesterday w/o being asked, do my own laundry) and with the kids. . I've also read that there are about 6 ways of showing and receiving attention and appreciation that it's important to be aware of and cater to in your parner - eg, physical cuddling & closeness, talking, giving gifts... can't remember the rest. If a woman needs lots of closeness and cuddling but a guy only associates it with sex, that's a source of conflict. If a guy doesn't talk, that's bad. . I've also heard that a woman's most important things are typically love and security, while a man's first need is respect, so the woman needs to let him have his masculine aspects too, and not try to totally domesticate him.

Respect and tolerance.

Yes, and Just dont sweat the small stuff.

Yes.Pick someone who values the same things that you do and it will make things so much easier ;)