by speedo7 on December 1st, 2008

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My 19 year old daughter goes to college about an hour away. She comes home on weekends -but stays with her boyfriend. Then she doesn't call but still wants us to pay her bills. Is she being selfish or do we have unrealistic expectations%

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  • by Ms.A on December 1st, 2008

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    She needs to start paying her own way.

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  • by mamamc on December 1st, 2008

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    I was the same .She loves you and cares and might feels bad because she knows it's unfair....She's discovering another life now and she already knows you two.Once college and boyfriend are a stable part in her life she'll be more around you.

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  • by riley815 on May 1st, 2010

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    Communication is the key. Remember your still the older, wiser, parent. Tell her exactly what is hurting you and ask her to fix it. If she acts like your being over emotional. Turn the table in your favor tell her if she tell you how to feel you can tell her how to feel,"starve". Stop the conversation, hang up, ask her to leave what every. Make her know that you do pay for her lively hood or at least some of it. This is not a tactic to harm. It will start an argument. You will hurt each others feelings. The key is to start the Communication. At this point be the Adult take some of the blame. Then build on some guidelines.

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