1.) Do not call him. 2.) Do not call him. 3.) Do not email him. 4.) Do not IM him. 5.) Do not call him. 6.) Get rid of everything he got for you. 7.) Learn to redirect your thoughts. 8.) Do NOT call him. 9.) Do not contact him by any means. 10.) Get a copy of the book "Why We Love" by Helen Fischer. This anthropologist studied the biochemistry of romantic infatuation and love, and the book will explain why I have given you this advice. Above all else: Do NOT contact him. He doesn't deserve you. If you take him back, it will just show him that he can behave like this without losing you. You have no emotionally safe future with this guy.

You deserve so much more than this. He begged for you back before and you gave him a chance. I get that you love him, but he's not going to stop hurting you and you deserve someone who'll love you and treat you with respect. Get some of your friends around to support you, cry until you're out of tears for him, then go out and find someone better than he'll ever be (shouldn't be hard). Wishing the best for you and i know you'll find someone better.

What's the point of even posting this question? You know good and well what the answer is. You need to dump his ass and move on. He doesn't love you and he will never change. Give it up. Move on. How could you be with someone that cheated on you twice? And I'm not some angry girl that is out to get every cheating guy out there. I'm actually a guy myself and feel that cheating is disgusting. I strongly believe that once you're a cheater, you'll always be a cheater. So dump his sorry ass, remove him out of your life completely, and go find yourself a better man that'll treat you 10 times better!

I mean this with great compassion: Get some professional help. You need to strengthen your self confidence and move forward. There is an old saying: Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. You need to believe that you're worth more than this. Until you do, you will continue to be a heartbroken victim.

You are in pain now. You could get back with him, get married have a child, and then take the chance of him cheating again. You will really be in pain worse than now. He has shown you that he does not respect you. He will only hurt you more.

OMG cry do whatever just dont go back stop calling him this will only happen more

DO NOT GET BACK WITH HIM. Somewhere i read that one should never make another person their everything because when they leave you have nothing. and i think this may just be your case. If you love yourself you wouldn't go back to someone that makes you feel this horrible.

Is his name John by any chance? Sounds like an old flame of mine. I know these will sound like hollow words to you right now - because you're in so much pain - much easier said than done - but you need to let this one go - don't let him waste another day in your life. Do whatever it takes for you to keep busy and your mind off of him. For those times when you can't help BUT think about him - don't sidetrack yourself thinking about the good times, happy times, and dreams you two shared together and basically torturing yourself with thoughts of missing him. Remember what HE has done to get you to this spot. If you start feeling angry - that's normal - just be sure it's directed towards the deserving party - dont let your anger get misdirected and start doing self destructing things that will further complicate your well being (drinking too much, drugs, rebound sex, etc). Spend this time turning a negative into a positive through personal growth; Read self-help books, write in a journal, talk to your friends & family, and if you don't start feeling better & stronger you might need the assistance of a good counselor to help you work your way through this time of hardship. Good luck - I know first hand how much this hurts - but you need to accept the reality of it - he's showed you who he really is - do you REALLY still want him? Or are you mourning the person you thought he was or maybe wanted him to be?

Please don't be a doormat. Take some time away from home, have a pleasant (as possible) daytrip or two to some simple, beautiful place in the countryside. Look at your fear of being alone. Really assess the fear. Spend some positive, creative, meditative time in solitude. Only when you can be as comfortable (or more so) alone than with a partner, should you ever start the search for another partner. Watch it...the last part is a bit tricky.

No contact. And that means NO CONTACT. The pain is real and it is horrible but it will get better each day if you work towards moving on. Once you go in that direction and have been there a while, you will see this as clearly as others looking in do. You deserve better. Whenever you feel yourself wanting him back, remember the pain he caused ... and if that does not work, think of this - if you did this to him would he beg you to take him back? It's doubful. If your best friend or sister or mother went through this, what would your advice be to them? It would be to drop him because he is not worth it. Your new mantra... "I deserve better!" because you do.

You should have dumped him the first time he cheated on you, because either: 1. Once a cheater, always a cheater.. or 2. Once he has cheated once..it's VERY hard to ever gain back the full trust you had for them. Trust me, I've had experience, lol...

There is all these people here pleading with you not to call him and to move on etc... probably because most of us have been through this pain or something similar. But it doesn't matter what we say... does it? YOU know the rational/sensible answer to your question... right? But your feeling so emotional... you can't think straight... and the strength of your painful feelings want to take control. You can try the painful process of getting over him now... or later... thats your choice... but you know that going back to him will relive your pain... but only temporarily, and so your love becomes an addictive drug.... In the long run, you will go through this again... you know it ... as well as the pain of never trusting him. When your ready... it's time.. to go through it!To let go! The only control you have is when, and as we all feel your pain... there are people ready to be there for you... until the day the sun shines again and you feel the first butterflies of your next love... and when you meet him... you will know better and be a stronger person! ps... don't let your emotions control you.. take charge... take control over them and it will change your life!

either you really are blindly in love with the guy, or your just daft. my opinion is to dump him and find someone that actually deserves to be with you.

You should follow your intuition never take the advice of someone who wouldn't know what to do without his or her own intuition we are simultaneous one and many yet ultimately one all in all being that you have a monogamous gene within perhaps desiring the truth in it purity justifying it's definition.You can leaf through the dictionary and discover the meaning of the multitudes understandings of feelings and thoughts expressed by words.You may even choose to forgive.We only live once what is an attachment if not one accord.Chaos expands with an unopened mind,express your life with one page how many will know you without a book? Another chapter another name in the end lodi dah ..im intoxicated don't be offended.

Unless you want a life of this pain......... forget him and find a real man.

I stuck around for round three, and it was a real knockout. For me... It took that last time for me to finally understand that it would never, ever stop. So, I collected every ounce of self-respect I had, and ignored the urge to call him or track him down. And, one year later I met the man that I am still with today. He values my trust and tells me so. My ex now wants me back (12 yrs later) but he has not changed a bit. I told him to forget it. It felt good too. Hang in there, the pain will give way to anger, and when it does - stay angry! It is what you must do until you are healed enough to forgive him.

Don't make him your world. Get into work or a hobby. At least that will pay off more. Cut your loses and enjoy life. Start dating. Don't you want someone who wants you? You deserve faithfulness. Good luck.

If he cheated on you it means he's not serious. Why you waste your life and energy?

Dump him and don't look back!!!

I was married for 18 long years, and when my husband didn't want to have responsibilities any more, he went to an attorney and filed for a divorce. He never even spoke to me about it. I found out when I received the divorce papers in the mail. It hurt at first, I cried every day for over a month, maybe even 2. But now I'm fine with it. I wonder how I could have been married to the jerk for so long! It will take time to heal, same with all wounds, a broken heart is no different. You've got to stop calling him and asking him to come back to you. You deserve better.

Dump this idiot and find somebody who is worth it.

You need to stop begging him, that shows weakness and desperatness. You dont need to marry him nor have any kids with him at all. You need need grow a backbone and move on with your life and let a good man find you that will respect you like a man should.

no one deserves to be cheated on. if he did it once shame on him, but he did it twice so shame on you

DUMP HIS ASS!!!!!!!!!

why would you want to marry a cheater? why would you want your future childrens father to be a cheater who cheats on their mother? DUMP HIS ASS.. he obviously doesnt put a high value on your relationship. Find someone worth spending your life with...

Honestly for your own good and your self respect do not get back with him. People like this will NEVER change. No matter how much you want them to treat you better, or do things that will benefit you both, he will never change. You can only control what you do. Don't write, text, email, ask a friend about him,or especially call. This will only make things worse, trust me I've been there. im still going through a similar situation. My ex broke up with me on my birthday, but left me for someone else. He was my first everything love, sex partner, everything. I mean I poured my entire heart out to him, I did everything for him ALWAYS no MATTER what. He was emotionally abusive and very few but he did put his hands on me. I was stupid in love with him to forgive him, and stayed, until he left me. All these promises and no show for it. But when we broke up I discovered how to love me through GOD and I have an extremly postive outlook on life. So things change for a reason. Just stay strong.

Im sorry that your feeling heartbroken...but that feeling wont last forever. Please dont take that cheating freak back...go and talk to a grief councellor while you heaql then work on your self esteem. You will come through a stronger person and wiser person...!

Life is too short to waist your time on a relationship that is going nowhere.. You need get some therapy to be able to get rid of him.

Well the way you say WE are very SERIOUS. It just sound like you. He can not be serious if he has done that twice to you. ( Hope things turn better for you )

i think its obvious... since u dont have any kids with the guy, dont keep him around and risk the chance of having kids, u dont want kids with a guy u cant trust.... u shoulda got rid of him the first time he did it and u definately should now after the 2nd time. the only people who deserve to have someone cheat on them are those who cheat.

dump this kinda ass bf, so impossible , it may get worse after marriage

Sorry to say so, but I think you are better off going through the pain now, then later. 2 times in 2 years is a bit high, and it is only predicting the future. The longer you stay in this relationship, the more you will get hurt if he does it again. Once can be a painful mistake made by him. But the second time: he knows that his actions hurt you a lot, and he obviously didn't care enough for you, otherwise the though of you being hurt would have stopped him. With your behavior you are showing him that he can do whatever he wants. He has hurt you bad, and still you beg him to come back. That's really convenient for him, you are rewarding him for his behavior. At the same time you are putting yourself down. Don't do that, you are worth much more then that. I'm very sorry for you, as it must hurt like hell. But again, it's better to take your life back in your own hands. Stop him from hurting you and end this relationship. Find yourself someone who is worth it. Who loves you so much that he doesn't want to hurt you just for his own pleasure.

well my dear after being married to a cheater who finally let me a six month and a 4 yr old for a younger girl we split i did what you did and it was hard but believe me you deserve so much better then that and it will take time but you will get over it... once a cheater always a cheater and when he comes back this time dont take him back