So, I am 20. I like this guy- but he is 30 years old. I still feel too young to be dating someone that old but he is so genuine and kind. He says he wants a relationship where he can settle down and have children- i really like him. Adivce?
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When exactly does he want kids? Because that could be a problem if you aren't going to be ready for awhile. I would say give it a try though.
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Go for it. What's the worst that could happen? You break up?
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use caution... a lot of caution. chances are he just wants a young piece of booty and will then get rid of you altogether. sorry, but thats the way it usually goes.
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thank you so much.
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age dont mater, but the best part is the older ones are more mature , skip all the trouble of younger men, save the heart ache, and go for it!!
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Age difference is more of a culture thing. For some culture this is quite within the normal range for a man who is older than the woman. But don't go and tell yourself it's alright then since you'll have to confront all the people around you and the question is can you live with such a difference when you're living in a culture that may find it a bit "rare" for lack of a better word.
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What do you want? He's ready to settle down...are you? Therein lies the question.
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It really depends where both of you are in life. I have a friend who is dating a guy that is 9 1/2 years older than her, she is 20 and he is almost 30. They are great together, he has already graduated college and he's in law school right now, and she is getting her undergrad degree in biology then going to pharmacy school. they work well together because they are on similiar paths. if you two are going in the same direction it will work. but you also want to be aware that you may feel like you've 'lost' your 'glory days' by jumping into a relationship with an older man and in return you may hold resentment towards him for "taking you away from your youth" just be careful and TAKE IT SLOW. good luck
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If he treats you right, don't let the age number make you second guess your feelings for him...
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10 years aint that bad. if it works out, it works out. if you like him see where it goes....
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You are no longer a child, and I don't see that as creepy once you aren't a child. I've been married to a man 10 1/2 years older than me for 11 years. I couldn't be happier. Past a certain point, the age difference doesn't really matter anymore. It seems like a lot when you are a kid and the other person is an adult. But when you are both adults, it just doesn't matter that much. Age differences like that were very common until recently. What really matters is that you are both committed to the relationship and to each other. There is a lot of self sacrifice in a good marriage. And that self-sacrifice has to be on the part of both parties or one will be the other's doormat. If you both have your priorities straight and each is willing to put the other first, especially after you have kids, you'll do fine.
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Go with your heart, not your head on this one. Life is precious and we rarely meet someone we really really like enough to even consider settling down with. See how things go with this guy, if it doesn't work then at least you tried, if you don't try then you may regret it. Btw, 10 yrs is nothing these days. My best friend started seeing his g/f 4 yrs ago when she was 19 and he was 29. They are really really happy together. its all about how you fit together mentally.
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