Ignore them. Walk away. Bear in mind that these people are shit-bags and mean nothing. When it comes to them speaking like that when your kids are around, that's even more disgusting... I would invest in some music players. I honestly think this is the best solution.

First of all, no one should be calling you a ho or a slut. 2nd of all do you have a relationship with the Lord? Because, he thinks of you alot differently than others. When your feeling all alone, He is there with you, and you can call upon him. Are you in a serious relationship with someone? Whatever the matter, God says your precious, and you are the apple of His eye. He also says that, "Your body is His temple", and He does not want none of us to defile His temple. Jesus loves you. Please just ponder everything I've just said. God Bless.

O wow .. that would be so hurtful. I am so sorry this happens to you. I can get testy and potty mouthed but I am not big on those who put others down and hurt them for the fun of it. I know ignoring it would be hard but it is the right thing to do. At 19 with three kids.. I would hope you planned the kids in a secure and stable enviorment. Otherwise.. I would have to say women need to show themselves more respect than to be baby breeding machines all because they are too lazy to get on birth control. We have too many girls out there having babies with just any ole guy they lay with and the kids are the ones who pay for it. Fatherless kids are pitiful and effect our world greatly. Women who are not responsible in protecting themselves contribute to the bad effect it has on our society.

Ignore them and consider the source. They are ignorant, hateful people. Just be sure to teach your kids to be the opposite of these name callers! :)

Ignore them and get them out of your life. You don't need negative influences like that around your kids. They are obviously imbeciles for saying these things infront of children. As long as you're a good mother it doesn't matter what people think or say of you.

What is it with these tic-turds that always think they have to give their unsolicited opinions about other people? You must be strong, and ignore these idiots as best as possible. And, when they do this in front of your children, just bend down on one knee, look each child in the eye, and tell them that you love them with all your heart and that nothing anyone else says means a thing. Your children will learn a valuable lesson from this. Just remember, when people offer these opinions, they WANT a response from you, so they can ATTACK. Please be strong and ignore it.

Move! it sounds like a horrible place to live.

Dont listen to people that bring you down. My parents had me and my sister when they were 14, we both turned out ok, and my parents were great. I remember my moms family saying things like that to her and say she would never make anything of herself because of it.(strange how she is the only one of 8 kids to obtain a college degree)......my point is,...prove them wrong, and you wont even hear their insignificant rants anymore.

Sweetie slow down with the kids.I would tell them as long as you don't have to take care of them don't worry about it.

Ask them to please not say those things infront of your children. First of all they are quite immature about it because they are calling you that and even more immature when they call you that infront of children. However I do recognize that three kids at 19 is a symptom of a problem that they are pointing out in a inappropriate manner. I would consider what drove you to sleep with their father(s) and if that is still driving you now. Because this behavior obviously needs to stop. People change and you can too. Know you've done wrong in the past but what you did in the past shouldn't define who you are.

Sweetness, There are always going to be people who don't like you, what you've done, what you havent done, what you are, or arn't and nothing is going to change this fact. Just ignore them. They are expressing their opinion of you in a pretty immature way. If it helps any, remember - for every person who calls you a slut, another five have thought that they are you little brothers or sisters.

It must be a terrible place that you live and shop at. Theres not much you can do but insult them back. Three kids at 19 is an extreme anomaly and the "slut" appeal is very strong, i wouldn't go so far as say it aloud but the thought is still there. Find a stable husband and try to avoid living in trailor parks, it negatives your aura. Dress sophisticated, people respect a woman wearing a suit as opposed to short shorts and a low cut "party naked" t-shirt.

(I'm telling you like how I told my cousin.)Well, ARE you a slut or a whore? Hell, mistakes happen (if it WAS a mistake). I could not give a damn if some one was to say i was a slut and THEY are not there to change my kids pamper, supply them with milk/formula, OR to rush them to the hospital when they are sick. You should beat the s_it out of the next one that call you that.

I would simply ignore them or tell them to get a life. It is disguisting what they are saying to you and to say it in front of your kids is even worse.

Sounds to me that you're a MOM and not a hoe or slut. Please distance yourself from these people as much as possible. Raise your kids as best you can and walk with your chin high. Namecallers will always find reasons to call people names because that's what they do. Only a generation or two ago, 19 was a common age to have kids, then all of a sudden women started having kids at age 40 when there are a lot more health risks. When you're 40 and you have adult children, you'll be happy you had them early. Peace and luck to you!

IGNORE.. :) it takes two to tango :p they will get tired eventually.. and tell your babies that its not true.

These are people you should try to get away from, not for you but for your kids...You should tell them exactly how it is, why are they worrying about about your life when they have their own to live. no one is perfect and you may have made a mistake but at least your facing it with your head up high. Thay've made mistakes too and they're probably trying to justify them by pointing out yours. dont worry about it, if they dont like it tell them to get the hell out of your life. i got pregnant at 15 and i heard lots of things from many people but as long as you know you're doingthe right thing, its ok.

Ignore them, avoid them (they aren't your friends), where are you taking your kids that you all are together around people who talk like that? If it's family and you can't avoid them, then ask them to please not talk that way around the children, it makes them feel bad about themselves. Show them that you're not! And good luck to you. (ps., the word is whore, not hoe, that's something you use in the garden)

It appears you may well have some patterns of behavior that are not exactly healthy for you or for your children. HOWEVER...anyone who would say such hurtful things in such a hurtful manner in front of your children is hardly in a position to speak of what is right or wrong. I would urge you to start looking for different, better more supportive people to bring into your life. I would also strongly suggest that you begin investing a lot more time thinking about yourself, your children, what you want...I mean what you REALLY WANT to create as your life. You didn't mention if you are married, have been married or if the children all have the same father. If you are married to a man and he is the father of all three or at least two of your children, then I would assume you are working on having a successful, supportive marriage. In this case, while having three children by the age of 19 is rather a big load to shoulder, it wouldn't make you a slut or a whore. It's not optimum for your physical health, the health of the children or even your mental, emotional health to have children close together, but THAT is another issue! If you've never been married, you don't know who the father is for them, or each has a different father, then truth be told, you are living a life that is on a pretty destructive course. As Crass and unfeeling as "these people" are in their presentation of opinion regarding you, they might mean well. (There is NO EXCUSE for saying such things in front of children at anytime regarding anyone, especially about the Mother!) In addition to removing yourself from people of this type, ask yourself some hard questions. Do you respect yourself, or do you sleep around hoping to find love? Do you think first of having a good time, or do you think about how your behavior will effect your children? Do you "put up with" being treated any old way, hoping someone will come along to care about you and your kids? Have you taken advantage of any educational programs in your area that would teach you a real marketable skill so that you can provide for yourself and your children WITHOUT help from anyone else? Do you park your kids in front of the TV or read them stories, play games with them, color, or sing songs together? Did anyone do these things for YOU when you were growing up? Are you truly satisfied...truly HAPPY with your life? If you are not, if you are hoping SOMEONE, a man, will bring you to the happy, content, and safe feeling life you would like to have...you may need to rethink things. No one but YOU can really change how your life is. You do it by deciding what you want and then by working hard to create it. It's not easy for anyone, it's especially not easy if you are a single mother of three, and perhaps even more of a challenge if you are 19 and unskilled. I'm not saying you ARE any of these things, you didn't say; but I am challenging you to consider where you are today, and where you would like to be in the next five years when you will be 24. If you want to attract BETTER QUALITY people into your life, you have to be willing to BECOME a better quality person. How you choose to speak, to write, to present yourself WILL draw similar types of people TO YOU. Are the people in your life right now the types of people you really want to be friends with? Do they support your becoming self supporting, do they support you reaching your goals? Do they encourage you to become more than you are? Do they offer kindness and do they accept YOUR kindness to them...in an exchange that is fair and reasonable... or do they take advantage of YOU and perhaps allow you to take advantage of them in ways that make you weak? Although you carry responsibilities that are far greater than most 19 year old girls would normally have to deal with, your life is FAR FROM OVER! You are not alone, but you do still have many positive options you can choose to take to create the life you want, once you decide exactly what that life would be! You love your kids, you chose to have them, now kick it up a notch and start loving YOURSELF too. You are A MOM, this can make you a very powerful woman, and lead you to making decisions that will bring you success in having a stable life, where you don't have to listen to people say hurtful things to YOU or in front of your children. YOU have not failed, you simply have a few more challenges to choose to face, perhaps some changes to make in your choices going forward. If...you want to find a new way of treating yourself as you deserve to be treated.

Who are these people? And why are you letting them treat you like this? I'm sure these are no random strangers, why are you still meeting these people? It seems like some sort of abuse. Don't meet these people, stay away from them, don't give them any attention.

After the several months since you asked this question, I certainly hope you distanced yourself from the horrible people who call you insulting names. You are none of those things, you are simply a very fertile woman that doesn't practice birth control or perhaps every single pregnancy was planned because you love being a mother.

Well, you could stop having kids. At 19, I am willing to bet you don't have the resources to care for three children without some kind of aid. If I'm wrong, forgive me, but I do have a concern for welfare and tax dollars. Women, just like men, can have as much sex as they please. Unfortunately, we have to deal with the repercussions of that sex even when they don't. Because of this, WE have to be more responsible and NOT allow ourselves to bring more lives into this world than we can manage. Please use some form of birth control, be it condoms, or the pull out method. Seriously, if you're not on any aid, then disregard what I'm saying, but if you are, remember that the money that you use to care for those kids comes out of OUR pockets. People will not stop calling you that until you get older. You just have to ignore them.

Practice meditation. It will improve your tolerance and self confidence.

Just laugh at the ignorant bu;llies show then that it does not affect you and they will get bored and leave you alone. If I was in your shoes I would reply well least I have a life & bieng a Slut or Hoe is not so bad least I get some hot sex as for you you are an ugly Prudish shit who is totally boring so go fuck off you retarded Bitch. That would be my reply. I think they will leave you alone then but hate you forever more. Go buy George Haydukes book the complete book of dirty tricks teaches you how not to get mad but get even. Wish you luck in dealing with these scumbags.

You sound at risk for an unwanted fourth child. Are you taking any preventive measures for that???

Well at that age you are going to get some flack form people .. its not easy to be all grownup .. but you just have to let it slide and concentrate on the things that matter most to you at this moment .. your kids .. so be strong and push through ..

Tell them to kiss your A*S and go on.

Walk away with your pride intact. Their own self-esteem is so low that they have to put you down to feel better about themselves. Just remember that next time someone insults you. As long as you know your OK and doing the right thing by your kids that is all that matters.

Tell people your 25

u are a hoe u 19 u hav 3 kids u r a hoe nolie

i think you have to forget about what other people think.

Over population is the world's bigest problem. You are either part of the problem or part of the cure, it's really all up to you. What you should do is obvious.

Have you committed yourself to the father of your children?

Just don't let it bother you or ignore them. Tell the person/people not to use that language around your children. I'm sorry that theyu talk to you like that.

Oh, dear! It is a big achievment to have three kids at age of 19! You can be really proud of yourself. Few people can actually do it. I believe, you will learn to sneak from these slut talks before they occur. All respect, Bob

id move to a better place, and i wouldnt consider that as running away from problems

My advice would be to ignore them and/or stay away from people who would resort to such behavior. You could also point out to them that a "hoe" is a garden implement and only a person of questionable intelligence would think it comparable to a human being.

lol. ok, (here come the DR's)..it is bad that they are saying these things in front of your children. That is NOT right. But come on, your 19 with 3 kids? I would call you a hoe to. They probably all 3 have different dads, and your probably on welfare and us people that work are paying for you to take care of your children. Sorry, that's just MY opinion...

I can't really say anything coz i got pregnant at 20 and the father ran off with a 45 year old woman and he now has nothing to do with his kid. I used to think about what ppl would think but now i don't. Stick two fingers up at them and just carry on being a good mother to your children. Gd luck x

if they are like towards you especialy infront of your kids they arent friends anymore

I worked with a woman that was young and had 3 kids, she was called those names because she wasn't married and all 3 kids had different fathers.

You need to hang around with a better class of people.

People shouldn't be saying that sort of thing to your face, especially when your kids are present. But you do have to admit that the fact that you are only 19 and already have three children does make you appear rather slutty in the eyes of someone who doesn't know about you or your situation. You might want to start using birth control though because the more children you end up bringing into the world, especially at your age, the worse the insults are likely to be.

First of all, no matter what you are or what you did, people have no right to talk to you like that especially where your kids can hear. If you had the kids to the same father, there's is nothing wrong anyway. If they are by different fathers, your credibility is already pretty low, your kids don't need help downgrading you. Unless you improve yourself and your self image, you are going to have a lot of problems with your kids when they're older. I expect you are a result of the "abstinence only" education program of the previous administration. I also suggest that you look into using birth control. You also need to get your act together and stay away from those self righteous fools that talk like that in front of your kids.

Hmm. Are all three with the same husband? What does your husband call you?

By now, this girl is 21 years old. The question was posted in 2007. Her profile says that on the day she posted this question, she had a husband, but had feelings for her ex-boyfriend. Three days later she says she has been with her boyfriend for a year and a half. It also says she hasn't been back on AB since then. Either she isn't truthful on this page, or she's an adulteress and she really has earned the label. If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, then it isn't a swan; it's a "hoe." We are all doing nothing but venting. She'll never see these answers.

Mommy? is this you?

i merely picked up on the fact that you were giving the poster un due credit, when you were really pointing out her bad literacy and understanding of the english language. and pointing out your own inhabitions of what was said and meant.

How many of them have the same father? Who is supporting you? If the answers are "none" and "AFDC" is the second then that says enough.