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Jessica
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Although it is difficult, this is a really good time for the family to be together to support each other. Family time is going to be very helpful in the healing process. So you are best to not cancel your family events but rather embrace them as a time to heal and come together and spend time. Its also a good time to remember the happy times with your loved ones that have gone on. I wish you the best.
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Pray, keep your friends close and stay busy.
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There are no magical answers or cures. Just try to remember that this person who died would not want you to be sad & would want you to carry on as usual (as much as possible). remember the good times. If you need to cry, cry..nothing wrong with that. This first year will be the hardest..you have to remember that time does eventually heal all and that no matter how hard it is, you have to stay strong.
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Put yourself in their shoes, would that loved one wanted to have been a damper on your holiday spirit when it was needed the most? I don;t think so, try to cheer up a bit :)
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Remember them. Don't spend a lot of sad time... They wouldn't want that (would you?)... Remember happy times, funny stories, times with them you each enjoyed with them. Memories. A thought might be for everyone to write things like the above that they remember about your loved one BEFORE the get-togethers. Someone could gather them all together and print them for each family there. And there, each person read their memories, and add any they thought of after sending it, and others who remember the anecdote add their memories. Another thought would be to have someone tape these, and maybe give a copy to everyone, later.
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