My son is 19 and quit school his senior year,bad temper, moved out and lives where ever he can, will not get a job, he just uses people, he blames it all on his step father and tries to make me feel guilty about his growing up which
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Not an unheard of syndrome. I once knew a 40+ year old man who was a drunk, a drug addict and a bum, he blamed his condition on society. Ha ha! Denial and lack of accountability are indeed wonderful things!
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Are there any underlying problems e.g depression/abuse/addiction. If so then try and be as supportive as possible.
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im 22 and can say hopefully he wakes up and realizes if he continues on this path he is going to be either dead or in prison getting it in the butt.
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You're only allowed to blame your problems on your parents while you're still living at home. Once you're grown, then Shut up, Show up and Suit up. Get busy making something of yourself. My 39 yr old stepdaughter is same way, still a user. Sad, but my life must go on. You never know, my brother was a drunk till he was about 40, and he sobered up and straightened up. She might too some day. Your son will run out of people willing to put up with his couch surfing someday.
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Were you by chance an overbearing parent? My 20 year old nephew had a very overprotective mother, was always doing things for him (she was still cutting up the food for her kids when they were teenagers), and he sort of grew up not really knowing or understanding how to take care of himself. He was also raised always being told that he was disabled, mainly so his mother could claim him for church and government handouts. Sure, he had some minor mental problems, but they were more due to poor parenting. He used to have pretty bad mood swings, and never completed high school. As opposed to the case you are in, he's not going out and living wherever he can, he instead stays at home all day on the computer.
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