My friends who had been living together for 7 years finally decided to get married, but 1 year later they filed divorce. Do you think living together is happier than being in a marriage?
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I think that for a lot of people, living together provides less stress because there's always that option, in the back of their minds, that they can just get up one day, say, "Forget it, I'm out..." and walk, without having to go through all the divorce paperwork, name change back to maiden name, etc. etc. etc. It also gives them the freedom to be "looking around" without feeling as guilty as they might if they were married. I think it's possible, as well, that your friends might have either been already in a downward spiral towards breaking up and thought marriage would "save" the relationship, or they were pressured into getting married by their family and other friends who kept saying, "Gosh, you've been together for "x" number of years and living together for 7... why don't you just go ahead and get married. I mean, jeeze..." -- so they did, just to placate folks, and realized it was the wrong thing to do.
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A lot of people think that living together is the same as marriage. In a lot of ways it is. You get a joint checking account, pay the bills together, and make decisions together, and share all the responsibilities. When people get married, they suddenly feel like there is more tension and emotional strain put on the relationship. Sometimes once people are married they just can't make it work because they suddenly feel trapped and sometimes one or the other keep throwing up the fact that they are married now and things have to go a certain way. My husband and I were living togther for 1 year before we got married and we have been together for almost 7 years. We are still just as happy as we were when we lived together. Some things changed. He quit helping out around the house as much, and started picking up extra hobbies like motorcycles and volunteer firefighting, but we compromise on things and it works out for both of us. It just depends on how much 2 people are willing compromise and work togther. I love being married.
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I much prefer being married. I think some people just don't want to be committed and have to live up to promises. Its just easier for them when the back door is left open. But they deny themselves the deep satisfaction and love that comes from being in a committed relationship for a long time.
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Marriage has a stigma. We hear all the jokes about marriage being miserable, like a prison, and listen to complaints about horrible spouses. Living together has a good easy-out clause. I lived with someone for 2 years, and when it ended, it was pretty easy -- well, compared to an all-out divorce. I guess the point is, marry if you MEAN IT. Live together if you think it's worth testing the waters first. But the old saying is true: "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"
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ok i totally understand this.. look when they spent time together... they felt so precious and in love actually... and they just see each other outside the house... they see the other side of each other and when they actually got committed more responsibilities filled the house up the expenses the taxes the household, the shopping ... and the inner house habitss which made them not able to carry on together... when they were in love they were above the clouds they couldnt see the sourness of reality
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Depends on the situation. In many cases couples are happier living together. Others prefer marriage. Its all about commitment and love.
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Marriage is the ultimate place to be happy in relationship!Because of the commitment ,You cannot live freely as you wish,you have to pay attention to your partners needs and that is the thing strengthen the bond of affection between you both!
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