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by coffeemaniac can cry on November 11th, 2008
I hope he is able to quit for himself some day, but it's hard to do. Your motivation is much more realistic to you, but guys tend to be less connected to the reality of a pregnancy for obvious reasons...
Ask to him to smoke outside from now on and hope that he can quit for himself eventually.
He does need to respect the health of you and your baby though and take it outside - no matter what the weather.
by Mentalmum is back on November 11th, 2008
well my husband and i both smoked, and when i fell pregnanat with my son, like you, i stopped. My hubby cut down but didnt stop completely. I felt it wasnt my place to make him stop.. but i did tell him he couldnt smoke anywhere near the baby when he was born. Also i asked him to brush his teeth and wash his hands when he went near the baby after smoking!! lol.. he thought i was crazy.. i said 'imagine being that small and smelly smoky breath breathing down on you and being held by smoky hands' - he understood!!!
See pregnancy is different for a woman, you feel the baby, feel the baby move and grow. A man cant feel any of that, they are just kinda hanging around for nine months waiting for something to happen, so while it was easy for you to quit, its not so easy for the man.
by Bitto on November 11th, 2008
Ask him to never smoke in an enclosed environment while you're together. If he refuses dump him.
by HasntBeen on November 11th, 2008
It's not too much to ask, but it is too much to *demand*. You knew he was a smoker when you hooked up with him, yes? This is not a surprise. It's a personal matter, and while it's reasonable for you to make a request, if you become strident and insistent about it you're overstepping the boundaries.
As for whether a smoker can date a non-smoker... well of course they can, it happens. But you're having a baby: that goes quite a bit beyond "dating", don't you think? Is his smoking such an incredible issue that you would deprive the child of his father for it?
I can't help feeling your priorities are a bit out of whack.
by Ladybugger on December 4th, 2010
It isn't too much to ask, but in this case it was too much for you to expect that your partner actually would quit with you. And yes, a non-smoker can date a smoker if they don't mind so much that the other person smokes and really wants to be with the smoker. Some smokers find some non-smokers to be so annoying that they don't want to date them, so there's that. Judgment, annoyance, nagging, and that lame fake cough that non-smokers tend to perpetrate to let smokers know that their smoke is irritating can make a smoker borderline psychotic.
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Great answer.
by HasntBeen on November 11th, 2008