when you stub your toe on the table and you shout and scream LOL

Well controlled anger where nobody gets hurt or abused.

Righteous indignation, like when Jesus overturned the tables of the money changers in the temple and chased them out with a whip he made from ropes. John 2:13 13 Now the passover of the Jews was near, and Jesus went up to Jerusalem. 14 And he found in the temple those selling cattle and sheep and doves and the money brokers in their seats. 15 So, after making a whip of ropes, he drove all those with the sheep and cattle out of the temple, and he poured out the coins of the money changers and overturned their tables. 16 And he said to those selling the doves: “Take these things away from here! Stop making the house of my Father a house of merchandise!” 17 His disciples called to mind that it is written: “The zeal for your house will eat me up.”

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Anger at people who have really, really hurt you.

I'm taught and choose to believe that "anger", in and of itself, is "appropriate"; like breathing and blood flow are "appropriate". The ACTIONS that one might take OUT of anger, are what reach out into shared reality for our scrutiny. Ultimately, how you feel is not who you are; any more than what you ate for breakfast this morning is WHO you are. Ones ability to have emotions and not just let emotions have him/her, exist in direct proportion to one's level of consciousness.

Controlled anger, and anger that does no physical or emotional harm to others. In the end, it hurts the person feeling the anger most, so it is self defeating to hold onto it for very long.

Ignoring a person, according to my wife, is the best form of anger. it makes the point without a physical confrontation. Mind game? oh, yes. Now, i now why she goes silent, when she is angry. never knew this is 41 years. hmmmmmmm.....

To me anger is appropriate when someone has done something out of meliciousness.As long as your anger does not cause more pain and suffering.

Since anger is an emotional reaction, it, in and of itself, is neither good or bad, it simply is how we feel as a result of something. What is appropriate (or inappropriate) is how we choose to DEAL with the anger we are feeling. Speaking up about it, is appropriate. Screaming, depending upon the level of hurt is not optimum for creating any sort of resolve to the problem and hurt, but becoming loud (might be understandable according to the situation) NOT ABUSIVE IN WHAT YOU SAY ...but perhaps loudly saying..."I'M HURT or I'M ANGRY, DO YOU UNDERSTAND?" But then LOWERING your voice, so as to create an opportunity to TALK calmly would be more advantageous to working through the anger and hurt. Threatening, either verbally, or physically or by breaking things, Physically touching, hitting, kicking, shoving of any type, chasing or following while yelling, using FORCE (insisting the conversation take place RIGHT NOW included) are all UNACCEPTABLE ways of dealing with anger. It is better to SAY, you are upset, angry, hurt and that you need to calm down and are going for a walk or a drive...IF YOU ARE CAPABLE OF DRIVING SAFELY!!!!!! and do not "peel" out of the driveway or down the road..until you can calm down enough to speak in a civil manner and to also LISTEN to the person you are upset with. If it is something like some moron who just cut you off driving, or isn't driving fast enough to suit you....let it go...unless someone is dead or injured...it's not worth your time...give them a few words of your choice in the PRIVACY OF YOUR OWN CAR (not yelling like a banshee out of the open window) and maybe a short prayer that their ignorance and behaviors DON'T kill someone! I also learned that when I was younger, I didn't always think that sometimes...I might be angry at someone...when in fact what I was angry about..was not done with any intent to upset ME at all...even if it had some effect on me. This put anger in a different light for me. I rarely feel angry now. When I do, I do, but it's a lot less often than it was in my 20's...and I wasn't exactly an "angry person" then,...but this...is NICE! Feeling what you feel is OK...how you choose to express your feelings is when you have to start really thinking about how you want to solve things! What do you want...and how can you get it, without HURTING OTHERS or yourself!