I haven't lost a husband, but I did lose my mother, father and brother at the same time. It will get better as long as you try to see the good things in life. Everything happens for a reason, he left so something else could come. Embrace what comes your way and allow yourself on grieve at the same time. It's more important than you know to take care of yourself mentally. What happens to us on the outside affects us on the inside. Be very aware of this while you go through this process. LOVE YOURSELF AND THOSE THAT ARE STILL AROUND YOU! Good luck, I'm thinking about you.

i know its hard, i lost my mum and nan within a year of each other and i was devastated. for a while i used to wish i had a relationship with my mum like all my friends did and at the moment im wishing my mum was here because im expecting my first baby and i know she would be really happy. the hurt never goes away but you learn to deal with it. at first i couldnt even talk about it but as time as gone on i can remember the good times we had. i think the only thing we can do when we lose someone special is to give it time and hopefully you will be able to remember all the good times you had

Firstly Jen, I am so sorry for your loss. I too am grieving for my mum and I can only say that I have got as far as I have with the love of my family and friends. They aren't there at night though when I cry myself to sleep but I listen and I can hear what she would be saying to me. I ask my dad how he gets through those periods and he says similiar except he thinks what she would want and that is to get on with life, be thankful for everything else and to not despair. I work in an environment where I see people in daily turmoil and I knew i couldn't do my job unless I received counselling. It really helped me and just the fact I could talk to someone who was completely impartial, cry without feeling embarrassed or not wanting to upset others, and just say exactly what I was feeling without being judged. I think her of her every day, its been 4 months now and I wish so much that it will all disappear, be a bad dream and she will be in the kitchen window when i drive up to the house like she always was, or greet me when I walk through the door. Just take every day as it comes, you will have good and bad days but as time passes the bad days will lessen and you will start to feel like you can pull yourself out of this hole. Allow yourself to cry and be upset, you need that release. Be patient with yourself and time will be your greatest healer.

Jen, hunny. I am so sorry for your loss. I am sure that he would want you to go on with your life, remembering all the good times that the two of you had together. He's probably hating seeing you sad and depressed. He would want the best for you, just as you would for him. The greiving process takes a while. I love you!

I am so very sorry for your loss. I haven't lost my husband. But, like others I have lost my mom & dad. My mom just this year. There is no easy way to do it. The things that have helped me is NOT to think about the fact that I can't talk to them, but to think more of the wonderful things we had. If I focus more on the good things that are still here it helps not to stay focused on the pain.

I am so sorry for your loss. And while it's true that time will help ease the pain a new puppy will help right now :) Good luck Jen-Jen

Seek strength in the friends that love and care about you, it's not shameful to lean on us for a while when you need to. *HUGS*

I'm so sorry for your loss. When I've lost someone who was very close to me I remembered the good moments because I can never lose them. It might help to become a volunteer for a cause you believe in. This will help you focus. It's a start. Spend some time with family and friends, don't shut yourself off from the world. This is going to take time, I know this from experience.

My cousin died young. He was his parents only child and had no children of his own. There will never be any grandchildren. My aunt immediately started volunteering in her church nursery, taking care of the babies and toddlers and continued to do so for many years. She spent as much time with other peoples children as she could. I lost my mother last year. No one will ever replace her. But I have many other female friends her age, and loving them helps. As each of our pets gets older, we get a young one. We have time to grow to love the young one before the old one dies. It doesn't replace the old one, but it gives us someone else to love. There are always others out there who need someone to love them. If you reach out and love them, you'll find your cup running over.

You have good memories. Hold on to those and over time the pain doesn't go away but you are able to cope with the loss.

I think your situation will change over time. You would be helping yourself by staying active, not thinking about your loss all the time - in other words, using diversion to give yourself a break from the hurting. If you don't feel better within a few months, please seek help from a grief counselor or a group.