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by amanda_0517 on December 28th, 2006

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Ok Is Anal sex really as bad as some people make it out to be? My fiance wants to try it but i'm scared it will hurt and I have heard it can be dangerous is this true?

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  • by tigueron on December 28th, 2006

    tigueron

    anal penetration hurts, anal stimulation doesn't, both are anal sex. many men want to try it but little are able to take it. You wanna give it a try? be aware that there are sanitary concerns, don't go from anal to vaginal sex (pennis, fingers, etc.), clean after anal sex, go as far as you feel comfortable, remember that in sex you don't own anything to anyone, experimenting is OK, sacrifice is not.

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  • by Anonymous on January 5th, 2007

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    listen miss ladie let me tell you a few things i was affraid a few months ago i try it and if he goes slow and use some ky or something like it lots of ky it will hurt at first but its the good kind of pain if you know what i mean just be paitent and relax the pain will go away and you will orgasm more in the ass than in the puss. trust me it will take a few times to get the full effect of it.. good luck and also when u try lay on your belly and him on top until you get use to it. it goes in much easier.. dont forget to have fun. u will moan the hole time u want be able to keep from it cuz it feels so good... real good

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  • by justme32 loves the weekends on December 28th, 2006

    justme32 loves the weekends

    Anal sex can be pleasurable for both the man and the woman. The man, however, has to take his time and be as sensitive as possible to your comfort level. Lubrication is a must.

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  • by altgirl84 on January 20th, 2007

    altgirl84

    I can tell you a good solution for this: buy some de-sensitizing lube. Regular lube doesn't always help; it depends on the person how much it will hurt. For me in the beginning it hurt like f***ing hell and was torture. My man/Dom loves it tho and we've discussed how to make it easier for me. Then I found this de-sensitizing lube in a sex store one day and thanked the gods lol. We tried it a few weeks ago and I'm soooo glad I bought it. You apply it 5-10 minutes before penetration to let it numb your anus, and you're good to go. For me, it didn't hurt at all and actually felt really good. And the great thing is (cause I know what some guys are thinking...) is that it does not numb your cock. Just the anus; have no idea how lol but my guy's cock didn't become numb at all. Caution, don't taste it or your tongue goes numb lol I tried it. The lube I bought was called Boi Toys, in a clear bottle and the lube itself is white, the bottle has an outline of the back view of a guy. Good luck :) PS: as for danger, use protection if needed, always get tested, and never ever go from ass-to-pussy. And also, remember that just because you're numbed back there, doesn't mean damage can't be done; he shouldn't bang away thinking just because you can't feel anything that there's no chance of things like tears, etc.

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  • by VOD on December 28th, 2006

    VOD

    Anal sex hurts for some and not for others. For men, anal penetraion and sex massages the prostate which creates pleasure. Since women dont have a prostate gland, its really for the guy- not to be crass but it has to do with tightness and assurance of no pregnancy.Any pleasure a woman feels from anal sex is because the wall that separates the colon and the vagina is very thin, sort of pleasure by proxy. The sphincter is a delicate muscle that can be stretched. I had a friend who had to have reconstrcive surgery becuase of anal over use. Also- unlike urin, feces is not sterile. If you do allow him to do this, get clean first, have him wear protection. The colon wall is only one cell thick and tiny tears can occur. Its pretty risky if you think about it.

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  • by jenniferx on January 19th, 2007

    jenniferx

    yes it is. it hurts really bad. ask him why he would rather go there. the only danger l could think of is the tearing, it will tear and it will hurt for awhile afterwards. some girls like it though. i don't.

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  • by cami1211 on January 19th, 2007

    cami1211

    It will be pinfull the first times, but it will get better and better. To minimize pain make sure your boyfriend is gentle, use lots of lube,
    make sure he dosnt pull all the way out everytime Once he`s in make sure he stays in..( because the outermost part is the most painfull)

    I find lying on my side, where he can stimulate the clitoris is the best.
    again ..make sure you remember the lube .. and dont move from anal to vaginal sex with out a shower.
    It has never been messy in my experience just make sure your clean.

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  • by TailorMadeHell on January 19th, 2007

    TailorMadeHell

    Anal sex. Let's see where to begin. For some guys it is not about tightness and the carefree no-children thing. It is about sheer domination. There are those guys that like it for the tightness and the carefree no-children thing. There are women who enjoy it, there are women that don't. It is best to take it slow and no rough housing until you are well accustomed to it. It can lead to many health problems if done callously. Use lube. When you are nice and wet, use more lube. Lube up the guy. Do it nice and slow to start and remember, use lube.

    And after all of this, remember it is your body and you should not do anything that causes you a pain that stays with you all the time. Some pain is not good. If you don't want to and your partner keeps badgering you, then you can pretty much tell it's not about what you want. It's about his wants and domination is a road just like that. He doesn't do it for the love, he just wants to demean you so he can add up a notch on his conquest belt.

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  • by Jade on January 11th, 2007

    Jade

    I think people should do (or try) whatever both are comfortable with...I have always considered that an exit, not an entrance.

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  • by munchkin_kids_downunder on January 11th, 2007

    munchkin_kids_downunder

    never tried it, not sure either. but good question!

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  • by VOD on December 29th, 2006

    VOD

    LMAO INDEED!! Its Justin...Justin Case

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  • by chelle4BBC on August 12th, 2011

    chelle4BBC

    Get some lube! yes, it does hurt at first but if he goes slow and doesn't rush in you 'll begin to stretch and it starts to feel really good. don't go ass to vagina, you can get infections that way. Clean his cock first. go slow and enjoy! :)

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  • by Princesswise on February 22nd, 2007

    Princesswise

    My favorite and continual response to my guy, when he asks for something new - sure lets try it, but on you first. Don't ask me to do something you aren't willing to try (with a little modification for gender differences). He happily agreed. With lots of patience and lube and arousal, he took a small vibe up his ass; and loves it! I also love giving it to him. I did eventually buy a strap on. Man, it does feel great to be the one doing the thrusting and giving sooo much pleasure. It makes me cum also almost every time. I think men enjoy receiveing anal more than women do because it stimulates their prostate gland, which is part of the part that makes them cum! He seems to like getting it a lot more than I do, but after a time, I have learned to ocasionally enjoy it as well. So, fairly, I agreed to anal also. At first it feels like you are going to poop - that is the weirdest part. But if you went a few hours before, feces doesn't sit in the part where the penis goes. And Yes, anal sex can be a little messy too. Hope this helps.

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  • by Die_hard_beer_fan on January 11th, 2007

    Die_hard_beer_fan

    Go slow, Go slow, Go slow. Ease into it at first. Go slow. Insert finger first using lots of lube. Then try inserting more fingers. One at a time. Once it streches or you get used to it then let him insert his penis. Go slow. I can't empasize this enough. My wife likes it sometimes and I love it. Make sure he wears a condom. Good Luck

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  • by garnorche on May 3rd, 2007

    garnorche

    There's special lube for that with a numbing product in it.

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  • by fuzzygreendude on March 21st, 2007

    fuzzygreendude

    What ever you do, dont go from anal to pussy without washing him off, because that is how you get bladder infections.

    happend to me several times and took me about the fourth UTI to realize what was causing them. but make sure u have lotz of lube, because i know a couple of guys who have torn their fore skin trying it.

    hope this helps hun, ;)

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  • by My Favourite Life on January 16th, 2008

    My Favourite Life

    Anal sex should not hurt if it is done right. Not everybody does it correctly. Both of you read this post for more info:
    http://mflife.wordpress.com/2006/10/12/anal-sex-101/

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  • by rip on August 24th, 2008

    rip

    Anal sex requires that both partners are prepared, it take more time and patience. I always go slow and talk to my partners, I find that it is good to use lubricant on my shaft before I slide it inside of the anus--this is because the anal hole is basically a very tight muscle. Once I slid my shaft inside the anus, I only allow if to penetrate about 2 inches---I still have 6 inches or so to play with, but I don't want to hurt her. Then I gently massage the clit and I kiss and suck on her neck, behind her hair--this then usually turns into an excellent effort. I have had a few partners that did not want to do it, but with patience and care, they absolutely love it, it's important to work the clit while the penis is balls deep in the anus--I have seen several of my partners over the years actual gush cum so hard it was like they were peeing--it's absolutely wonderful, be sure you go to the bathroom before sex, as there have been several occasions where my shaft as pulled back a clump of fecal matter--it's no big deal though, you wash it, and then make sure to wate until you eliminate your waste before penetration, in addition; I have found that my partners like the sensation of hot cum pumping inside of there sphincter, they say that the feeling is incredible. I highly recommend this form of sex, no babies either. If you would like pictures of video to show proper form- let me know.

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  • by Andrew-NYC on January 8th, 2009

    Andrew-NYC

    anal sexy, its very nice and amazing when both parties wants it and like it.
    few things for you that hope it helps you for a better easy anal:
    like most of other said always use lube and use water based lubes not oil based ones.
    a good practice would be to let him massage you first get you to totally relax and then he can message the crack and take his time, then he can use one finger just to give you the feeling of how it feels and then he can increase the count and add one more finger so it will prepare your hole to take his.
    one key point is that you have to be relaxed all the way, tension will make it hard and painful.

    after all you just wanna have fun, so enjoy it and don't pressure yourself if you don't like it or you don't want it tell him at that moment and don't push yourself harder so you wont get hurt

    Good luck

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  • by Kat0726 on January 5th, 2009

    Kat0726

    Anal sex does have it's up's and downs. Do make sure that you are protected and comfortable. Never put his penis in your vagina after anal until he cleans himself or change the condom. What will help to ease the pain are several things that I learned due to experience. First, make sure that you don't have to use the bathroom( I know it sounds stupid but trust me). Second, use lube and find a position thats comfortable upon entry. I always found doggie style is the best way. Lastly, make sure he goes very slowly at first until you are comfortable. For me the first time it only hurt for the first few minutes then after that it was on. I hope this information helps you and best of luck.

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  • by ekersongeorge on July 10th, 2011

    ekersongeorge

    If you use lube, go slow to start and don't stick in anything sharp...you are ok. Have fun!

    Word of advice, put a vibe on your clit before and during. It helps distract you and relax your butt. aka, it won't hurt.

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