Well I would agree it's not a good idea. There's just too much of an age difference...basically he's at an age where most adult men would be raising children, and you're still a teen. In addition, if you're in the U.S. I believe he'd be charged with statutory rape if you were to have sex. Beyond, that, he's your boss: for him to start a romance with you is probably risking his job and certainly qualifies as ethically questionable. It's not unusual for young girls to be smitten with an older man, but this isn't likely to be a healthy combination -- you're too far apart in age ; there's a lot of differences developmentally between a 17-year old and a 30-year old.

You might come out of such a relationship happy and with no regrets. And the Cubs might win the World Series. But I wouldn't bet a nickel on either outcome. It's not only that he's older, and you will change A LOT in the next few years but he won't; it's also that he's in an authority position over you at work. This lends itself to all kinds of distortion in the relationship.

There is nothing wrong with dating, just don't get sexually involved, until you are at least 18, and keep in mind, since he is your boss, life could be hard, at work, if you were to split up.

This is definitely not a good idea!! even if you were 18 or 19 dating your boss is always a bad idea, and so is dating someone almost double your age!! take it from me, i'm 24 and take crap all the time b/c i'm good friends with a 17 year old girl and we don't even date!! find a cute boy around ur age say 18-19 and just have fun! =o)

When I was 17 I was considered by older people in my family as an old soul but now in hindsight I know that had I had sex with an older man or gotten in a relationship that I would have been no match for him mentally. That is my problem with child predators. They can undermine everything that the child's parents had tried in nurturing him/her into a solid adult who can live a better life when they are grown. We are our parent's harvest. (In my opinion. ) They are supposed to feed us and make sure that we grow strong in the fields of life. Some older guy can use sex and gifts to take that training away from us slowly by pushing the youngsters parents out of their lives physically or emotionally and thwarting the youngster's progress in the growing stages. I would think long and hard before embarking on anything with this guy. At 17 I am sure that you have an idea already as to some of the consequences involved in that few minutes of bliss. You are obviously very bright to have the humility to ask some of us "oldsters" for advice. I would take heed to this advice. Use what you can and store the rest for a later time. We can always learn. I have learned a lot from this site and will continue to try keeping an open mind about myself and the world around me. Good luck my friend!

Are you interested in him? Or is he asking you out? At 30 I thought 17 year olds were hot but there is a huge difference in mental ability and stability. For both your sakes I would wait until you were 18, and then I would double date meeting him at the location of the date and going home separately. I am sure he can provide you with great love,financial and emotional security. The sex would probably be good too. What can you provide him? You are not going to be a trophy wife are you?

Honestly, I think that you know already what you're going to do whether someone says no or yes. Just keep in mind that life is nothing but decisions and if you decide to go down that route, it probably will not end well. You will enjoy it while it is happening and you will be smitten by him and think that he is the best thing ever but is very likely that it wont last. Then again, you could prove me wrong and get married and be together forever. Just, prepare yourself for any outcome and though we all can say the bad that will happen if you have your mind set on it then what more can we say except be cautious?

The age difference is debatable. Plenty of people will tell you it's a problem, but ultimately I think it's up to the two of you to decide. I don't know either of you well enough to judge. I will say that you're going to grow up a lot in the next 5 years, and that may or may not incline you to stay with him. But the work situation? That's a red flag m'dear. So, if things don't go well, who is going to lose their job? You will. Dating someone in a position of authority over you is never a good idea. If you're sure you want to date him, would you be willing to quit your job first? If not, then don't do it, as there's a good chance it will end with you losing your job either way.

well I wouldn't think about it before you are 18...otherwise he could get in very big trouble...even then, the age difference is pretty big....it doesn't bode well....

it woudnt be a good idea, but if you are attracted to him go for it, dont let age hold yu up...i would advice yu to give it a try and see what happens, start slow like go out for a date...