My children and I have always had a policy of total honesty, and my love for them is unconditional. Nothing that could ever happen in their lives could ever change that. I don't know what the relationship is between your friend and her parents, but I can only recommend the open, honest approach. Edit: Goody! Some little coward actually downrated me for being open and honest with my kids! Bet I know who it was!

Try my best to help her figure out what she now wants to do and what is best for her. I would be a supportive parent, but I realize that's not always the case in most families. Some parents may have extreme reactions. I feel honesty is best, but it depends on her home situation and whether or not her parents have expressed their views on the subject. It's really nice that you're wanting to help your friend.

most people arent that understanding. i suggest getting an abortion, 16 is too early to have a child. if shes worried about the moral issues of the situation ask her what kind of life she could provide a child after being thrown out of her home, especially when, even if she can get a job, she would be paid the minimum junior wage, before being sacked before 18 so the company can save money. otherwise, let her bunk with a friend until she can find her feet. it's a bit of a controversial issue really.

If i was your friends parents i would want her to come to me and tell me she is pregnant i won't cast her out our anything i will like her to come and tell me everything like that i won't want her to hide it from me .......... but if she is very close to her parents she should tell them that she is pregnant don't be scared to tell them..... if she is not close to them then she should ask someone to come with her to tell them but she should tell them and let them know she is pregnant and how she feels.... Don;t give up your baby if you don't want to...... Do what is right in your heart if you want to keep it then do if your parents should understand and and supported you all the way.....

Naturally, I would be pretty upset...but I couldn't throw her out. There would be some difficult times before we all accepted the idea, but she is my child, and her child my grandchild. Your friend is going to have to bite the bullet and tell her parents. Maybe you and your mum could go with her, to make the telling easier, and calm down anyone who needs to be calmed down. It won't be easy. But she isn't the first, and she won't be the last. All the best.

Well, they would not be much as parents if they cast her out. Disappointment would be there and your friend must prepare herself for that. But I would not cast a daughter out. I would ask why she let herself get pregnant. Your friend must tell her parents that she is pregnant, but before she should talk to her partner and tell him, she should be thinking ahead of time about what she wants to do about her pregnancy, about what her partner wants to do. Your friend should research for herself what to wexpect from each option she faces, ie abortion, adoption, keeping, so she can talk to her parents about it. I imagine that they are going to be shocked, and angry and probably loud about it, but in the end she and they have to sit down and work out the best possible solution that satisfies everybody concerned. Remind your friend that in resolving this solution she may need tact and patience and counselling from an outside source and that in the end it is her decision that SHE has to live with and that SHE has to look at herself in the mirror and live with her decision. I am not advocating having or keeping or abortion, merely living with the decision. Whatever course she chooses should be best for her (not her parents or the neighbours) and if she chooses to have the baby then her decision must encompass her baby's welfare too.

G'day Browneyed Beauty, Thank you for your question. It is hypothetical in my case but I would offer to support her in whatever decision she made. If she decided to have the child I would help her look after the child and encourage her to continue studying. If she was in love with the father of the child, I would let them stay with me while they get on their feet. If not, I would encourage her to get effective birth control but I would do that earlier. It is in crises like those that family support is so important. She isn't the first sixteen year old to get pregnant and she won't be the last so it is important for her family and friends to be there for her. Regards

if i am her,I would tell my parents about it.I would not cash her out.

I would not cast her out at all just kind of wounder where her common sense is at!!

I would not cast daughter out for anything she did, everyone makes mistakes, I would be upset about it, I would hope my daughter would wait ,but things happen. It is another life that you have to take into consideration. It is something we already have discussed since she was 12. Pregnancy is a life changing thing for the whole family, Your giving 18 years up at least, the girl needs to tell her parents, get a doctors help, and discuss her options, its hard to tell the parents but they will find out sooner or later. You can`t not tell them because of fear of their reaction. If your old enough to get pregnant and be a parent, your old enough to talk to your parents.

For the life of me, I don't know what having straight A's would have to do with it. But, to answer your question, we would face that difficulty just like we face everyother difficulty. Together, with love, with understanding, and with all the help I could offer.

you can be with her for moral support when she tells them. maybe it was a mistake, but it happened, and you need to discuss where to go from here. i heard a story of parents who had a daughter who got pregnant, and she had an abortion w/out telling them what happened. Turned out it was an illegal abortion, things went wrong, and the girl either had serious complications or died (can't remember). the parents just wished the daughter would have told them from the beginning so they could help her. sorry about the situation. you're a good friend for trying to help.

If I were the parent I would be upset and disapointed but happy she was able to come to me and tell me rather than have an abortion behind my back or run away. I would most definatly help her...once the shock of the situation had passed. I know it's tough for some teens to talk to their parents about things but it's the best thing to do. I'd still love my daughter nothing would change that and I would definatly not cast her out of the family.

As a parent placed in a similar situation in which my daughter did not do the right thing, I will tell you she needs to tell her parents. The reaction may not be what she is expecting.

I could never do such a thing, and I would find a way to make sure she could continue to go to school.

I would accept it immediately and assist her in any way I can.

Since we do not know what her parents are like we can't say how they will react. If they are good loving parents they will be there for her and being she is a straight A student might help, she has brains and potential going for her, she just made a mistake. No one is perfect

she may just tell them there not gonna kick her out and disown her - shes carring there grandchild one that they are goin to dote over when it is born. i got pregnant when i was 17 my parents were super supportive thank god but they were obviously very angry at first - thats natural .

If the parents did kick her out, they wouldn't be true parents. And if they do, she needs to get over it and forget them... (which they probably won't kick her out.) Yes, her life is going to be total drama. But her parents will probably understand if she tells them the positive and not the negative.

if i had a 16 yr old smart pregnant daughter, i would not cast her out.........that is kind of abandoning your family.........your friend needs to tell her parent's.......if she does not, they will obviously know this in a few months......take care.....Brian......

wow her parents are going to be really dissapointed she should tell them soon when my friend got pregnant she got an infection from not knowing how to take care of herself

I'm not a parent, but I'd like to think I would help her. Moral beliefs should not get in the way of helping others who need it. I'd take her for counseling so she could learn more about her options, and then I'd talk with her about what she wants to do. I'd let her make the final decision, but if she wanted to keep the baby, I'd make her work to support it.

The worst thing she could do is not tell them as soon as possible. I can't say how she should tell them exactly but she should be straight forward and honest with them. Maybe she should have a friend with her for moral support if she thinks that will help. Only she knows how her parents might react but I bet that after the shock and disappointment they will be supportive. I'm sure they love her and won't dump her for making a mistake.