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My Story: I am about to move into an apartment with my boyfriend of 14 months. My parents don't like him and they disapprove mostly because he is an introvert and doesn't talk much. Because of this, they believe him to have no goals, no drive, and no personality. This, of course, isn't true. - Anyhow, they find out that I am signing papers to an apartment to live with him, call me up, and tell me I'm making a big mistake, that I'm too young, that it's too soon. I know they are worried, but I love him and want to live with him. It is what will make me happy at this point in my life, and they don't seem to get that. I know I am disappointing them greatly by going against their wishes and moving in with him. They are just concerned that it is a mistake and that it wont work out. But I have to find that out for myself, you know?
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I do indeed, whether it's a missed appointment, a forgotten birthday, or a life-changing event, like yours. I've done many of them of the years, and although I try not to beat myself up over them, I do find myself apologising endlessly for them! And anything I can do to make amends, I will :) The worst one was to do with my Mum, but I don't want to go into that here - suffice to say I didn't got to her when I said I would, and it was the last chance I had. Not only can I not make it up to her, but I'm living with that guilt too. I'll never make that mistake again.
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It seems I am always disappointing family members yet they continue to love me. I had gotten pregnant before I was married and I knew my parents would disown me - instead they hugged me and showed support. My 17 year old son moved out of my house to live with a "christian" family because my boyfriend & I drink too much. He still loves and misses me but he is happier. I could write a book about my disappointments - even disappoint myself - yet no one has given up on me - yet. Hopefully your parents will realize they need to let go a bit and accept your decisions.
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