Do you think it is healthy to have friends with benefits? Have you or would you do it? What are the pluses and minuses to it?
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angelsdragoon
ANSWERS: 12
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The big minus is when you fall in love with them and they move on
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I have and it sucked. i mean everything was good until i realized i wanted him more than just a friend and he didnt. like the old expression goes "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free"
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I couldn't do it. Sex is pretty important to me and I take it seriously....not that I think there's anything wrong with people doing it...just not for me.
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Nothing wrong with it for as long as its a mutual arrangement. However, if you're leading them on and using them, it's a NO NO
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If you are a woman and tend to get attached to a man after the intimacy begins please do not participate, but if you can separate your feelings from your activities without any expectations then by all means have fun and be safe
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not a good idea for most people. It can become tricky, i suppose. I have never had one because I've always been in long term relationships. +you dont have to call them +you dont have to take them out -you may want more and they may not -they could up and leave and start dating someone else
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I personally don't agree with sex outside of marriage. For those who are okay with it and if both parties are aware of the situation and able to be responsible about it, then it could work.
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I'm a male. FWB can be physicaly and emotionaly healthy depending on the kind of arangement you set up. I believe is to be moraly wrong, but I also consider all sex outside of mairage wrong so that is a moot point for most people. FWB allows you to have long term unprotected sex as safe as any monogamous relationship. you start whith an STD test. the deal you set up is full sexual disclosure and any unacceptable activity (typicaly anything which can transmit disease) ends the arrangement on good terms (as long as it was disclosed properly). such an arrangement keeps your sexual apetite from building to the point of makeing you make a mistake like rushing into a bad relationship. but as many have said, the problem comes when one participant wants more... typicaly it is the female.
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Healthy IF it's the right timing for both, like between relationships or young and curious. I did in college. I crushed on her at first (minus) but once I accepted "just friends" it was more relaxed, no charades (plus), and we could talk about anything and everything.
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I do have that, and the only negs are that no matter how hard you try emotions get caught up, and someone always ends up hurt.
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For myself, it could never be healthy. I do not like casual, meaningless sex. I have only had one encounter with someone I was not attached to and it left me feeling incredibly dirty. I do not approve of FWB in general, but it is not my place to judge others for it. It is their choice to make.
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Sex is very healthy, even more so if emotions are involved because of those endorphins. I have had one FWB. It was alot of fun while it lasted. Lots of laughs. It ended when one of us found someone else. We haven't spoken since. So personally if I was going to do it again, I would be prepared to lose a friend permanently or even take it further, because sometimes it's too hard to leave emotions out.
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