This is not a question. Please can you explain what you want to ask about in relation to this situation. If you do not know what to ask and you have a lot of thoughts, may I suggest contacting a counciler, there are many support services that could help. The website below lists a few telephone support services: http://www.teenadviceonline.org/gethelp/numbers.html

i can understand what she is going through, but only she can decide when she wants to seek help and move on. She seems to be stuck in a rut and may feel that she cannot cope alone... but you and i know this is not the case, but she will not listen until it is too late even then she may not listen. Be a good support to your mum when things are bad and talk openly and honestly with her, telling her how you feel, take care of each other

Many women fall into this "battered syndrome", which doesn't mean that they necessarily get beaten, but they allow themselves to be mistreated by men. It's very bad: your mother needs to have "boundaries", she needs to set limits on the behavior of her boyfriend. The current situation isn't just bad for her, it's bad for you and everyone else who's close to the situation. Unfortunately, you're the one who has to work on this problem, simply because you're the one who is smart enough and caring enough to see that it's a problem. You should learn as much as you can about abusive relationships so you'll understand why your mother allows this, and why her boyfriend behaves that way (hint: it has to do with their self-esteem, need for control, and unfinished business in childhood). You should encourage your mother to get help from a professional counselor. You need to make it clear to her that this effects YOUR life too. Dig up magazine articles on abusive relationships and show them to her. Keep at it, and don't give up. You will be saving your mother and yourself. It's a shame that a kid has to take this on, but that's who you have to become. Otherwise you're both in jail with this guy.

Right, this is a toughy. I've been sort of where you are, except I was probably much younger (from 2 when he got out of prison until 7 when we left). Now, from what I can gather from my mum, it was his charm that kept drawing her in. Again and again we'd go back, it'd be fine for a while, he'd go get drunk, come back and beat the crap out of her. Yet she put up with it, with the idiology that it would get better (which it didn't). Now, for her the last straw which seemed to finally make her see sense was me, a seven year old bundle of hair on her hands and knees, trying to find the tooth he knocked out. I gave her the tooth back, and said 'mummy, why do you let daddy hurt you? Every time he hurts you, he's hurting me too.' My mum never realised that it had an effect on me. The best advice I can give is to show your mum just how much it hurts you too, because mums tend to do anything for their kids when they are hurting. Good luck, and let me know how you get on!