My Aunt died 4 yrs ago of cancer and 4 months before her death her husband died B4 her passing she made sure he had a grave marker, Now my cousin has yet to provide one for her Money is no Object Greed is, This must be addressed How?
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with concerned family members gathering to have a talk with the greedy one. OR everyone pitching in to buy her a head stone.
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Unfortunately, You may not have any option but to buy one yourself. What I am about to say is cold, but please understand it is only meant to explain my answer. When a person dies, legally they are no longer people but the body becomes property of the next of kin no diffreent than a car or a toaster. If that cousin is her daughter and she is next of kin the body is hers and if she doesn't want to put a marker down she doesn't have to and can't be forced to. Your option might be to do it yourself if she allows it. If your Aunt made previsions in her will for a stone, then perhaps you can take action in court and force her as executor to honor the will but, not looking at the will, I can only guess if that may be possible.
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I'd be having me a nice chat with my cousin...I mean, come on, four years! You might not be able to force her to put a tombstone up but I'd sure give her a piece of my mind on the matter! That's just WRONG!
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who signed the papers at the cemetery for orders of interment? This is the person who has charge of this grave. at least in most public cemetery's But it has been known for headstones to appear on a grave that has been unmarked for many yrs!Talking with manager sometimes can explain how this can happen or be done and those who didn't want one need never know how it came to be.....
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it would be most appropriate for the cousin to have the stone placed. perhaps there is an issue about which you have no idea. if you are unable to ask what the issue is, maybe there is someone you know whom your cousin respects or admires; you could ask that person to inquire as to why a stone has not been placed. unless you are ABSOLUTELY certain the issue is greed or laziness, do not shame your cousin into placing a stone. your cousin may be unable to deal with the loss and is covering the hurt with a claim of being cheap. there might be some old and deep hurt.
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