not really, better to give than recieve :-)

Probably. It depends on if they did anything for me at all. If not I would be pissed. Money isn't everything, but it is the thought that counts.

well if that is why you got them something just to get something back then maybe they should be the mad ones!

Gift giving should be done without strings attached- like I give you you give me- BUT since we are all humans and not all of us have achieved enlightenment, honestly, I would be hurt not mad. It would be nive to be acknowledged somehow, as a bf/gf and thought of.

I wouldn't mind, but if it became a habit and I was giving and my partner was only taking - I would feel that I was being used a little.

not really but did he give something to any other friend? you gave her as an expression of how much you care but don't expect her to share the same ways, perhaps she's showing you the same thing using other means

No. You chose to spend that much on them. Granted they could get a small token of their love to give. I would be more hurt than mad. But I think they would probably feel very guilty if they received something that expensive and got you nothing.

Hubby isn't very good at picking out gifts for me. For example, one year for Christmas he gave just a pack of pencils, another year he gave me just salt & pepper shakers. It's just wierd and sometimes I do feel a little hurt, but in the big picture, I remember that he is a great husband all year round, so I try to cut him some slack in the gift-giving area. He does try, but he just doesn't get it.

why must it be so much?

I guess it depends on the siutation. One year my bf and i decided not to buy gift because we were short on money and wanted it only for the kids and he bought me one anyways I felt really bad because I did not get him anything. But did you let him/her know you were buy a gift maybe they have bought you one and you don't know it. Maybe drop a hint that you have bought one and you might get one soon.

No. Just having them would be enough

Yes. I wouldn't be angry so much for the amount that he/she spent, but for the total lack of thought for getting me a present. It is the thought that counts.

christmas is about giving and not recieving...but maybe the other person in the relationship should at least think that way too

Not realy. I don't care much for material things, and I'd probably be the one who forgot to get her something more often than not anyway.

Yes, but at the same time, you have to consider that you were the one who decided to spend so much. It's not your partner's responsibility to know that you except a certain something from them for Christmas unless you make it very clear to them. Christmas is about giving, not recieving. :)

Yes, but at the same time, you have to consider that you were the one who decided to spend so much. It's not your partner's responsibility to know that you except a certain something from them for Christmas unless you make it very clear to them. Christmas is about giving, not recieving. :)

Yes but i think spending that much on them is stupid anyway, and probably suggests materialism (this maaaaay not be a word but shh!) Rather than trying to pick meaningful gifts. Either that or you are in a very long term relationship and his slowly built up to that amount, in which case there is probably a reason for them not getting you one.

No, I purchase presents to please the other person. I would be dissapointed because they didn't care about me enough to show their love thru a gift of some sort, not because I spent so much money.

No. My feelings would be hurt though. There is a very simple way to avoid this situation. Bring it up before the holidays and decide on a spend limit that is affordable. For example, honey, what would you like for Christmas? A new car? Well, I would love to be able to get that for you, but let's agree that neither of us spends more than $50 on each other this year. Is that okay with you? (If not, talk it over and find a solution that is good for both of you). No nasty shocks when it comes time to open prezzies too. Hope this helps.

No! If I bought a present for someone, it would be because I wanted to enjoy their reaction to getting it, not because I expected something in return. That just seems cold.

well i think it depends. this year i went all out on my boyfriend and spent almost my whole months income on him. but he couldnt afford much and got me slippers and a messager. the idea of it was nice. i expected a little more but it was rude of me i think. plus he said he got it because he knew i was really stressed so he gives me messages now. lol but yeah if your better half does it regularly there might be a little issue. they may be cheap. lol

Hell yeah! that would just go to show that they were either too cheap, or just plain unthoughtful and selfish. those are absolutely the worst traits in a boyfriend or girlfriend. It's really not about the amount of money that was spent on a gift but the thought behind it. If they were strapped for cash they could have made you a home made card

Relationship is not all about giving ,taking and expecting.Its how you feel about it.

I think I'd feel a bit miffed if they had the financial means to buy a token gift. If they were unemployed and studying or something like that, then I'd try to understand.

No. There is nothing that I want that I would expect anyone else to give me. Chances are, if someone gave me something for Christmas then it would only be clutter. I'd rather get nothing. But if they buy me something and I give them nothing then I will feel embarrassed!

No. Christmas gifts are about giving and not expecting anything back.

Haha it was $290 to be exact and she did not get me anything. Upset or mad not really I have this problem of being happy with I spoil her.

If they couldn't afford it, no. Not at all. If they could though, I'd feel upset that they just hadn't cared enough to buy me SOMETHING. Money doesn't matter, but even something cheap and thoughtful would have been fine.

No, it's not really about the presents, I'd much rather give them anyway. But I may be a little hurt depending on the circumstances, were they unable to afford it or merely being thoughtless.

I wouldnt be mad I didnt get a present but I would be hurt they didnt even bother to think of me....:)

Yes. I very foolishly dated a woman who had very little financially. The money I spent on her was irrelevant. The disappointment in learning I wasn't worth her consideration for ANYTHING for Christmas was a huge eye opener for me. From now on I will date only those who match my income and who are a bit more intelligent and less self-absorbed.

The spirit of Christmas is about GIVING, not receiving. You technically should not be upset about that, because it's not what Christmas is about. HOWEVER, I understand it is hard to not be upset about it because it definitely helps to show you that person's priorities.

I never give to get something. I often give people things all year round instead of for special occasions and there is no expected return. There IS more joy in giving than in receiving. Now if it was a special day for the two of you, like an anniversary and they forgot the day, that might make me a little sad but not no present.

No..I wouldn't be mad. I'd be pretty thoughtful though. I's be wondering what is going on here...is this relationship one-sided? I'd be asking my trusted friends and family if they think I am going too far, expecting too much. I would ask the gf/bf...."What ae your true feelings? Is this relationship going anywhere". I wouldn't expect anyone to spend that kind of money on a gift for me...but I would expect someone significant to mark the occasion with something...hand-made, inexpensive, a note promising something special when the money is available...whatever.

I would be upset that they didn't think i was special enough to even make me a card....but when you give gifts you give them to make someone feel good not because you expect something in return.

Not really. An afternoon spent together would be a nice gift. Love isn't about how much material goods you can shower on someone.

if we'd been intimate and in a short-term relationship, i'd start questioning if i'd done the right thing and i might even point out to my partner how i felt, focusing on their behavior (not getting me anything) rather than them and how it affected me. if my long term partner, then it would make me feel insecure but the rest of the relationship might be making up for it. now, if my partner did not get me anything but got a co-worker a $100 gift, then, i'd be really uncomfortable ... if it's nothing for anybody all over, i'd be more ok with it.

i would've been happy with a card they made out of construction paper.. it would be quite upsetting if they didn't give me any consideration at all.. but i would try to understand..perhaps they didn't have enough money to purchase something or perhaps they're trying to save up for something important.. whatever it is, i know that they'd feel bad when they've brought you nothing and you've given them something expensive.. i wouldn't make a huge deal about it, maybe get them something less extravagant the next holiday.. if they haven't gotten me anything again i might have to reconsider the relationship.. unless their amazing personality could make up for it. I've had experience with ex boyfriend's like this.. and it turned out they weren't really interested in me so why bother investing in something you're not really into. i once knew a girl that would brag about her lv and gucci bags.. keeping in mind that she was only 19. she'd ask me where i'd shop and she'd look down on me and say that she's embarrassed to say where she shopped since she could afford really expensive clothes (which were not that appealing in the first place).. turns out by christmas time her boyfriend bought her expensive accessories worth hundreds of dollars.. while she had gotten him nothing. her boyfriend had given me this knowledge right in front of her and i felt embarrassed for her after she bragged and bragged and then wasn't even considerate to buy her boyfriend anything... this girl who's embarrassed to say where she shops because its so high class.. can't even buy her boyfriend a card or at least make one.