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"Normal" is a bad word - used often to describe conditions that only fall into nominal parameters. Your marriage falls within nominal parameters. This does not mean it is 'good' nor 'bad' it just is. Couples counseling along with individual counseling is your best bet. He most likely is lonely and upset as well but mayn't be able to express it. Communication for couples can become harder as time wears on. Conversations is not communicating, tears - yeah, sort of, depends on the context that they are in. Also most guys are unable to deal with tears/emotion thus 'shut down' doing 'nothing' because they do not know what to do. A professional will help bridge the gap.
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I suggest couples counseling,if he treats you with disrespect or you feel indifferent due to something happened to you then some counseling must be achieved for you these things do require work with both on the same page attempt to have a conversation with your husband if he does not get a clue then get counseling for yourself if it still stalls he may need an attention getter as a visit with your selected therapist a professionle or clergy if need be. then whats best befor its a to far down the road for both of you. pray and keep your sanity and call a help line in your area and find yourself where you stand and needs.
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I don't think isolation and indifference should be normal in a marriage. It's supposed to be a partnership, two people being each others companion for life, your spouse is the priority in life. You didn't say how long you have been married or how long you each have felt this way, but it's never too late to change things, hopefully with his help, but if not, then just you finding a way to be happy could change the whole relationship as well. Talk to him about how 'you' need the help, that 'you' aren't happy (do not ascribe blame to him at all, just how you are feeling) and make him understand that you would like to find a way through this with him. If he isn't interested, then you get some help by yourself, be it religious counselor or a professional therapist.
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