Maybe it is the wording or the angle in which you are coming from here, but either way, this seems like a strange question and I am wondering what experience would cause you to pose it. I have never ever heard of an individual being told that they are not allowed to attend a graveside burial. I have never seen anything in print on this either. I can not imagine why a Witness would not go to, or be told not to go to a graveside burial. You do not say what religion the deceased belonged to in your question. Many times our families are represented by several different religions. This usually does not present a problem, but what if the deceased belongs to a religion that the Witness feels practices certain funeral customs that originate with pagan customs or even may find their origin in spiritistic roots. As in ancient times, however, Christians today often face pressures to return to former traditions. (Galatians 4:9, 10) Not that all popular customs are harmful. Indeed, a Christian may choose to follow local customs that are wholesome and beneficial. But when customs run counter to God’s Word, Christians do not compromise. Jehovah’s Witnesses are thus well-known for refusing to take part customs that conflict with God’s Word. Most conflicts might when the service is held in a church. I myself have some experience with this at my own Father’s funeral. He was Catholic, so the church includes a mass of communion at the end of the service. I just sat in the back of the church and remained seated through the entire service. When they moved my father’s casket outside of the church, I was called upon to be a pall bearer to help carry his casket down the many steps. I was by far the youngest and the strongest guy there! My conscience permitted me to perform this service, perhaps another Witness might decline. We must value the consciences of fellow Christians at times like these. This courageous stand has often resulted in much ridicule and opposition from acquaintances, neighbors, and unbelieving relatives. Particularly has this been the case in some African lands, where a vast array of traditions are commonly observed at funerals, weddings, and births. If a Christian is invited to a relative’s funeral, he should not wait until he finds himself in a potentially compromising situation. It would be wise to ask tactfully just what customs will be followed. If these are objectionable, the Christian could use this opportunity to explain just why he cannot participate, doing so “with a mild temper and deep respect.” I have been to my father’s grave several times since his death seventeen years ago. But here again, Witnesses differ from many in Christendom. Since we are aware that the dead are conscience of nothing at all. We do not pray to the dead or for the dead ones soul., and we certainly do not try to communicate with the dead. We might visit a gravesite out of respect and take such an opportunity to remember our deceased loved one. We might offer a prayer to Jehovah God, thanking him for the provision of the resurrection that makes it possible to see that deceased one again. If an individual was disfellowshipped from the Christian congregation., the Kingdom Hall would not be available to be used for his funeral service. If the person had been giving evidence of repentance and manifesting a desire to be reinstated, a brother’s conscience might allow him to give a Bible talk at the funeral home or graveside, to give a witness to unbelievers and to comfort the relatives. It may be appropriate for a brother who is a member of the deceased person’s family to give a talk to console the relatives. There is no command to not attend a graveside service for a deceased disfellowshipped one.