Move on with her life. If she has been with him for 8 years and hasn't slept with him, i find it somewhat difficult to believe the relationship was one of mutual trust and love :)

hi, broody, babieeeeeeeeeeeee ... before it's totally over, your sis should give him a surprise booty call ... if her bf was truly faithful for 8 years ... it might save the relationship ... LoLz ... ^_^

she's never slept with him in 8 years??? im suprised he's held out that long, no offence but how can somebody have an intimate, close, loving relationship without ever being intimate? I don't understand. she ought to leave him to put him out of his misery, poor guy :(

She should leave him, and you mentioned above that he studies far away , what guarantee does she have that he has been holding for her just as she has waited it out for him, in any case thats way toooo long to not be intimate, sex is needed in a loving relationship.

This question seems a bit odd to me. They've been in an eight year relationship and have never been intimate?? To be frank, I find it a bit of a hard pill to swallow that he's been faithful to your sister for eight years...I suppose it could happen if they started "dating" when they were 9 or 10 but what parent would condone that? You also stated she's saving herself for marriage...you didn't say they were engaged, what are they waiting for? If he has indeed been faithful for almost a decade, then she should do what she can to save the relationship...finding a guy THAT devoted is damn near impossible.

move on i guess.

8 years? sleep with him

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What age did they start dating? 8 years and they are waiting till they are married? Why aren't they married? If he wants to end it there isn't much she can do, sleeping with him to keep him is wrong and she cant force him to stay and if she did would she want him only through force? If he has decided he wants to move on then she should tell him she is sorry to hear that , that she would still like a relationship with him but will respect his wishes. Then she grieves and moves on with her life.

Curious, why haven't they been intimate in 8 years? Saving for marriage? But if they were faithful for 8 years, then why save it until they marry? Do they have any kind of sexual contact, like kissing and fondling? I find it hard to believe a guy would put up with that, wait..... I did for 5 years (a long time ago). As it was for me it suggests that both of them are sexually inexperienced.

8 years is a long time relationship and its not that easy to forget for a woman.There must be some reasons why the man wanted to break at least your sister deserve the right to know from him why.There is the tendency for your sister to move on with any other guy in desperation unless she already has a replacement in mind.Give time to both of them say a few months of separation and later meet again to decide.If ever this does not work, well life must go on however if there is love and positive needs for each other, they should no longer defer their marriage.