• Ground her from computer/internet privelages for a while. Also you should tell her that you have a computer program that records her keystrokes and that if she does anything else like this she will be punished however you see fit.. I know that wil work because when I was 15, my father did that to me when he found out I was talking to someone online and planned to meet up. You also may want to explain to her that it is not HER that you don't trust, it is those monsters out there in cyberspace. Also, make her watch one of those Dateline episodes [you can find them online, like on youtube] where the old men meet up to have sex with the young teenager and get caught by a camera crew. It will scare her into not wanting to meet up with anyone from the internet.. and for a good reason! That is very dangerous and she needs to know that.
  • Howdy, How about call the police? The fact that this person can't contact your daughter won't stop him from trying with others. Do the right thing. Yak
  • Move the computer to a public place in the house. Give her incentive to tell you the moment the guy contacts her again. Then you can set up a meeting with him and cut his balls off.
  • Try to see if you can go back in the chat history (Or wherever this stranger told your daughter of this.) and contact the authorities with the saved conversation. It would also help to know which site he frequents, say if he's on a forum somewhere or regularly visits a certain chat room or some other online community. Sad to say, but many don't take this very seriously, so you need all the proof you can get before anything is done, and I'm willing to bet the police will just say, turn off your computer. But there's always hope, he could be doing this to others. You should be able to extract this information from your daughter to find the message and sites. As for the disciplinary issues well, I'm not anyone's mother so it's not up to me to suggest anything, though I would certainly look into more monitoring for what your daughter is doing and where she's going online. If talking and reasoning doesn't work, I suppose stricter measures are in order? Still, you have the message if you know this already, so that's a good start, show this to the police, to begin with, or, for further information, check out
  • This isn't some Mel Gibson movie; vigilante justice doesn't work. Call the police, no matter how inept you think they are.
  • Who do you think you are, Clint Eastwood? That's why we have cops.
  • call the police
  • You've seen the correct answer several times here: Call the police. They have training and high incentive to pose as preteens / teenagers themselves and continue conversations to allow (not "induce") the pedophiles to commit themselves to a meeting, and then they have the resources to make the arrest and collect evidence for a subsequent prosecution. You have only "moral indignation" and a justified feeling of anger toward the person who would lure your daughter away. The police can catch the guy and help the prosecutor make a case to stop him. You can't do anything but put yourself or your family in more risk. Be smart and call the cops. Reward your daughter lavishly -- right now -- if she was forthcoming and told you this despite his instruction not to. She did good to talk to you; you need to let her know that.
  • Yeah, taking the law into your own hands is kind of frowned upon. I suggest you see if you can find any info like chat history (Google Talk and many other chat programs automatically keep a history) and the guy's screen name, and provide the info to the police.
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