Has anyone had a threesome with a boy/girl friend and what was the effects on the relationship?

I think that threesomes for men are ego boosters and wonderful sexual experiences, but they can be emotionally stressful for women. I have had 3 threesomes with my boyfriend of almost 2 years. The first one was experimental and alcohol was involved. The second one happend unexpectedly, which really wasn't too bad until the next day when I thought about it. However, the third one was a nightmare because I got ignored while he pleased the other girl, which emotionally messed me up badly. He apologizes all of the time for it and his excuse is that he thought she had to leave so he wanted to please her first and then me later. Never happend! In addition to that, she is a good friend of mine which makes it weird because she talks as though we are all a "couple" now. We went out last night for dinner and a movie in which she joined us and he had his arms around both of us at the movie. I blame myself for this because I play along a little for fun, then I get mad about it later. On the way home from the date I told him that it is never going to happen again and that it really bothers me to share my man with another woman. He said he understands but that I should tell him if it bothers me and not play along just for his sake. I told him I feel like we are going down a bad path participating in this kind of behavior and it is not the way I want to live my life. He said I am the most important thing to him in his life and if it hurts me emotionally it will stop. The negative outcome of my threesome experiences is that it makes me feel resentment towards my boyfriend now and I feel depressed. I hate myself for letting it happen and I will never do it again. I can't get the images of my man pleasing another woman out of my mind. Think carefully before you decide to engage in a threesome.

We had a threesome and now i feel like shit. I only did it to make him happy, but I can' tell him that and now I feel like our relationship is ruined and I resent him. He was always saying that he wanted to see me with a woman, because I'm bi. Ive had threesomes before with my boyfriends and it never bothered me, but I realize that when you have a threesome with a man you are in love with , you may experience all of these unexpected feelings. I feel like I've ruined my relationship and now I dont know what to tell him.

I think 3somes should not be taken lightly or be done on impulse. Yeah of course in fantasy everything is amazing and sexy, and there's nothing negative (thats the glory of fantasies, you're in complete control of them). I think you and your partner have to be 110% open in your communication while discussing it and express any and all concerns, don't keep anything bottled up cause you don't want it to explode in the wrong moment, either during the 3some or afterwards. If you have issues with jealousy or insecurity you really have to be careful. I'm not trying to turn anyone off from it or disuade, I'm just being realistic about it. If everything is right, the experience can be so very hot. You also should go over a lot of details, like how much are you gonna do with this extra person? Some people will go to full blown intercourse, others just allow oral/manual. Some couples just want a one time thing (as to not have any possible emotional involvment) others would like someone as an on-going playmate and even be friends with them and do non sexual things. You should also discuss with the person about what you want done and not want done. For example, I know a couple where the woman doesn't want her guy to go down on another woman that's joined in with them because she finds it too personal and doesn't want to see her man get close/intimate with another woman like that. I've gone into a lot of detail here lol I'll try and stop, but I think the main things to consider are 100% open communication about what each wants and what the boundaries are and consider the jealousy/insecurity factor. Go with your gut, if you can't take seeing your partner being with another person sexually, then it may be wise to not go through with it or proceed with extreme caution. Again, I'm not trying to tell anyone what to do, just expressing real-world issues on this topic cause I've seen the effects it can have on some people. Alas, it could be an amazing hot fulfilling experience, so happy humping :)

Yes I have we weren't boyfriend and girlfriend at the time we were talking and had a huge party one night. Needless to say I got drunk, he got drunk and decided to have a 3 some. We are now enaged so it didn't really bother us, and we still talk to my friend we had a 3 some with it was a one night deal and no one ever talks about it.

I actually had a threesome this past weekend; my second one. The first time it was 2 girls, 1 guy. This more recent time it was me and my bf and a guy friend. I got to tell you, from a girl's standpoint, I liked having two guys rather than the opposite. It was wayy more pleasurable.

There was no effect on the relationship, definitely nothing negative. My boyfriend pretty much started the second threesome. He was egging the whole thing on, telling our guy friend to stick it here and there. I was totally up for it since it was always a fantasy of mine.

I would only suggest it if both you and your bf/gf are up for it and have to problem with it. Also, we never did, but guidelines are a good starting point.

When i met my wife she had this foxxy roomate that she told everything to, they were inseperable and still are today.

I went over to stay with my then gf at there apartment, had dinner and went to bed and cuddled after making-out. in the middle of the night I got up to P and returned to hug my gf under the covers and found an extra set of nipples. In the morning at breakfest I asked my gf about them and she said they often sleped together and she had not told her i was spending the night and then the roommate came out smiling.

she apologised and I said no problem and asked if I pinched them too hard, my gf was beet red and she said to my gf would you mind if he followed thorugh next time?

she said she would share, ten years later she helps around the house and they are still inseperable!

my wife travels and reminds me not to "roam" and then askes if i am with the "other woman" and I say "Yep!" - We miss you!!!

Comunication is the key, we have No dynamics.

yes I have had a threesome, twice, with my boyfriend at the time and a best friend. It was fun the first night, and the attention both her and I received was on an equal level. 2nd time round it was somewhat different, I was sorta left out of the majority of the action, and even tho I had asked him not to kiss her on the mouth (this was my only guideline as I feel that it is a very intimate thing)he did anyways! I felt so betrayed, trust is important in a relationship. during the night, i woke to find him with his arms around her while he slept. The whole thing just gutted me, I was so emotionally distraught, and depressed. I found out a few days later that I was actually already 6 weeks pregnant to him. It took a very long time to trust him again. We have been married now for 13 years and are sooooooo in love. I completely trust him now but we will never, ever, ever go back down that track again. I feel that I gave him one of his fantasies (twice) and now days give him many other fantasies, I love to please him sexually, selfishly becoz it pleases me too. I can't say that I would recommend threesomes with someone you know. A random person has less complications and emotions involved. But then again everyone is different and you just have to be honest with yourself and partner about how you feel.

I've had but never with my girlfriend, when I was on that I had no girlfriend, we were a group of friends (males and females) crazy about sex and very open minded. I've read about the subject and it always comes back to maturity and setting boundaries.

Give me some minutes to look for a nice article I want you to read in that subject, I'll be back...

My lady is bi and has two close girlfriends that we have threesomes with. We both find it a great turn-on and has not harmed our relationship. Both of these ladies are very good friends of both of us. +3

My husband and I had many threesomes while we were dating. Before we ever did, though, we talked at length about what we each wanted to come from it. He had never had one before, so all he wanted was "two girls" The more we talked about it, the more he realized that there is a lot more to it than have two girls to stick your penis in.

We have since gotten married. I don't credit, or discredit the threesome in that, but it didn't break us up!

A girlfriend began seeing a young man at work during lunch hour at his nearby apartment. She had asked me about it before and I had told her she needed to take the responsibility for it herself if that was what she wanted.
One Summer Sunday afternoon soon after she invited him over to her apartment when I was there and while we were talking and trying to be very polite to one another she got very strange and started hanging her head and eventually asked if we could all take our clothes off and get in the shower together. It was clear that she wanted some kind of a threesome.
We had a large shower compartment in to which we could all easily fit. She washed each of us and we washed her together during which she fondled both of us for a few minutes at the same time. When I saw that the younger (five or six years younger - her age)man had an erection I lifted her up so he could enter her and he thrust in and out for about seven or eight minutes while I held her up under the shower from behind.
After we dried each other we moved to the bed where we proceeded to kiss her all over for several minutes. Then I put myself inside her and brought her to the verge of orgasm which took another several minutes while he watched. Because I was the "regular" boyfriend and he the guest I thought it would be good etiquette as a host to let him actually bring her off so I pulled out and told him to take over. It took her a lot longer than I would have thought but eventually she came to orgasm and then he ejaculated inside her. We did not continue after that because we knew that she was not capable of additional orgasms.
About two weeks later we got together again without the shower but with similar results.
Soon after that she broke up with him and told me that if I really loved her I would not let her be with other men. We continued to see each other for a couple more months but she had started to cool towards me and broke up with me in the Fall.

Hello. Being married for more than 30 years to a sexy and pretty lady, i have to admit it was tough to convince her of having a guy to have sex with her in a threesome. There was a lot of discussion and fantasy about it. We both love each other , and finally she accepted. Hurray, it was out of this world. We had several threesomes over the years and still are having the fun, the excitement and our desire to each other stronger.
Get a complete stranger, that you have met in a bar, and things will move on naturally if the wife likes the guy. Good luck, trust me it is enjoyable.

I have had several, several threesomes. I have been with the same man for 20 years. We have invited women and men into our bed. And having a threesome comes down to respect. Mutual respect for your significant other and mutual respect for the third party. Both partners want to have it and it can totally strengthen a relationship. If both are not into it or are posessive/jealous it can ruin a relationship. Ultimately, you need to be comfortable with who you are and how you feel.

it was enticing to the relationship and added excitment

I had one last year with my now, ex and her best girlfriend. This event was actually planned by them without my knowledge. I was working at a club and they were both there dancing with each other and having a good time all night. They left the club before I did and went to my apartment, when I got home the fun had just began and I was seduced by my girlfriend (at the time) and her beautiful best friend. It had no negative impact at all on our relationship, She planned it and carried out her plan with her best friend and we all had a good time.