Try explaining to him that you can leave the party life behind you, but still remain friends. Does he even love you? Because it seems like he doesnt if controling who your friends with is an issue. And I would still get married in your position but I would make it clear that if he wants to hurt me by trying to force me to do things like that, then I would leave him.

You fiance is having a little insecurity/jealousy right now. It is perfectly normal. Just try to calmly talk it over with him. Let him know that you love him very much, but you expect to see a certain amount of respect in your marriage. If you and he are able to talk out your differences it will go a long way toward helping your marriage be the best ever. I have been married 34 years and I can assure you that mutual respect and 100% communication has been the answer to all our differences.

There seems to be mroe to this question than what is let on. I understand that you want to be free and have whatever life you want to have and have your husband there by your side through everything. The true question here is...why does he get upset? And I don't mean that in a snide way, but honestly...what happened in his past that makes him get hung up on this. It is possible that he was cheated on in a manner similar with the "it's just an old friend" schtick and he doesn't what to lose you. Maybe he has trust issues from his upbringing. I think that you should consider taking him up on the advice and possibly limiting how often you see the old friend of yours. You are after all, marrying your future, not your past. So sometimes it is good to leave the past behind. I have given up all my old friends happily to spend time with my wife. She never asked me to, nor do I think she would, but I think that it was the smart option. The old friends got me into drama, drugs, sleeping around, womanizing...all kinds of things...then I met her and wanted to be faithful to only her and I changed my ways. The easiest way for me to do that was to annex the friends. Your finacee might have seen this kind of pattern before and doesn't want to see you get hurt....also, maybe he is the jealous type. Either way, you need to have open honest communication with him about it and tell him how you feel and get him to tell you honestly how he feels. It's the only way to know.

Before you worry over anything else, there is one thing that you must, without doubt, understand. You MUST NOT marry anybody that you have doubts over whether or not your parents have paid for everything or nothing at all. Never feel you must marry because you feel guilty about the money that has been spent on your behalf. Yes, parents will be angry but their anger will be nothing compared with what they will feel if you go ahead and end up with an unhappy marriage and miserable life. They obviously love and care for you so if you want to delay this marriage then bloody well tell them you want to postpone things and tell them why. You don't have to go into detail but you do have to be brave enough to get this over with before you address the other issue. Your BF's request is much more severe a problem than the telling them and them losing the money. Honestly, it really is and I think you know that already. If his words are not setting off alarm bells in your head then they should be (they are, I think, or you would not have asked the question). Tell Mum & Dad, get their opinions on this because this guy is not even married to you and he is trying to stop you having a relationship with your BEST FRIEND. News flash: you should have MARRIAGE and FRIENDS, both of you. When you marry, you do not become his, you must have relationships outside of the marriage because you are not just a wife but an individual grown woman. Love is wanting our partner to be happy, to have friends and family, it is about wanting for them anything that brings them happiness. Your future husband is trying to do the opposite and stop you having your best friend which obviously, will cause you much pain and grief. He must know how it will hurt you and how unhappy it will make you, so why on earth would he even ask such a thing if he only wants you to be happy? Trust me, the money issue pales in comparision - I'd me much more scared of his ideas about how he wants to control you than I would be of telling Mum and Dad they were going to lose some cash. For godsake don't marry him yet. Postpone it, tell Mum & Dad because while they will be pissed off they won't want you to go ahead with this marriage because they obviously love you and that means much, much more than the cost of a wedding ever could. And, love is wanting their daughter's to marry a good man. Money can be earned again, what is lost can be built back up, so tell them and tell them today.

Sounds like hes overly possessive and thats not a good start to a marriage. If you are having doubts its a natural feeling but don't sign up to a marriage just because the wedding is paid for do it because you love the person with no doubts

As a parent of five young adults, I can tell you from a parent's perspective that even if I had paid thousands of dollars towards a wedding, I would want my child to call it off instead of making a HUGE mistake in the first place. Do NOT marry until you are 100% sure!!! It is NOT about money!!

is it just the best friend thing or is there more to it? One thing doesnt typically contribute to calling off a wedding. It seems like there is something larger going on. If you are seriously having reservations about marrying him then I would call it off. Its better than getting a divorce in 5 years.

If everything has been paid for already the date must be close. I would wonder why he waited so long to bring this expectation up to you. Under no circumstances should you have to stop being friends with your best friend. How would he feel if you told him he could be friends with any of his friends?? I would have a long, serious talk with him about this. It may just be his way of having cold feet, or it could be a much more serious issue.

That's only the start! Don't marry someone who does not respect you, your past and your choice of living your life. Don't get married just because your parents have already paid for it. The price that you pay later may be much greater!