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by Sweetlo on December 13th, 2006

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My boyfriend likes to fantasize about me with other men and talk about it when we're intimate. I don't mind playing along because I know it turns him on. He'll ask me if I say yes because he wants me to, I'll say yes. I'm not sure what to think of it.

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  • by RAZ5454 on December 13th, 2006

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    Actually it's a fairly commen fantasy although most men won't admit to it and most would never act it out. The only time you might need to be conncerned is if he want's you to act it out, unless that's something you want too.

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  • by RAZ5454 on December 13th, 2006

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    I read that about a couple years ago (sorry, can't remember off hand where). It's one of the top 10 male fantasies.

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  • by raj007 on December 13th, 2006

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    play along as long as its only a fantasy as theres no limit to fantasize n am v much sure he would never think of it in real as no man would like to see his girlfriend in bed with other man.

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  • by Emmagirl wants to leave and not leave... on March 16th, 2007

    Emmagirl wants to leave and not leave...

    Well, as long as its a fantasy, why not? People have taboo fantasies precisely because they are taboo and forbidden. That adds an edge to your lovemaking. As long as you dont mind going along, its pretty harmless. Infact u can spice it up by playing out a fantasy or two of your own.

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  • by altgirl84 on March 16th, 2007

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    Well there's a big difference between fantasizing about it and wanting/doing it in actual reality. My partner and I talk about loads of things that get us off in fantasy/RP but for it to be in reality nooo wayyy...maybe just make it clear to him that I'm cool with playing along in our heads with this but I don't REALLY wanna be with other men...

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  • by janacide on January 14th, 2007

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    Guys don't think like women...when guys have sex they think of basically SEX and PORN.When women have sex they think of LOVE and MARRAIGE.This is just a blanket statement ,i know,i realize everyone is different and there are exceptions,but basically that is the general rule.So if a guy is acting all kinky and shallow....just go with it because it is just a stimulating thought meant for arrousal....most the time nothing ever comes of it.

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  • by twatook on December 13th, 2006

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    Sounds like he's a bit of a perv...I dont know many men that would like to watch thier girlfriend with another man?

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  • by valleygirl1968 on December 30th, 2011

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    I had always thought about it in the back of my mind, my bf asked me if I would ever do it. I said noway the real though going thru my head what the hell am I thinking this would be so intense. But I didn't want to lose him because I didn't know how serious he was and if he was could he handle it. It took a few weeks of pestering before admitting it turned me on his idea was to have it with his very well endowed friend. My bf average in size and able to use his pretty good and makes me happy I had been with bigger than him and knew it would feel much fuller. I still held off agreeing to do it for a while longer then accpted to a date with the two of them. My bf was very excited and it helped me allot feeling comfortable about this he also said he knew his friends big cock would rock my world and wanted to watch me cum durring vaginal sex something he never has done. My bf sat back and let us have our moment of forplay while I could see him masterbating it was very hot. I then pulled his friends Huge cock between my legs he was nice and thick and I cam quickly and he was an expert and keeping my orgasm going. My bf slowly joined in moving his cock to my mouth the guys both took turns on my that whole weekend. We will get togeather every couple weeks and have great sex my bf told me anytime I wanted I could do him alone. I told him that would never happen if he wasn't there im not going to have sex while we are a couple without him. I think you need to have rules and agree and play by them and it will be fine, just make sure you can mentally handle it because this isnt for everyone only few can handle this.

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  • by IntotheForge on April 2nd, 2009

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    Polygamy = sex without the guilt
    Polyamory = guilt without the sex.

    If you're comfortable with it, I recommend bringing others into your relationship. If you ask him, he'll probably say it's just a fantasy though. If not, who cares who's fucking who as long as you both truly love one another?

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  • by jG77 on February 9th, 2010

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    Maybe it's his way of showing her how powerful and sexually attractive he finds her and that he wants her to feel that she shouldn't feel guilty for other men to be attracted to her and it's ok for her to enjoy that.

    Anyone agree?

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  • by jG77 on February 9th, 2010

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    It could be his way of expressing to her that he finds her very attractive and wants her to know that he like others finding her attractive too and for her not to feel guilty of it and enjoy the attention if she gets it.

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  • by ArtsStealer@yahoo.co on September 15th, 2007

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    Another opinion: The Ancient Prophets in the Old Testament in the Bible have a different perspective from your boyfriend. No offense intended.I myself find a different perspective is refreshing from hearing pretty much the say thing from everyone around me.

    Below is what The Prophet Hosea said to the woman he cared about after God told him to reconcile with her:


    Hosea's Reconciliation With His Wife

    Hosea 3:3 Then I told her, "You are to live with me many days; you must not be a prostitute or be intimate with any man, and I will live with you."

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  • by DA BEN DAN yanggui zi on September 15th, 2007

    DA BEN DAN yanggui zi

    don't think of it ..it's just a harmless fantasy.

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  • by Anonymous on September 15th, 2007

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    It's not that wierd... fantasy or not. Us guys are wierd but its pretty normal. I tell my girl that i want to watch her all of the time. Its hot and there is something about bein jealous that is even hotter.

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  • by Anonymous on January 8th, 2007

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    Loving someone means being exclusive to that person.
    Perhaps he's pushing this because he wants to...or is... seeing other women.

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  • by Sharona Life is a Tale Told by an Idiot on April 23rd, 2009

    Sharona Life is a Tale Told by an Idiot

    Very creepy to me. It seems like he has zero respect for you. Very dysfunctional to brag and tease other men with the idea of you as a sex object. Really low class.

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  • by anonymous on August 3rd, 2011

    anonymous

    I want my girlfriend to have sex with another guy too! It's normal.

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  • by Anonymous on September 15th, 2007

    Anonymous

    It's not that wierd... fantasy or not. Us guys are wierd but its pretty normal. I tell my girl that i want to watch her all of the time. Its hot and there is something about bein jealous that is even hotter.

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  • by Joe Doe on September 23rd, 2007

    Joe Doe

    Be careful! I could be a test! You should tell him that your doing under protest so he really knows that you don´t want to be with anyone else!

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  • by Carmen on October 27th, 2008

    Carmen

    What if he fantaziss about my ex and I having sex?

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