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I have a problem with that. if I give my son a mark he could (and does) sustain just being a kid that is abuse... but smoking in the presence of children isn't?
by TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT on August 19th, 2008
i was just sayin what i was told...i didnt say anythimg about smoking,,,i also didnt mean a little red mark or something like that i meant like bruises or welps
by PixieDust_and_DemonHorns on August 22nd, 2008
and they do consider smoking in the same room with a child abuse
by PixieDust_and_DemonHorns on August 22nd, 2008
the law was involved with my sister loosing her child and her smoking in her asthmatic presence was not a concern... it was all the other stupidity that let the state save her daughter.
by TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT on August 22nd, 2008
i most likely live in a different state than you and laws about children vary in every state...do not attack me for giving my opinion
by PixieDust_and_DemonHorns on August 22nd, 2008
I did not intend that to be an attack. I was pointing out contradicting facts. you are right that things differ from state to state. I am in WA
by TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT on August 22nd, 2008
ummm never been there. whats it like there i dont get to travel
by PixieDust_and_DemonHorns on August 22nd, 2008
well, eastern is a ugly brown desert but my wife loves the wide open spaces. western is beautiful lush green fir trees and an anual temperature range of 25 to 90 winter low to summer high. however if you intend more than a few weeks visit you have to be born for it, the rainy reputation of western WA is about 80% accurate.
by TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT on August 22nd, 2008
rain dont bother me
by PixieDust_and_DemonHorns on August 23rd, 2008
my wife thought the same thing... then after a month of overcast or rain she realised she had just gotten bored with the sun and wanted it back.
by TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT on August 23rd, 2008
I don't know how many sore bare bottom spankings (most/every spanking I remember was bare bottom) I got from both of my parents. I know I needed each & everyone I got and I deserved all of them (when I was little & getting them and to this day)! I deserved the number of spanks I got for each spanking and the pain I felt from each and every spank was very well needed during each of my spankings I got & needed & deserved and I felt lots of pain each time I got each spank during my spanking! Ouch! I can remember my bottom was very sore & painful for awhile after each of my spankings I got! I looking back, wasn't an awful bad kid, but if I were my parents, I would have given more me more needed spankings than my parents gave me! I got more spanks if I tried to avoid getting them, knowing I was going to get a spanking & more I got & more painful if I tried avoided them. The more you avoid trouble, more trouble you're in. Yet, I knew when I or if I had done wrong, I'd still got a sore spanking, I still pushed my parents buttons! I don't know why I pushed buttons, knowing I'd get a sore bottom spanking & even more if I tried to avoid getting them, when it was time for my sore bottom spanking! I'd cry about getting them and I'd cry before they gave me my first spank during my spanking! I hated my sore bare bottom spankings, but I knew I was not abused, I was being taught a lesson and I knew why I was getting one, I went beyond being bad & used all my warnings before hand, and I needed & was being taught wrong from right. My parents love me and I thank them for every spank & spanking they ever gave me and it's made me a better person! I can still remember my buns being sore & hating spankings! I'd do same w/ my kids in a heart beat. Times verbal talk needs more discipline for certian situations and spankings are a must! If spankings don't really hurt bad (not in abuse, I wasn't abused),then it becomes a game and concept & reason for spanking isn't learned! No abuse, but bottoms need to be spanked on the bare skin to get the lesson learned! No pain, no gain!
by Anonymous on September 22nd, 2009
Umm..you like repeating yourself dont you like repeating yourself. You repeat yourself alot..oh did i mention you repeat yourself alot....spankings are fine..even on bare bottom..but bruises, welps, cuts, burns are abuse.
by PixieDust_and_DemonHorns on September 24th, 2009
I disagree with welts being abuse... and some people bruise ultra easily... but what would bruise an average person is abuse
by TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT on September 24th, 2009
We arent talking about average people we are talking about children. Yes some bruise easily but does that make it ok to bruise them? It doesnt take bruises and welps to teach a child right from wrong. A tiny sting gets thru to most children. And some spanking them doesnt do anything so why soend the energy hurting them when you may need to do something else. Whether bruising is abuse or not to you...send your child to school (if you have one) with multiple bruises that werent cause by play and see what happens. My friends son accidently ran into a pole causeing a black eye and she got questioned for abuse...any mark that lasts longer than 24 hours inflicted by the parent or any other adult in my book should be abuse. My mother used to beat me with a belt on my legs, my back, my arms...for things i never did..sometimes just cause she was mad at my dad..she didnt leave marks (i dont mark easy) was it ok cause there were no marks. If I had deserved the wupping and it bruised is that ok
by PixieDust_and_DemonHorns on September 26th, 2009
I dont understand how you think bruising a child is ok. And I've had welps many times before..enough to know that it doesnt take them to teach a lesson.
by PixieDust_and_DemonHorns on September 26th, 2009
welts usualy go down in half an hour... my son had bruises on his shins for the first 3 years of his life. not black and blue, jsut little bruises. I never spanked his shins, his mother didn't spank him. durring this time we changed through 3 different daycares because of work issues so it was not daycare. they were just constantly there. my (soon to be) ex wife's theory was it was how I held his legs to change his diapers but they did not line up with my fingers. I think any "injury" a child could sustain durring play without interupting his play (meaning he gets right back up and continues doing what ever he was doing) is mild enough that if inflicted durring discipline is still not abuse.
as for punishing you because she was mad... THAT is abuse.
by TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT on September 26th, 2009
of course children get bruises playing..mine has one on his forhead on a weekly basis cause he likes falling off of things for some strange reason lol but does that mean when he does something he knows he shouldnt do i should hit him hard enough to leave a bruise as long as it isnt worse than the one he gave himself? Would you like someone bruising you because you fed the dog after being told many times not to, or because you forgot to put away your toys again...or whatever it is you get onto your children for. I am not saying anyones nesicarily wrong here..al i'm saying is you spank your child hard enough for bruises to come up and you egt turned in you will get in trouble...not my rules its dhr rules. Of course i dont know the rules in the state where you libe but here if your kid has bruises..even self inflicted ones..you get questioned for abuse. I get questioned for abuse/neglect eveytime i take my son to the hospital cause he hasnt lerned to talk yet i could imagine if he had
by PixieDust_and_DemonHorns on October 12th, 2009
bruises to..i remeber when he had a doctor appointment and had a giant bruise on his forhead cause he hit the corner of the coffee table..every nurse and doctor that came in and seen him asked me 20 questions about it. I hardly whip him let alone beat him...he rarely get in trouble to get a whippin. but thats how it is. Tho even if he did do something bad to get a whipping i highly doubt even if i was aloud to that i would bruise him....they need to make these comment boxes longer..i never can fit what i got to say in them..lol
by PixieDust_and_DemonHorns on October 12th, 2009
I am totaly with you on the comment box length.
as for the bruise on his head... did he without whimpering climb back up on the table and keep going or did he seek comfort from you? I specificaly meant without interupting their play. no, my spankings don't bruise him but occasionaly he does earn some redness.
by TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT on October 14th, 2009
he got right back up and played lol he might whine a bit but not much and he doesnt run to me about it...takes alot to get him to stop
by PixieDust_and_DemonHorns on October 14th, 2009
my son was running around like a 3 year old and bounced off my leg falling down backwards into the wall shattering an electrical outlet with the back of his head... he whimpered and cuddled for about a minute then was back to running around.
by TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT on October 15th, 2009
ouch..i think that mght stop mine a little longer lol..dont know he never done nothing that bad before
by PixieDust_and_DemonHorns on October 16th, 2009