I've never had fwb turn into anything more. This will only hurt you more and cause you repeated pain and frustration. Say no to fwb. Who knows what can happen later on?

Say no. Everybody needs to develop healthy boundaries to function well in life. This boy wants to take advantage of you, and if you're smart you will stand up for yourself -- if he can't take on any commitment, keep your distance. As to your love for him, there's a lot to say about that. Most adolescents do not distinguish between infatuation (which requires no commitment) and love (which is all about care and commitment). Sounds like you're infatuated. The good news is, another train will be along in 15 minutes if you remain at the station.

You should say No. I did it on and off for 2 years and it all ended in tears. Start as you mean to go on. If he was any sort of friend, he wouldn't even suggest it. Friends with benefits is an oxymoron. No true friend would even suggest it!! And who's getting the benefits? Only him! If he doesn't want to go out with you properly, he's not worth it.

A friend would not do anything to hurt you, and obviously having sex, without any strings attached, is going to hurt you. So, I hope you find a true friend, with your next boyfriend!

Being "friends with benefits" is selfish on his part. However if you went forward with that, your self esteem will drop to an all time low. Dont compromise your morals, or beliefs to do what someone else wants. Stick to your guns on this one. He wants his cake and eat it too, but that is unrealistic, and not fair to you. You will only get hurt. Ultimately the choice is yours, but I would say NO and move on till he grows up a little bit.

Where is your spine? Do you want to be know as the slut puppy. Why don't you find somebody you can really fall in love with and who is in love with you, then if you want to put out at least you have mutual respect and love in the relationship. Do you want to share this guy with others? Don't be so easy your better than that

Please say no. As a guy/man, I feel badly each time I hear about a young woman (or older woman for that matter) who allows a man to continue to just "be friends," but to also have sex and other things that are best when associated with a long term, mature and "committed" relationship. If you learn how to say no now, and learn how to also not allow yourself to be manipulated into things you don't feel "right" or comfortable with, you will have a MUCH easier time later in life I am sure. Also, think of the fact that you are allowing yourself to be "used" if you say "Yes" to this guy, and that will not help how you feel about yourself or your self-esteem. It might be difficult to completely understand and to do, but you will be doing yourself and maybe even the guy involved (down the road) a HUGE favor if you say NO to anything but friendship. And frankly, there are plenty of other guys around who you could like very much who would like or love you and not ask or need the "benefits." Your friendship and WHO YOU ARE would be all they needed or wanted! And that is a good feeling to have -- when someone likes or loves you and asks for nothing in return. Best of luck to you!

I have gone through the same exact thing very recently, and it ripped out my heart when I heard he only wanted me to be around in case he gets 'bored'. This guy has caused so much pain in my life. He re-ignited my depression and was part of the reason I resorted to cutting. Don't do this for him; he doesn't deserve it. It's really hard to say no though because you love him, but please understand that it will hurt to see him with other girls after you were just with him. He's just saying that he doesn't feel like committing to anyone. It doesn't mean he doesn't like you, though. Good luck with this. =] I hope I helped ya.

He is not worth your true love. Dump him!

Speaking from experience, you should absolutely NOT give him "benefits." I learned this the hard way and thought that if I kept hooking up with him he would eventually fall for me. He was a very good friend but in the end, he only lost respect for me and went for a different girl who DIDN'T put out so easily. It sucks when a guy you really like or love doesn't reciprocate the feelings and just wants to be FWB but it's usually because he obviously only wants ONE thing from you, and it isn't actual friendship. Your best bet is to get over him and find a guy who will respect you, your feelings, and your body.. This way you don't wind up getting used and abused, not to mention brokenhearted.

I think this "friends with benefits" concept is the new version of "He wants to have his cake and eat it too." He enjoys the benefits aspect of your relationship, but does not want to commit or invest in it. Neither should you. It also makes you sound like a "booty call." Is this what you want "love to be?

I agree with most posters here: It's a bad idea to persue anything with this boy. It would be different if your ideals were the same as his, but because you have such strong feelings for him, you will only end up being hurt. Better to cut off connection and feel a bit of pain now, than to hope something will evolve out of this and get hurt again and again. At least he's been honest with you, which gives you a great opportunity to take care of yourself. Also, love is a resilient thing, even if you're in pain now, I can almost guarantee that you'll feel it again and again throughout your life. It's what you do with it that important. When reciprocated by someone who is sweet, compassionate, considerate, patient... you will experience a love that will be unbelievably wonderful.

It sounds like this boy is selfish and would only use you. You deserve better, don't you? It is tough to move on but you need someone who cares about you. The best "benefit" is a mutual love and respect with your partner. Do not settle for less.

He wants all the benefits and he wants you to pay. Be friends if you can, but tell him to keep his hands in his pockets. You are worth too much to be his toy.

PLEASE say no. Anyone who wants the "benefits" of using your body at their convenience and without any further commitment is NOT worthy of your time. You deserve so much better than that. Don't settle for anything less.

Tell him if he wants sex with no strings, he should go screw a hand puppet.

i no how you feel, this has happend to me and it is so easy for people to say dump him. Well it really isnt that easy if you truly love him. If you can't stop thinking about him i think it is worth fighting for. You could also leave it for a while and flirt on the side, if he reacts to this he may realize he realy does like you and if he still feels the same and just wants to be friends i really would give up and just be friends but see him less.

if you like him more than that then don't go there. you'll end up falling harder and it will hurt more when you realise that he's still not all that keen. things may change later on for him but then make him chase you, don't give in! you're worth more than that

If you want to be used and abused in that way, say yes. You will be very hurt and lose any respect you have for yourself. Find somebody that really cares for you.

Don't! You are pouring your love into someone who isn't returning those feelings. It's going to hurt you in the long run :'( Find someone who wants your love..and will love you back.

Well I was gonna answer but I think LeeLee did a far better job than I ever could have. Listen to her She's one of the wisest people I know here.