ANSWERS: 39
  • Yep. You have to live with the person, your paents don't. And, as a parent myself, it's like a reflex to kind of distrust the person who's going to "take your baby away".
  • No, I wouldn't even date someone my parents won't approve of. My parents are great and have approved of all my significant others. They are also easy to please, so a person would have to be really bad for my parents not to approve.
  • Yes and I have. My parents hated the guy I wanted to marry, but it wasn't their choice and everyone can be wrong. Unfortunately, I was wrong, but they were not. I'm still hearing, "I told you so" from my folks.
  • Yes, and I did. My family, though wonderful people in some ways, were quite racist in the past. I married a Mexican, and a few key people have really come around. Their attitudes have changed greatly just by his being around, though I didn't marry for that reason.
  • If it came to that i would if i truly knew i was in love. Parents should be acceptive of your hapiness not condemning, thats just mean :)
  • If my family approved of them we would never get married.
  • If I did I wouldn't let them know about it
  • Absolutely.
  • Yes, they wouldn't be able to stop me.
  • yes i would.:-)
  • Yes, of course.
  • Yes, they made their choice, I will make mine.
  • I would marry whom I wanted regardless of what they thought.I love them very much but they do not rule my future happiness,at any age.Also my parents are not of the type that would ever infringe on my choice for they love me too much to ever choose to do so.
  • Sure. My parents weren't too keen on my SO, but he is my choice. Now that they see what a good man/father/provider he is they at least respect him, and that is enough for me...
  • Yes , it is my choce whom I choose to marry. My Mother would not interfere anyway.
  • I did, it was a disaster, I wish I would have listened!
  • Yes, Im marrying the person, they're not. They'll get over it if and when they see granchildren, really!
  • Yes of course I hate my mother, and I don't take her opinions into consideration.
  • Well, it's been a long time (40 years) since I married. I don't think I would marry someone my mother did not approve of. That doesn't mean that I think that everyone should think that way. I don't think that I would have chosen someone that she didn't approve of to begin with. There are a variety of reasons parents may not approve of their child's chosen mate--not all of them are good reasons.
  • might, but it depends on why if it was because of religious difference then i would anyway if it was because he was disrespectful, i might have do take that into consideration beforehand - but i don't like that anyways so probably not if it was because he wasn't mexican, i would anyway if it was because they could see through his BS and i couldn't...i might need help with them first before they tell me flat out they odn't like him
  • It really depends on how deeply you feel for the person If your parents disapprove of yourt love than so be it, the only real opinion that matters is your own, the only ones who should be determining if you get married are the 2 actually thinking about getting married. Love is unconditional and no one can make you love or not love someone, its always up to YOU when love is involved and no one else. Your parents can learn to like some one, but you'll never get over the "what if we got married" thing that will always be stuck in your head as long as you live
  • I already did back in 1974. It was a mistake. They could see things that I couldn't. I wish I had listened to them yet I have a wonderful son and two beautiful granddaughters.
  • I have, and don't think my parents have ever been able to influence what I do since I eloped at age 18.
  • Yeah. Not their choice.
  • If I thought he was worht it yes
  • If I thought they were wrong, yes, and my parents would accept her (not treat her any different) into the family.
  • without a doubt im not gonna pass on my happiness tospare them being around someone they dislike maybe a couple weeks out of the yr and my dad doesnt approve of anybody so no matter what im gonna be disappointing him
  • Good question I would try to see if the reasons why they don't like them are realistic or just opinions and then I'll decide
  • I did. My family hasn't had any control of me since I was 13. And they tell me they disapprove of EVERYTHING I do. Not necessarily with their words, but with miserable attempts at trying to take back the control they lost. I flat told them to kiss my ass. They gave up on me as a teenager and then suddenly they wanted to take back control right when I was deciding it was time to get married. The thing about it was one of his relatives married one of my relatives, had three kids and then got a nasty divorce and my family was judging him based on the actions of his relative and that wasn't fair. Two years later, they are finally starting to realize it. His family was the same way except there was an extra problem on his side. His family also judged me by my skin color and nationality based on something they experienced years ago. They are finally starting to realize how unfair it was to judge the people of a whole continent based on the conduct of a few people. They are finally realizing how unfair it is to judge me based on what they experienced in an entirely different country from where my family came from.
  • I did, and have been very happy for 22 years.
  • YES that person only needs my approval not my parents, I will introduce them to my partner and say hey this is so and so and I love her... my parents dont like no worries , remember your parents are trying to protect you but they cant chose your happiness for you you find your own happiness
  • Yes. It's the two of us in the relationship, if we are happy we'll be fine.
  • Now that my s/o is a girl, I know they would not approve. I couldn't possibly care less whether or not they approve, either.
  • nope. it'll cause too much confusion at family events.
  • Absolutely. The approval of any of my family members is not a pre-requisite for my life partner. I don't even ask their opinion. In fact, the type of man my father would approve of would not be (99.99999% certain) acceptable to me.
  • It depends on what their reasons are.
  • It depends on what their reasons are.
  • I did it twice. I'm not marrying my parents, so is it really important what they think?
  • probably

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