One for the ladies tonight - on a first date would it be okay for the man to take / hold your hand at some point to show interest, or would you be put off?
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Yanstari
ANSWERS: 20
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I think if you like that person, then it's ok. If you both have a lot of eye contact and you can see there's something there.. then holding my hand would make me smile. Halfway between arm holding and first kiss.
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Sometimes, yes. What I HATE is that five seconds after I get into the car his hand is on my leg. Take it slow..
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I say it's okay for him to do pretty much anything. So long as he preceeds this with a tall glass of delicious lemonade.
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How well do you know this person? If you've had a platonic relationship and are now taking the next step, I say sure. If you barely know her, take your cues from her. Don't concentrate so much on a "to do" list for your date. Use your instincts and let things happen naturally.
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i would be a little put off but it wouldnt change how i felt about them, i guess it would be kinda flattering. but i think of holding hands as something u do with some one ur atleast starting a relationship, same with kissing, im kinda wierd about that stuff
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Being a guy, I'm just going to say that I wouldn't do it - breaking the touch barrier on a first date sends out a mixed message between being clingy and impatient. What needs to be added here, though, is that with how I see the situation, I would actually claim that if she's really interested, I could place my hand on a table (assuming we're sitting at a café, which is where first dates should happen) a slight distance from her where it wouldn't be blatantly obvious, but still close enough to convey the subconscious message of invading her personal space, which would - once again, in the case of interest from her - actually cause her to end up reaching out to my hand. A safer way; and if it doesn't happen, no worries, because as mentioned, breaking the touch barrier on the first date easily causes the situation to go awkward.
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I would never assume it's ok to attempt to hold hands unless I'm getting some serious signals like she's breaking my personal space........
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being male, i will let her touch me first. the rule is: if she touches me in any manner, hand on arm or whatever, she likes me. I can put my hand on back to encompass our coupleship. or offer my chivelrous arm or hand to help get up or move around. i think hand holding has to be something special. it might mean somekind of committment i am not yet ready to make.
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While I have NO aversion to physical touch, I wouldn't want my hand taken or held on a first date. If & when it does happen spontaneously out of mututal affection, then great!
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If I gave him signals that I'm interested (it would be obvious) then I'd be completely comfortable (and thrilled) if he took my hand. Actually, I might even take his first!
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Yep ...if we liked each other and shared some good vibes :-) !
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Depends on the flow of the night, if it feels good, then ya.
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No, I have an aversion to people touching me unless they have my permission, or I am comfortable with them already, so I'd have to know them quite well and trust them. Few people fit into that category in my life.
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yeah, depends on how she is though. Personally it wouldn't bother me if I got a kiss on the cheek the first date.
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I would have to say no. Holding hands usually means you are a couple and are in a serious relationship with each other. I would say, however, it would be okay to offer an arm as you are walking from a vehicle to wherever it is you are going. Other than that, I think that touching usually means you are a couple and I don't see anyone wanting to make that commitment just based upon the first date.
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yes but wait until you get where you are going to for your date
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If everything seems to be going right then gently take her hand and smile at her. If it's turning into a disaster don't take her hand to try to make it better.
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being a girl, yes i do think that would be fine..it's cute and sweet.
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it would be fine
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If he was interested and it was mutual I would be put off if he didn't ;)
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