ANSWERS: 46
  • Yes, and that is an honorable thing. God is like that too, in a way, for many people have had idols over the ages, and He stays faithful, waiting for us to come to Him of our free will.
  • No. Love turns to hate real quick when lies and deception step in.
  • No, because I love myself more than that!
  • Been there, done that....didn't work :o)
  • I don't consider that love. I consider that willingly blind infatuation. How is it love if you feel the need to lie to yourself just so that you can feed the idea you want of your s/o in your mind? Anyway, I trust my boyfriend enough to realize that the chances of him cheating on me are slim to none. Now, that's love. ;)
  • ABSOLUTELY NOT...no cheating allowed
  • I considered it with my first husband until I realized that it wasn't love so much as I thought I needed him for some reason. When I figured out that I could live just fine without him, I gained a lot of respect for myself.
  • my boyfriend of 6 years recently told me that he wants to break up because he feels like he is missing out on being "a lad", he wants to sleep around and says its not about finding another relationship. since we finished university we live really far apart, i considered pleading ignorance and thought "what i don't know can't hurt me", but i knew that if i couldn't get him on the phone one night i would be thinking is he with other women, and i knew that would kill me. i love him with all my heart, but the pain i would definitely have to endure would not be worth it in the end, and i'm sure the nagging he would receive because of it would be the end of us. sad :(
  • Yes. I considered it. We had been married for 20+ years. I gave her a choice. She walked. We have stayed good friends, but it will always hurt. I'm happy for her. They say everything happens for a reason. I'm still looking for the reason. Before you decide to call it quits. You should always take everything into consideration. As humans, we are a dumb race. We do stupid things all the time. Sometimes out of desperation or lust or fear. Think about it before you decide. The only real time to walk is when it is abusive. Then you don’t walk…you run.
  • can't say that I have
  • Yes. It never works. You always end up losing in the end
  • Hell NO!! I have never loved anyone that hard!
  • Yes... and it sucks. It sucks that you love them this much and that they would do this to you and even more so that when they were cheating they didn't give a rats ass about you and didn't think about how it would affect your relationship. It also sucks because you can't be angry and hold a grudge, because if you do, then you'll lose them. I look at it as, how could they do this? why would they want to do this? does the person even care about me? what did they think my reaction would be? in my situation it just didn't work out. i wanted to give the person another chance but they didn't seem like they cared or even wanted to put in an equal amount of effort. that sucks because you think of how much you love them and how much they dont care about you. Its a really tough situation and in my personal situation my decision was made for me. It's best to let go, because they don't love you and care enough about you to respect your relationship. Let it go and be with someone who deserves your time!
  • I'm going through that now. He doesn't know for sure that I know. He got so mad that I had suspicions. I talked to the girl he was with and she confirmed it. I love him so much, but I don't think I'll ever trust him again. I don't think anyone should stay with someone so disrespectful. I think I'm about to tell him it's over even though it hurts.
  • Never. A lie is a lie and cheating is being disloyal. I can never live that down.
  • Every single one I've loved I would consider moving on with. Not simply overlooking, but if steps are taken to prevent such deception in the future, I would consider it without an instants hesitation. And it would probably happen.
  • Yeah, I do that now. I try to be an understanding person, and it can be helpful sometimes. If the person I love ever cheated on me, I know it would be for a reason other than to spite me and make me upset, and that's good enough for me.
  • It depends what do you mean cheating because if it something that he is doing all the time then he is definetely not afraid to lose you. Talk to him, tell him to have an open relationship, since he is doing it then you can do it, I am sure that he won’t like it. Try to make him understand how you feel. If he doesn’t believe in monogamy then this person would not be in a relationship. Even if you are trying to keep him your going to lose him at the end if he doesn’t change.
  • I would die for the woman that I'm going to be marrying in November but if she were to cheat on me I would never be able to trust her again. I'd feel betrayed, hurt, and feel as if everything we ever shared had been a lie. It isn't that I love her so much that I'd overlook cheating, it's that I love her so much I know that she would never cheat on me!
  • It wouldn't work that way. I wouldn't make myself a victim like that.
  • I loved someone so much that I overlooked a lot more than his cheating. I spent 7 year with this man. I left him 6 months ago and I have never been happier. Now that I left him he calls me and tells me what I mean to him, he tells me hi is going to change and be the man he always should have been... I will never be with him again, but I hope he can be come the man I wanted him to be!
  • Yup what a sucker i was, but that's because you think that they are the best thing since sliced american bread, the truth of the matter is that you are just blinded by your feelings and your so in love with them that it doesn't matter and the possibly of thinking omg what if they meet someone else and they change or i can make them change, but one day you have to wake up and take a big step back an look outside the window and relize that you are a human being and you have feeling and respect for yourself an relize that they are not worth it anymore an you should have better and you deserve better.
  • i am trying that right now and i wouldnt advise that anybody even consider it! OMG its mental emotoinal psycological torture!!!!!! i wish i were strong enough to leave. love can be such a bitch. but im a lil bit, when i shake myself into the reality of what really lies ahead, the very love i feel WILL turn into hate and ill be able to leave, with a clean cut. but pleassseeeee do not putyourself through this brutal selfinflicted torture. dont be an asshole like me (A GEORGOUS ASSHOLE AT THAT!) suck it up and move on! is it just me or does it sound like im trying to convince myself!!! lol)
  • I've often thought about whether I'd be able to forgive and forget if my wife cheated on me. That would be tough. I promised I'd never give up on my marriage (since I let my first one go too easily), so I have a promise to keep, now. Since I also made that promise to God in my marriage vows, I've decided to leave it in God's hands. If you aren't a Christian, or religious, you'll have to either 'get religion' or use some other determining factor. Either way, if you're asking the question, you're probably closer to leaving than you realize.
  • i think you need to priortize what's important in your life. i dont think anyone can or should love anyone so much that they are willing to overcome the pain they are inflicting. think about it. i know marriage involves many other things like, children, livelihood, family, money, etc. if they are cheating then you should consider your options and leave.
  • Yes, in my last relationship. In the end i realized he would never quit his ways and i sat him down and broke things off, i am not surprised he is already in another rocky relationship.
  • Not me...but it's done all the time. Kinda sad, don't ya think? And for those who do I have one important word: P-R-O-T-E-C-T-I-O-N...no exceptions!
  • Yes and it only hurt worse because I lost my self-respect in the process. In the end he left anyways and I lost precious time which I'll never get back.
  • Im in a sorter of the same position. My bf told me he wanted to sleep around and "experience other girls" then after experiencing one girl in particular he realized i was the one and until today he still texts her and calls her everytime we get in an argument or a fight. I dont know what to do either...i am hating him more and more every day! I wish i could get out but im so weak and everyday the anger gets stronger and stronger! So my advice to u is get out when u can! Dont be like me and have the anger and resentment grow inside u! Its not healthy for u. Dont make someone a priority when they only make u an option!
  • yes i have. And when I finally decided to move on, I looked back at the relationship and realised what a complete waste of time it was and how much better I could have done. The irony is that when I left is when he wanted to commit to me but, by then it was too late. When your in dissfunctional relationships like these it's not untill AFTER you leave that you find out that you could have done much better.
  • i did overlook it. just once. so far, i have no regrets about it, but i would never overlook it again.
  • yes, i'm completely stupid for doing so....now i realized, it's not my loss if he ditch me....coz after, i became stronger and never will i let anyone do it again with me
  • Yes, but I'm not sure that would be called love. More like co-dependency.
  • Been there, done that... Twice (two different girls).
  • I know how you feel. I found my Bf was cheating 2 days ago and already im considering getting back with him. its quite complex the situation but there are pictures involved and people in them who could or could not be him, i love him so much tho. i really want to believe its not him in them.
  • I overlooked a man who I was in love with and had been dating for six months ditching me for one woman, then picking me back up when they split up and then ditching me two months later for another woman he had insisted he was just friends with. He let me know this with the immortal phrase (spoken as I was sitting on his knee trying to give him a kiss) "I don't think Julie would like this" (!!!) Rather than slapping him across the face and walking off, I just accepted the situation, thinking it would end sooner or later and I'd still be there. It did end but I waited a year during which he saw me on the side and talked about her constantly. He told me "if what I have with you ever threatens my relationship with Julie I want you out the door and I'll never see you again". Anyway, to cut a long story short I got my revenge because as soon as he came crawling back to me I was so angry I left him for a man be absolutely hated. When that ended, the first man, the one who cheated on me, offered to date me exclusively and we've been together for ten years. So it doesn't always turn out badly - he turned out to be a wonderful partner once he's made his mind up.
  • I love MYSELF too much to do something like that! And VALUE myself! If I'm with someone who doesn't. . . .they can just go sleep in that OTHER bed they made and wallow in it! Don't need them. Don't want them. The OTHER person is MORE than welcome to them!
  • Hmm...sounds like maybe you think you NEED them more than that you actually LOVE them.
  • If they are cheating on you, you HAVE already lost them. So no.
  • Yes,it doesn't work out in the end.
  • Yep. I decided against it. Worst decision of my life.
  • if your ok with someone cheating then it's ok. but if your not then it's not! Cheating comes in many forms.
  • Absolutely NOT ! Cheat just ONCE and we are FINISHED ; as to me .. you can't go much lower on the human scale.
  • Yes. I found out my boyfriend was cheating on me and it broke my heart at the time. But I didn't want to lose him, so I overlooked it. This was completely unlike me. I have strong values and opinions and I'm not usually afraid to speak my mind, so forgiving him was extremely out of character. A few months later, I actually caught him cheating on me, but I couldn't overlook it again. That's when I realized that not only had I already lost him if he was cheating on me, but that in overlooking it, I had lost myself. Did it hurt to walk away? Yes. Will I ever forget him? No. But the pain I felt at losing him has subsided. Have I done it? Yes. Would I do it again? No way. Relationships come and go, but who you are is one thing you can NEVER afford to lose.
  • No, not ever. There are a lot of nasty things out there and sleeping around can bring any number of them home to your faithful partner. I'd rather be shot in the face by my partner then die of aids because he cared more about his dick getting wet then me and my safety.

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