Why is the middle child always ignored?
by 
Harleyboyaj
ANSWERS: 18
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I am a middle child and I can't really say I have experienced that.
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I'm not sure y but I experiewnced that too since I'm a middle child too. Guess maybe the first child born is adored cos they are the first GOD's gift to their parents and the last one is always the pet cos they are the youngest of all.
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i am the middle child and it seems like for some reason my parents always faverd my older sis and younger sis tho i dont know why.
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You may not want to hear this. i dont think their ever ignored or that the other brothers and sisters are put up higher,(depending on the parent of course.) its just what we learn and hear about. We have always heard since we were little kids that its bad to be the middle chil, so what happens? you expect it. If someone tells you at the begining of a school year that there is this really mean teacher, you will go in beliving she is the worst teacher. if you grow up beliving that the middle child is offten over looked then you will only see evidence supporting that.
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its better than being the first born , were every high expectation your parents ever had is lumped on your shoulders! and if you don't succeed at everyone of them your considered a failure and its better than being the last born ...because your ALWAYS the baby
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I can't believe this question was asked today cos I had a discussion with one of my sister's about this earlier. Apparently the middle child is favoured less because they are not the oldest and not the youngest and more often than not they are not the only boy or only girl. I have a friend with 3 kids and I witness this a lot with her middle child also another of my sister's has 3 kids and the same again I was talking to her the other day and she was all full of talking about her oldest who has just returned from a years travelling then she started talking about her youngest and how she is just about to start a new job. It was only when I asked how her middle child was getting on with the house she just purchased and the wedding she is having in 7 weeks time that she spoke about her. I see this all the time.
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Because the baby is the cutest and the oldest is the smartes. =]
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I'm a middle child, My older brother was first, so he always got the new stuff, and was most interesting to my parents, My younger sister was the first and only girl, she always got her own stu and pretty much gets away with anything she wants (apple of her daddy's eye) and I'm probably the least interesting in the eyes of my parents, but anytime I mention any of this, they all look down on me and call it middle child syndrome, which in their eyes discredits my feelings, but they call it middle child syndrome for some reason. LOL, Life is funny like that sometimes. Great question.
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i dunno - if my parents noticed me once in a while i'd ask them. I'm a middle child too and have noticed it. Your not ignored but you don't have the connection with your parents like the oldest and the youngest do. With the oldest child its protection from b/f's from everything and univercity etc. With the youngest its aww so cute your going out with a girl. Aww i remember when my youngest was his age - there so cute arn't they. Etc etc. Its just the way it works. The middle child isn't loved less by any means there just isn't that relationship that the oldest and the youngest are able to develop.
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I am a middle child and have suffered from low self esteem all my life. I have always been the butt of the jokes and regularly used as a scapegoat for the family problems. This has led to some reckless behaviour, but more recently, an obsession to be better than my siblings in every way and to gain recognition from others. I think the only answer is to cut these people out of my life as the though of going back home makes me feel physically sick and when I am there I suffer severe panic attacks.
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im a middle child 2 older sisters and 2 younger brothers. i get igonred a lot because my parents are so proud of my sisters and always tell my little brothers how cute they are. my brothers alwats get new stuff. and my sisters always get more presents on christmas and for birthdays. being the middle kid sux!!
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Ok so here it is. It sucks now, but when you get older and your parents start nagging your older siblings about their lack of grand kids, and your younger siblings about how immature they are, you'll just smile to yourself and know that it's good to be the middle child.
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"Just hang with your oldest sibling, they won't ignore you!!"
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ugghhh, i have 3 kids and i hear this allllll the time. Not only is she in the middle, but she is also the only girl! She isnt ignored, she has different needs that the other two. the oldest needs rides to and fro, the youngest needs his shoes tied for him, she needs more attention that the other two because she thinks she is ignored!
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i'm a middle child so i can totally relate. i have a younger sister who is 10 years younger than me so i don't include her in this because of the large age gap. growing up i always heard, "don't be rude to your big sister!!!" or "don't be mean to your little brother!" wtf. i remember always being told to be quiet. and if i had a fight with my older sibling i'd get the "she is older, you have to respect her" and if i had a fight with my younger brother i got "he's a baby, stop picking on him." but you know what? it taught me how to deal with both situations so now i'm able to adapt to almost anything socially. both my siblings are shy and quiet. i'm not ;P
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i don't have children but i have two older brothers, the middle child (jimmy) got all of the attention, he was the golden boy who did no wrong. my oldest brother (tommy) was the black sheep (maybe because he really is an ass-hole) and my mom was the only one in the family that liked me, because my dad and brothers didn't like me because i'm a girl; they believed girls were useless.
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While no doubt it differs by family, this was the case in mine. - I was the third of four kids. All of the "firsts" belonged to my older sister. Next was my brother. Anything more "boyish" he did first. Then came me. Finally my younger sister is the baby, and she always got the attention for being youngest. To top it off, both of my older siblings got poor grades in school, and barely graduated. They were often in trouble, and were kicked out of the church. I got good grades (usually Bs) amd stayed out of trouble. Other than being thankful that I wasn't a handful like my older siblings, I was never an issue.
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I don't know, but my little neice, Lili, is almost 5. She is the sweetest thing and always "looks" like she feels left out (make sense?) I always make sure to give her lots of hugs and tell her how much I love her. I would anyway, of course, but sometimes I over-emphasize to give her more confidence.
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