ANSWERS: 34
  • If you have tried and failed you cannot force friendship or even tolerance. Just leave it alone and get on with things maybe in time things will change.
  • I wouldn't bother with them anymore.
  • If you've done the best you can, there's nothing more you can do. They may eventaully come round and talk about it, or they may not. It's just best that you get on with your life, and don't let it get you down.
  • Eh. It's not worth your time or energy at this point.
  • Try to find some peace with the situation, at least for yourself. You cannot change what someone else does, or decides to do in the future. You cannot change how they feel. If you feel the need to, write a letter to them expressing your desire to work things out whenever they are ready to do so. Let them know that you are leaving the door open for them, but that you are not going to let the situation continue to cause you any stress or pain. If you don't wish to do that, wish them a happy life and say goodbye.
  • Either confront it head on, or just move on.
  • Let them be.
  • Not a damn thing. Some people are unforgiving. That's their loss, not yours. Maybe in time they will see the situation differently. That will give you time to decide if you want to have someone in your life who is testy or temperamental. It may be a good thing to know this personality trait now, rather than later.
  • You drop them like a hot potato. They are meeting none of your friendship needs - why have them around?
  • I don't deal with it. It is their issue - not mine :)
  • ...He's now my boyfriend >> Seriously. We hated each other for a few years! haha. Now, in all seriousness, I wouldn't even give the person another thought. Unless this is a family member or close friend of yours?
  • I would suggest leaving them alone. In time, they will either come around or they won't. Either way, you have extended the offer of forgiveness/friendship which has been rejected. You can do no more.
  • If the person refuses to talk with you about the situation, or tell you what's wrong... Then there isn't much else you can do. I know that the situation hurts. However, this person probably isn't the friend you thought they were. A true friend wouldn't act that way. If you have done nothing wrong, then the problem is with your friend. In the long run, you are better off without that person in your life.
  • Tell them, "Fair enough. Fu** off."
  • Find a new person to befriend.
  • well, lolz i think u should ignore them if they are bothering you and if they are not bothering you then talk to them and tell them how u feel about this situation...!! sometimes is good to talk things out and i think u should do it.....! if u think this is a goo =d answer then comment my answer .. thanks
  • I move on. I figure if they are too imature to discuss something that caused the rift (if we were even friends inthe 1st place) they are too immature for me. Why waste energy!!
  • Well, if they're being so immature that they won't even talk about it, I'd say they're not worth having as a friend anyway. A real friend would talk it out, I think.
  • Let her be. If she wants to try again, it is up to her. I tried opening the door twice and it got slammed in my face. To this day, I still don't know what happened to make it fall apart. I have my ideas, but they may be wrong too.
  • cut all ties and move on
  • As long as they leave you alone, ignore them. find other friends
  • I would not even bother to deal with a hateful person. Who needs a person like that in their life?
  • You are wise to understand the potential of losing the group dynamic. Unfortunately, I let ONE red-headed witch lead me to quit a club. How often do you see this person? Does anyone else also feel the same? How have they shown that they "hate" you? If you are comfortable with the rest of the group, I'd say just ignore her. But it sounds like she doesn't care about you, so I'd take the position of not caring about her. IF you were to ever send another letter, keep a copy. I found out the hard way that someone like you are dealing with will twist what you said, as they say CYA.
  • give them space hope they come around and move on
  • that is their problem. They are the ones missing out on a good time.
  • Write them a letter explaining that if they want a good relationship with God, they have to have good relations with their fellow human. If they don't want to reconcile and respond to this.... not much you can do. If you were in the wrong, offer a sincere apology too.
  • You just coop and deal with it but sometimes it is not easy to.
  • i don't, they are not worth the time or energy it takes to deal with them, if you've apoligized, relax you've done all you can and it is their loss not yours
  • Jesus taught on this subject and His words have freed me from bitterness and misunderstanding in my relationships. Before I became a Christian, I was often times a slave to my emotions, hatred, fear, bitterness, etc...regarding personal conflict with others. Jesus was called the Prince of Peace for several reasons - among the most important reasons are His teachings related to resolving personal conflict. I now know his Peace and have strong relationships now built on understanding and reconciliation. See Below for a great resources on these lessons. http://www.peacemaker.net/site/c.aqKFLTOBIpH/b.958145/k.7ECF/Foundational_Principles.htm I taught on this subject in Uganda while on mission there earlier this year. It's amazing. You asked a question that was asked of me by a young man there. I'll give you the same answer that I gave him. In Matthew 18:15-18 Jesus outlines how we are to deal with a person with interpersonal conflict. In this lesson, we see that Jesus expects us to seek reconciliation, but also outlines what is expected of the other party too. This serves as a solid rule of thumb for conflict resolution and sets the expectation that if the other party does not seek peace as well - you are able to walk away having done what was right anyway. In this, we see the heart of the Gospel itself. When Jesus said "Blessed are the Peacemakers for they will be called children of God," he was pointing out that those who sought peace were freed from the slavery of bitterness and hatred now entitled to the inheritance of the King - peace, peace of mind, love for our neighbor, prayer for our enemies, and of course, overwhelming sense of joy. This is sometimes easier said than done though. Jesus also said to take the plank of wood out of our own eye before pointing out the speck of sawdust in our brother's eye. This hyperbole is designed to highlight how we're often blind to our own faults. Be sure to examine your role in the conflict and be prepared to apologize for ANY part you have played in it. Even if it's only 5%, you probably have something you wish you had done differently. James says the Bible is lke a mirror showing us our strengths and our faults. Seeking forgiveness for your role in the conflict surprises and often confounds the other person so much so they're willing to reconcile and apologize for their role too. I've seen this happen over and over again. However, should the other person not want to discuss or reconcile after you have fully admitted your wrong in this conflict - you have done YOUR part. The rest is on them. Some people are so hurt or insecure that when they have something against someone they are afraid to let it go. By concentrating on your faults or wrongs, they temporarily forget about their own. This is human, but it's only temporary and this will make them unhappy in the long run. We're never happy for long when we point out others' faults to feel superior. I will pray for you and recommend that you pray for your the person you have conflict with. It's hard to stay mad at someone when you pray for them. Please keep me posted on how this works out. :) Clay
  • Why does it bother you if someone hates you. Not everyone in life is going to like you. If you have done nothing wrong to deserve it just ignore them, Their loss not yours.
  • If they have a problem with me, its their problem. I might make some sort of effort with the person if they are involved with someone I do care about, but there's only so far I'm willing to go for someone who refuses to give anything back.
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  • Then you just go on with life. You can't control what they think and you shouldn't let what they think control you.
  • Don't care.If someone doesnt like me thats their problem.Same if i don't like someone.

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