Is there a difference between being a loner and being lonely?
by 
Professor StacieJ
ANSWERS: 19
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At least for me, being a loner is a choice. I doubt too many people chose to be lonely.
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Loners enjoy their own company whereas lonely people don't want to be alone, but are. Loners are alone by choice- that's how i have come to understand it anyhow.
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being a loner is a choice and being lonely is also a choice but it is seeing being alone as a negative choice.
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being a loner is a certain type of personality, like being introverted. feeling lonely is completely different, its a feeling.
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Yes. There is a BIG difference.
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Loners are people who have made themselves that way. They choose to separate themselves from others. But almost anyone can become lonely, feeling without company or a special someone, with no connections they can feel to people. It is usually not something they want or looked for.
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If you're a loner but not lonely then you're just a loner. If you're a loner that is lonely then you're a lonely loner.
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Saying loners choose to be apart or choose to be lonely is so very wrong. People described as loners who enjoy their own company are often the most lonely people on the planet. Many suffer from social phobias, self image and anxiety issues, even mild autism in some cases which makes it very difficult for them to socialise with others. Sometimes their problems are so bad they even cut themselves off from their families and suicides amongst "loners" is common. If you know a "loner", please go out of your way to make friends, but on their terms, you may be saving a life.
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a lonely person has friends. a loner. doesn't.
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The lonely yearn for the company of others. The loner embraces solitude.
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Loners do not need to be in the company of others for a large portion of time. Lonely people do, but cannot find others to share company with. Please see this article in Psychology Today for an insightful article on "loners". It will explain how they are not, in general, social phobes or psychotic persons. Just individualists. http://psychologytoday.com/rss/pto-20070320-000001.html
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yep, or you could mix them together and be a lonely loner! i am on certain days when i go to the library... :) but that's by choice!
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Loners are people who generally stay away from social contact. Lonely people desire social contact, but don't have enough. You can be one or both. Oh, and don't go pestering loners because you pity them or want to "save" them. It's annoying and might even make things worse, if there's even anything wrong at all.
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Yes - a loner may not feel loney whatsoever - he may enjoy being alone - I often do myself and I'm certainly not "lonely".
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Absolutley, being lonely means no one wants to be with you, and being a loner is you want to be with no one. So one is inflicted, and the other a decision!
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i think theres a big difference between the two.. cause me,i'm such a loner..but i'm hapi for being that, i'm a loner because i can express myself more when i'm at alone..i have so many friends and i also love socializing with other people..but at the end of the day,i always tell to myself that being a loner is what i really love..actions have no limit..loner is a choice it's my decision,but being lonely is a feeling..feeling that you don't like but it come and happens,,because you don't want to be alone but no one would like to mingle with you.. :)
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for me its totally diff from each other loner seems to be like your the one who choose to be alone while a lonely thing means that your the one being left even if you dont want to^+^
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Being a loner is what you are - someone who prefers to live a solitary life. Lonely is how you may feel when you're alone. A loner is unlikely to feel lonely.
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Being a loner is being alone because you want to be, where as you can be lonely in a HUGE crowd of people... Loner is a chosen physical/emotional state. Lonely is strictly an emotional one and isnt by choice.
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