If you are certain that he wont ever know that you cheated if you don't tell him, than don't tell him.Some things are better left unsaid.

You don't hurt a person you love by cheating, disrespecting them or abusing them. Maybe you are both guilty of these things. This is not a healthy relationship. Both of you deserve honesty. Your relationship sounds toxic.

you said it yourself, you're young. its not right and by the sound of it you seem to be really sorry. Just dont make this a habit

If you are extremely young, and your relationship is very difficult, perhaps you shouldn't be in the relationship at all. This is a time in your life for fun. Dating and going out with friends would be much more fun and far less complicated. If you have cheated, it is a good sign that you should be free from a relationship and able to experience life independently. Just a suggestion. Best of luck!

well me im young im only 18 and my boyfriend is 27 an we are soo in love but the thing is i also cheated on him too when he was in jail i dont know why we had all these big plans and everything plus he is soo hawt so why would i right good qeustion i dont know either so imstuck in the same perdiciment

Eh, my boyfriend was in the same position as you before. I ended up finding out on my own. No one really told me. The only reason I know for sure is because it was confirmed, though. My advice to you? If you don't tell him, make sure that you at least never do it again, EVER....and definitely cut all ties with the person you cheated with. Get checked just in case.

Don't tell him. You already said that things between you are difficult and you are in a bad situation, so you two are probably not going to be together much longer anyway. If Iam correct, then it won't matter that you didn't tell him because it wouldn't have made things better, it would have made them worse. If I am wrong, and you actually do stay with him and things end up going great and the subject of marriage comes up, then if you haven't forgotten about this by then, you might want to reconsider at that time and get this off your chest before you spend the rest of your life with this guy. If you made it that far, it shouldn't bother him at that time when you mention this.

If you know you did something wrong, you ain't that young.

I will probably be the only one to tell you to TELL him. It is only fair to him. Relationships without trust is like trying to make movie without camera, you can only get so far. It seems like if you are going out and cheating then you don't really want to be this relationship. You said it yourself, you are young. Maybe you are starting to realize that this isn't the guy you want to be with... My fiance and I broke because we didn't have similar views on many things and we didn't realize it until about 6 months before our wedding. We both sat down and had a long discussion on how we viewed our lives and we realized that day that it was pretty much the end of it. We never had a fight, we never hated each other, we just had different perspectives on where we wanted out lives to go. I wish her well in everything. Be mature about this. It's pointless to beat a dead horse. If you don't see yourself with this person, then why be with them? Because it's the "safe bet"? That being said, there is a difference between infatuation and love. If you are infatuated with this other guy, usually those feelings will dissipate and you will find yourself really missing your current boyfriend. Be 100% sure before you break things off. The question you have to ask yourself is: What is the end game for your dating? Again, my advice. Tell him. It's the adult thing to do.

I have to say if a woman tells me they cheated on me i end it right then and there for whatever reason. You can justify it in your mind however you like, but the opportunity will come up again and you'll be faced with the same decisions to make. Why should he believe you'll make a different decision next time? But I ONLY stabbed you in the back because i was young and immature. Next time the knife won't be so sharp and might not even break the skin.... I don't accept 'sorry, I won't do it again, it was stupid of me, etc." Words mean spit to me. Deeds speak MUCH louder than mere words. Anyone can spit out words and turn on the tears and they're supposed to dig the knife out magically? If your begging forgiveness go to church for that, but in love cheating is unpardonable in my book. On the other hand..he might just be the sucker you always wanted. keep trying.

Heads up!!!!!!! This question is from 2007!!!!! I guess what ever happened happened. Time to call off the advice.

Hell no you should NOT tell and NO, you were not wrong.