It's difficult to read anything into this to be perfectly honest. Here are a few questions to ask yourself: Does he live far away thus limiting dates to once a week? Is his work schedule extremely demanding such that he only has one day to actually see you, so he compensates with many phone calls? Are you dating exclusively, does he see other people, or have you even had that discussion? I assume the answer to the latter is no since you refer to him as your boyfriend. Is it possible that his cash flow is a little tight and he can only afford to take you out once a week and is too embarrassed to say so? What have his past relationships been like? Is he just new to dating and still learning the ropes? If none of those yield any answers then perhaps you are onto something. Try to gently feel out what his reservations are without subjecting him to an interrogation. If he is afraid of real relationships that will scare him off real fast. I advise you not to read to much into his dating style unless you know something we don't or your have a strong gut feeling regarding what you have already read into this situation. This is indeed a stumper! Best of luck.

Interesting statistic I just read, men are 50% less likely to marry after 40 if they have never married before. Well, Jove Sky, I read your answer and I have a good story for you that might help. I met a guy, he asked me to marry him and live with him. He's 39 and has never married. He got cold feet and broke off the engagment AND the living situation. Sigh. I aptly labeled him a commitment-phobe. But, he didn't want to lose me. Oh, my. I calmy presented to him that I thought he had some commitment issues to work through. I moved out and told him to give me a call when he got it together. We eventually compromised. I took the marriage pressure off of him and agreed to settle for living together. He was relieved and I didn't mind the compromise. I stipulated that he still had to work through his commitment issues though and he did. After 4 months if working through it together, we ended up with a much better relationship despite the change in commitment parameters. Perhaps you are exerting pressure to move to the next level without realizing it and he is panicking. He does seem to fear commitment.Hurt in the past or not, your boyfriend just might not be a commitment type. If that's the case and you each want different things it is better to find out now then later. It also sounds like he has quite a busy schedule, maybe he is still figuring out how to fit a relationship into his life without giving up what little of his he has. Or he may just feel overwhelmed in general and it is showing as fear of commitment instead. Tell him you appreciate his phone calls, but that the time he spends on them would be better spent in person (add it up, minutes on phone per day x's 7 days a week I bet it's a couple of hours total). Explain to him that you know he's busy, but that you enjoy being with him and would like to see him more often. Ask him if there is anything you can do to help free up some time for him to make this happen. The TV remote. Everyone needs "me time" to deal with nagging chores and other things in life or to just do something they want to. Don't feel bad, that is normal at times. Heck, I took a vacation to London last year and left the boyfriend at home. We have learned that it's nothing personal when one of us calls for me time. Good luck.

I know its hard not seeing him in a week, I go sometimes 3 or 4 weeks not seeing mine. We have been together around 5 years and its gettig harder not seein him on a dailt basis. Hes a workaholic and travels alot for his job. Money is high on his priority list. He does call me everyday and we will talk for 1-2 hours a day but I know the calls are not the same a physical quality time. My advice to you is stay strong, and just think about how much you love him and if you are willing to live with it this way. I would take the first comment into consideration alot, present him with something of such and see what happens.. Good luck.

Please give some more details, like how far apart do you stay, is either of you working, etc..

It could be difficult schedules as well. I know when I dated my hubby we didn't spend all that my time together in the beginning. This was due to having schedules that were difficult to coordinate and other obligations, without knowing more about your situation it's hard to say.

Did you ever stop to think that he might be working and can't see you every day.

calls everyday....see's you once a week ...I'd say thats commitment

No. I think you're reading too much into the situation.

It is possible. I was in a relationship with a similar situation, but then on top of it, when either of us had something to do on a Saturday (the only day my bf didn't go in to work), we wouldn't see each other for two weeks. Sometimes it became three. This made me feel like he was pulling away, though in all fairness, he was giving me a majority of his free time. He started to feel my expectations were indicative of pressuring him to commit, so he just stopped calling me back. This is a behavior pattern for the commitment phobic person. Read 'Men Who Can't Love' and you'll have your answer. If your boyfriend feels pressured at work (or uses work to avoid closeness), then don't pressure him to see you more. If he asks for space, totally agree and say 'you're right, maybe we both need some space; this will give us a chance to date other people and see what else is out there.' Basically he needs to know that you're independent/confident enough to let him go because commitmentphobes fear being trapped or closed in (like claustrophobia, but in relationships). I would say limit the calls - don't talk to him on the phone EVERY day. Don't be too available - not playing games, just really go out and live your life and miss some of his calls. Tell him you're busy next weekend. If you create some space, he will work at trying to get closer to you. It's not the best way to have a relationship if you're the type of person that wants togetherness, but this is the way it goes with commitmentphobes. And only they can decide they have a commitment issue, and to go get help for it.

He may be afraid that if you spend all your spare time together the sparkle and excitement will wear off and your relationship will become monotonous and commonplace. He may want to keep just enough distance that you don't get tired of one another. Have you heard the old saying "familiarity breeds contempt"? He may be afraid of that. But if he talks with you on the phone each day he obviously enjoys you and wants to stay in close contact. I wouldn't worry about it. I'm a bit like this myself but it doesn't mean I don't love the person!

It really depends on a lot of things..like the depth of conversation. What ya do today..did you eat.. how's yer brother doin with that class...etc.. length of time together..1 month? 3 weeks? 1 year? Does he work a lot? Is he short of money? Hard to say, but dont jump to conclusions..

Not at all. Guys need time to themselves too. You are talking to him everyday and when you start seeing each other once a week its more of a treat to him. Make him want you more. Remember, the longer he has to wait to see you, the fonder his heart becomes for you. During the rest of the week, keep yourself busy with your friends, school, and family and let him know that you are busy, but will give him time at least once a week to see him. Let him feel privileged that he at least gets to see you once a week. With this he will want to see you more. Guys are usually afraid of commitment if us girls become too demanding or are too available for them. You will only know with more time wether or not your boyfriend is commitment phobic. Btw, my boyfriend and I have dated for 8 months now, we talk on the phone everyday and get to see each other once a week sometimes twice a week. This guy is really crazy about me and wants to get married. It really depends on what type of guy youre dating. Hope this helps